Is it normal to stop being excited for a new baby?
Q. Last December my husband surprised me with a gift that made me the happiest ever, it was the best gift he could have ever given me. He said he wanted to have another baby. We already have a five year old son, and although I always wanted more ...
A. 12 September 2011: I agree that a serious talk is in order, and even marriage counseling if necessary. It may be normal to have some apprehension over a new baby, but it is NOT normal to have a sudden, huge change in behavior. That is almost always an indication ... (read in full...)
Husband Doesn't Give Me Access to Any Money
Q. I am a stay-home mother to a two year old daughter and a one month old son. Before our first child was born I worked full time but my husband and I felt it was important for one of us to be around while our kids are little. He makes more money than ...
A. 12 September 2011: Your situation is not only unfair, it is also unsafe. What if something happens to him? How will have access to money so you can live until he is well again? He may be a little OCD and not abusive, but one spouse controlling all the money is not ... (read in full...)
Husband has been acting really shady lately
Q. I need some advice... My husband has been acting real shady lately... He'll be on his phone in another room, and then jumps when I walk in the door. He carries his phone into the bathroom with him, won't go anywhere, even in the house, without his ...
A. 12 September 2011: If your gut is telling you to pay attention to the situation, pay attention to it.... (read in full...)
Sex life going downhill and don't know what to do about it!
Q. I'm in need of some serious help/advice. I need to know how I can spice things up in the bedroom with my husband. Lately our sex life has gone down hill, he can't last like he used to and half the time he doesn't even seem interested anymore. For ...
A. 12 September 2011: Try to ask him what's going on with him. If he's worried about it, as well, he should probably go to the doctor to rule out a physical cause. He may have something going on at work or elsewhere that is making him very stressed out and "not in the ... (read in full...)
Husband on websites saying he's single!
Q. my husband as been going on dating sites saying hes single, phoning and texting women why...
A. 12 September 2011: This is not good. This might be a good time to try to figure out what's going on in your marriage and ask your husband if he'd be willing to go to some marital counseling with you. If he's willing to go, great. If not, you will have to decide ... (read in full...)
Can you be married and fall in love with another person?
Q. Is it possible to fall in love with someone else when you are married?...
A. 12 September 2011: Unfortunately, yes. But in order for that to happen, you would've made a choice at some point to open your heart in a special way to someone other than your spouse. Perhaps the marriage wasn't going well, for whatever reason, and another person ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is marrying another girl, which is now making me stressed!
Q. My boyfriend is married with some other girl. She doesn't keep him happy in any way. She is arrogant and doesn't respect him. He himself tells me all this. He is 15 years elder than me. We had three years intense relationship. I suggested him to get ...
A. 1 September 2011: You deserve someone who will love you and you alone, someone who is not already married and with children. Please leave him. This man should have known better than to have any relationship with you. Although it's difficult, you can get through ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a whore, but he's the one who wants to mess around.
Q. hi everyone. I really need som help. I dont know wgat to do anymore. My boyfriend and I have been together for the last 5 years, but now he hates me.. He calls me dirty names and accuses me of cheating. All the time. He says that he wants to play ...
A. 31 August 2011: Your boyfriend is abusing you. The problem is NOT that he can't see how much you love him. He does see how much you love him, so he feels very secure in treating you terribly, knowing that you won't leave him no matter how awfully he treats you. He ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 31 August 2011: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/retrograde-jealousy.html Here is a very good discussion about this issue. Good luck to you.... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men??
Q. Hi all, So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and am very surprised to see absolutely no r...
A. 29 August 2011: Maybe your messages are too lengthy and the women get the impression that once they meet you, you'll leech on to them???? Other than that, I'm not sure what to say. I met my current boyfriend online and had a date or two with other men I had met ... (read in full...)
His parents made my life hell, and now that we've moved away he's withdrawn
Q. My husband is driving me crazy. We have been married for almost 20 years - when we first married he insisted that we live close to his parents who constantly meddled and controlled him making my life miserable. They had 24 hour access to our house ...
A. 29 August 2011: I've been researching narcissism lately, so I see narcissists everywhere. Despite that, what you're describing sounds like you're being victimized by a family of narcissists. There's lots of info about it online, so look into it and see if you find ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing my mind because of my cheating boyfriend!
Q. I met this guy 8 months ago, things went really fast and I fell so in love with him and unfortunately still am despite the hurt he gave me. After a month of being with him I discovered he lied about a few things and I made it clear that I wan...
