Is not bleeding after your first time normal?
Q. hi i am worried, if you do not bleed after having sex for the first time normal? so many of my friends said that after their first time they bled.. but i didnt and i havent used tampons either.. is this normal? ...
A. 20 July 2008: I had the same experience as you...not everyone is the same and I think we were just lucky :)
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Did I cheat or did I not cheat? I'm so confused....
Q. Ok, so the guy that I am dating (but he claims we are not in a relationship "JUST dating") stopped speaking to me for two weeks. I thought he was not coming back. History: Long story short, (about 3 years ago) I was married for a year and my no...
A. 1 July 2008: I don't think that this counts as cheating as such, you thought you were not in a relationship and therefore were free to do what you wanted. However, if it is making you feel guilty you might want to tell him to ease your wn conscience.
Does ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my first time will hurt!?
Q. Im thinking of having sex with my boyfriend , but im worried about the pain. I have a horse and therefore i ride alot , ive rode all my life and im also very sporty ive been told that by doing sports that that can make it less painfull ? so do you ...
A. 24 June 2008: i didnt experience pain my first time at all (lucky me!) but i think thats because i wasn't expecting it therefore i wasnt worried and tensed up.
take a lot of time over foreplay and do not rush into having sex. it may be uncomfortable at first as... (read in full...)
Is this just a bad patch or should I consider ending it?
Q. I am starting to think that I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend. We have been together for over a year and lately it seems that everything he does irritates me, even his breathing. I am insecure about his ex as he still has a picture ...
A. 18 June 2008: Thanks but I think I was just stressing about things as I am having problems finding work and with my parents. We had a bit of a chat and he was really considerate and caring and things are back on track now :)... (read in full...)
If a guy says he dumped his ex because SHE used him for sex, but he pressurises his new for sex, what does that tell you?
Q. If a guy tells you he hates "skanks" and "sluts", but he himself tries to sleep with every girl he goes out with on the first date, then how can he say that? If a guy says he dumped his ex gf because SHE used him for sex, but he puts pressure on his ...
A. 18 June 2008: It means hes a guy. They all have double standards, they're allowed to sleep around and girls aren't. Him denying it could mean that he doesn't want you to think of him like that. Or it could be him trying to get in your pants. You have ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy and the Pill... am I worrying unnecessarily?
Q. i went on the pill recently, and had unprotected sex just three days after i had started on it, meaning i wouldnt have been protected by the pill. i carryed on taking my pill, and have just come off for my 7 day break. i am experiancing a period, ...
A. 18 June 2008: Being on the pill can make periods sorer at first, cause it sorta messes up your system at first. If you really are worried then you should take a pregnancy test or see your doctor. However, its probably better to wait until your next period t... (read in full...)
Please help us with our sexy problem...
Q. My boyfriend and I, who have been together for a year in a long distance relationship, have not had full sex for 3 months. We had full sex for the first time 8 months into the relationship but it was extremely painful for me. I put this down to ...
A. 18 June 2008: Another thing is to try and relax, painful experiences can make people tense up without realising...making the pain even worse.... (read in full...)
My friend told me I was ugly and we haven't talked since, what's going on?
Q. my friend just told me i was ugly! now i dont know what to do she just said it so randomly and shes my best friend. we were just walking home and she said it and then walked off. i think she was ditching me? we havent tlaked for 2 weeks whats going ...
A. 18 June 2008: I don't think thats the kind of person you want to have as a friend if they turn round and say something like that to be honest.
It could have been a bet or a dare, but still not a nice thing to do, especially to your best friend.
I think you s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hinted I should go to the gym more often. I got really upset about this and even shed a few tears...
Q. Right, so last night my boyfriend and I were relaxing in front of the t.v and having a chat, then he starting hinting that I should go gym more often.... My gut reaction was like Pfft! why? I used to go gym all the time for 6 months flat, but I re...
