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writes:How does one get out of the friend zone? How does one be a gentlemen? what does it mean to be mature, mysterious, and cool. im trying to get that new image just i need a good definition on what they are. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAppericate the help! thx! i guess ill just be confident and see where that goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): First off, be yourself. If this girl just wants to be friends only, then there isn't anything you can do. You shouldn't try to be someone else for anyone else. Trying to please others by changing yourself will only lead to regret and resentment later.Now, what girls like is confidence. Do you know why the "jock" gets the girl, because he's confident in himself, even if he's a total jerk! You don't have to be a jerk. Just believe in yourself and be who you are. A girl who really likes you will come along. Keep an open mind.As for this particular girl, it isn't impossible to go from friends to more. But, she has to be interested. Girls will do a lot of touching, like brush you on the arm or hand, as long as their not shy. Or flirt (but some girls flirt with everyone.) But, sometimes the only way you can know for sure is be brave and ask her. The worst she can say is no, which sounds like death but it isn't.
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reader, rile962 +, writes (29 August 2011):
Know yourself, know the direction you're going, and don't change that direction for any romantic interest - this will make you an interesting person. Listen more than you speak, especially if you're interested in a particular girl. Practice good manners, kindness, and respect toward everyone, and also do not tolerate mistreatment toward yourself (this is called "setting boundaries) - this will make you a gentleman. Let a girl you're interested in get to know you slowly, over time, and don't overwhelm her with too much attention, especially in the beginning - this will make you mysterious. Take care of personal grooming and dress nicely and somewhat fashionably (whatever that means to you) - this will begin to move you to the "cool" category. As for maturity, thinking carefully about the words you speak and the actions you take, plus taking responsibility for the things that are your responsibility, will help you mature, though some maturity is a matter of brain development and can't be rushed. Watch interactions carefully between others to see what works and doesn't work. And develop empathy. Empathy is a skill that will help you throughout your lifetime. Best wishes to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): Tell her with a smile: "You look gorgeous today" while touching "just very quick subtle touch" her face with the tip of your fingers.
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