A. 29 August 2011: Please be aware that as soon as you break it off, he may try very hard to keep you tangled in his web. Follow anglvette's advice and go cold turkey. Do not let him suck you back in. On the other hand, he may blame you and say terrible things ... (read in full...)
How do you get out of the friend zone?
Q. How does one get out of the friend zone? How does one be a gentlemen? what does it mean to be mature, mysterious, and cool. im trying to get that new image just i need a good definition on what they are. ...
A. 29 August 2011: Know yourself, know the direction you're going, and don't change that direction for any romantic interest - this will make you an interesting person. Listen more than you speak, especially if you're interested in a particular girl. Practice good ... (read in full...)
Why does cheating thrill me?
Q. Why does the thought and act of cheating thrill me? I have cheated on my gf twice now both times on purpose. I still love her but I like to cheat I don't want to hurt her....
A. 29 August 2011: It's awesome that you're willing to look at your behavior and try to figure out what's going on. You might be a sex addict or a narcissist. You might have feelings that seem like love toward your GF, but you love yourself much more than you love ... (read in full...)
How can I handle my critical mother?
Q. For the past years, I have lived with the criticisms my mother threw at me, but it seems I can't deal with it anymore. So I really need advice from you today. Today, my mother started to complain about me when I had just woken up! I woke up fr...
A. 29 August 2011: http://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/ Check out this website and see if anything seems familiar. And read all of this, too: http://parrishmiller.com/narcissists.html. If this seems to describe your mother, please seek help because you do ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing my mind because of my cheating boyfriend!
Q. I met this guy 8 months ago, things went really fast and I fell so in love with him and unfortunately still am despite the hurt he gave me. After a month of being with him I discovered he lied about a few things and I made it clear that I wan...
A. 29 August 2011: You're not an idiot! You're caught in a spider web which he purposely built to keep you right where he wants you, which is under his control. He is a liar and probably a cheater. This has nothing to do with anything you are or anything you did. ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get over jealousy over my wife's sexual partners?
Q. I am 46 years old. My wife is 37. About six months ago, we were doing a book together called "All About Me", as a way to build intimacy. Unfortunately what the book did was practically ruin my life. A portion of the book asked what our number of ...
A. 6 August 2011: I don't know how this fits into the discussion, but I want to mention it because I've found it interesting. My boyfriend suffers from RJ; I don't. When I start imagining him with past lovers, when the images come to a certain point, I feel what I ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 6 August 2011: @Yos: That DOES shed light on the issue! So our human tendency to label people, then "file" them into a particular group and treat them according to the way we believe that group deserves to be treated is at play here. While this categorization ... (read in full...)
When life's a female dog...
Q. ... haha sorry about the title. Lame i know :). I also know that this may sound dramatic, emo, cliche, cheesy, etc etc etc... BUT I had a momentary moment of absolute peace when i thought of this... When you're in a situation that just t...
A. 28 July 2011: Where there's life, there's hope. Good article, friend, and a breath of fresh air for those who might need a reminder to enjoy life as much as possible!... (read in full...)
He feels like the love of my life...and I just don't know what to do!
Q. I have lost the man I have loved the most and whom I still think is "the one". We are both 29. We had an instant connection and our relationship was fantastic. We shared so many things in common and really supported one another in each other's ...
A. 28 July 2011: I'm sorry to say that I must agree with eric.troy. I hope you've kept the receipts, etc, you need to prove what you paid for the items in his house, and also the emails or whatever you have to prove that you were buying those items because you were ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 28 July 2011: @Yos, I have a question for you, wondering if you might have any insight about since you do have much knowledge about this subject. As I've read many posts and comments across the web, I see men who suffer from RJ calling women sluts and whores, ... (read in full...)
Retrograde jealousy
Q. DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
A. 24 July 2011: @JustHelpingAgain, I find it interesting that one of the "groups" you mention compares RJ to being like a racial prejudice, because my bf, who suffers from RJ, is very racially prejudiced. It drives me crazy! Maybe people in the group who have ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get over jealousy over my wife's sexual partners?
Q. I am 46 years old. My wife is 37. About six months ago, we were doing a book together called "All About Me", as a way to build intimacy. Unfortunately what the book did was practically ruin my life. A portion of the book asked what our number of ...
A. 20 July 2011: Oh, the agonies of those who suffer from RJ, and the agonies they pour out upon those they love! None of us choose such pain, but here we are in it. How do we apply love? How do we apply forgiveness? My partner doesn't need my forgiveness for ... (read in full...)
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