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writes:... haha sorry about the title. Lame i know :). I also know that this may sound dramatic, emo, cliche, cheesy, etc etc etc... BUTI had a momentary moment of absolute peace when i thought of this...When you're in a situation that just totally sucks balls e.g. you've put yourself into a a right mess or someone or something pushed you into a right mess.. and you feel like there is no hope.... and crying seems to be the only option just...!!!!!!!!SMILE!!!!!!!.. (and maybe force a measly laugh too)...I know its been said before over and over and over! Sooo much that it's like a broken record and you just want to take it out of the record player and smash it against the wall then maybe throw.it.on.the.floor.and.stamp.on.it.like.a.crazy FOOL..... but...please still listen, pretty please with whatever fruit you like on top..If the situation you're in is a b**ch then smile at the b**ch.Its probably the LAST thing you'd do but i don't care, just try it! it may or may not help you get a momentary moment of peace. Just ignoring all the bad things and sit there in silence and smile. close your eyes. breath in 8 counts, breath out 8 counts. Clear your head of any pain or irritation. This way you can control the next thing coming. It may help you think clearly and achieve a solution to your emotions and difficult situation. it might not.It doesn't matter but by smiling at a bad situation it may actually distract your brain for a millisecond away from the bad situation. But that millisecond may count towards clear thinking and omnipotence. It's like they say, by smiling you're beginning to make the best out of a bad moment.I'm sorry if some of this doesn't help because i basicly put this in as fast as i thought of it. The realisation of calm and clear thinking really helped me. Before i wrote this i was madn and angry as f**k but i did exactly what i just wrote and it kinda helped, and i thought damn i could help someone with this simple tip. Gawd i've gone on long enough.Peace out AND smil€!!! x x x
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reader, Abella  +, writes (25 August 2011):
 Hi You are so correct. The best way to to treat any B^^#% is to do the opposite of what they expect. It destablises these nasty people. I agree Smile at them.Another bit of advice I was give was from a relative who said "act like a duck" = all serene on the surface and paddle like crazy below the water line. where people are never aware of just how much effort you are putting in to achieve what you do. Many people will try to under value you in life. That does not make them right. And it does not mean that you have to take any notice of such losers.When you are dealing with a real certified prize B^^#% then look up Biderman's Chart of Coercion - the original version in the boxes. All forms of bullying follow the same escalation of violence. The only difference is the intensity. So whether it just be the school payground bully or the work boss who is intolerable or the abusive spouse or partner or institutional violence then it still follows the same route. Another more extended version is also added here, though I prefer the more succinct chart I refer to above.http://www.refocus.org/bidermans-chart-of-coercion.htmlSome of this violence may end in Ostracism = excludes you or will not talk to you any more.Some may result in petty nasty cruel behavior = spreads malicious stories about you that are untrue.Some may end in physical or psyychological violenceAnd some bullying has ended in the person being so injured in an attack that they end in hospital or worse.But whatever the intensity it is unacceptable and you are NOT to blame and you should NOT have to endure such bad behavior.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (1 August 2011):
 Awesome article :)
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reader, Starmonster888 +, writes (31 July 2011):
 "if the situation you're in is a bitch, then smile at the bitch"
Classic.
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reader, rile962 +, writes (28 July 2011):
Where there's life, there's hope. Good article, friend, and a breath of fresh air for those who might need a reminder to enjoy life as much as possible!
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reader, megfaichney +, writes (28 July 2011):
 theres also a saying" lifes a bitch and then you turn into one"i have over the past year had alot off negative things happen in my life so much so i didnt want to carry on,i gave up my f/t stressful job i have health issues family/friend problems and in febuary this year i gave myself a good shake down and told myself stop this car wreck of a life and do whats best for me well i did for the first time in 47yrs in my life im not letting other people put demands on me or put me down or just be negative it was like cleaning out my wardrobe yes i lost alot of people in my life but it was my choice for once i live my life fuller,i help other people with health probs like me i smell the air and enjoy my home and my loved ones say im a better person for it,its my time i know it sounds selfish but im the most selfless person youd know,LIFE is not a rehersal dont wait around for it to start its already started,but you must do whats good for you and the gift of life be safe!
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