A. 18 June 2008: You may not have noticed any change but maybe you were fitter or more toned when you were going to the gym and now you've stopped he's noticing you changing a bit.
If he hinted during a chat, he was trying to spare your feelings (obvious... (read in full...)
My mum grounded me after she found out I lied about my bf. I have an interview tomorrow and want him to come with me! What should I do?
Q. i posted a question about my mum findin out I lost my virginity and with her grounding me and not lettin me see him for a while cause she believes i should have wait and that i've throwin it away and that she cant trust me cause i lied to her. so ...
A. 17 June 2008: I hated lying to my parents but I think you are of an age where you can decide who you want to be in a relationship with. If yo really want to see him then ask him to come along to your interview with you, your mum shouldn't find out but you should ... (read in full...)
Still in love with him, how do I get him to let me be his friend?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me after dating for a year. We had arguements like up couples do. It's been four months since the break-up. I was devastated because I didn't know the real reason why we broke up. I asked him on several occassions to talk ...
A. 17 June 2008: It seems like he may need some time to himself, rushing into friendship after a relationship can often not work as there hasn't been time to get over the relationship.
His issues may even be related to you or your relationship which may explain ... (read in full...)
Am I the selfish one?
Q. Hi I need help, about three years ago I left my husband of 10years to move in with my present partner who left his partner of 23 years, I have four children from a previous marriage and he had two children with his partner, my husband and I had not ...
A. 15 June 2008: Let him know you want his attention. When your son is out, put on the sexiest lingerie you have and plop yourself on his knee at the pc. Show him how much you miss him and what he is missing out on. Stop cooking for him and doing his wa... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my size. Is it still puppy fat?
Q. Hi there, this is more of a health question. I am 12 years old and 13 next year, and I am worried about my size (*hears all the people reading this sigh because this is written at least 50 times a week*) I know i am not fat, but i also know that i...
A. 15 June 2008: You don't mention your height but 8 stone is not heavy.
If you really are worried about your weight however, you should look at your diet, as your lifestyle seems really busy its likely that you aren't eating as healthily as you could.
It does... (read in full...)
We're not even engaged yet. Am I wasting my time?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we practically live together. We have done since more or less day one of our relationship. Before we got into a relationship, he was renting a house off his mum but she needed to rent i...
A. 15 June 2008: It sounds as though he has had a failed marriage in the past which would explain his reluctance to rush into such a committment.
It doesn't matter how quickly other couples are getting engaged, what matters is that you love each other and are happ... (read in full...)
I'm the one that makes the effort - any ideas?
Q. Well, The thing is i have been going out with this boy for almost two months now and it has been great! The only thing is i put all the effort into our relationship. He never comes up to me for a kiss, i always have to go up to him! I feel like i ...
A. 15 June 2008: Have you spoke to him about this??
It could be that he doesn't realise or is enjoying all the attention he is getting.
If you see him across the street or in school or wherever, text him saying "am i getting a kiss then" or something like that and... (read in full...)
How will I be able to avoid looking like I've been dragged through a hedge backwards?
Q. hi aunts, ok i just need a bit of advice and reasurance really, but im going on a school trip soonand the boy i like is going to. People say as long as you feel confident in yourself (your outfit) then people dont seem to mind what your wearing...i ...
A. 15 June 2008: The most attractive thing in a person is confidence, so if you can flash him your best smile when covered in mud, he'll pay attention.
Laugh about being filthy and try not to freak out too much.
I know my boyfriend hates it when I moan abou... (read in full...)
We have different sexual needs. Is this normal? Is it my age?
Q. My boyfriend is 3 years older than me and yeah he gives me oral and i orgasm but he has a huge sex drive and i just dont seem to.. i'm 16. could it be that i just havent properly developed in this way yet? sex is rarely pleasurable, it hurts a ...
A. 15 June 2008: Women having a lower sex drive than men is not an uncommon problem, especially if you aren't enjoying it.
You have to figure what you enjoy, where you like to be touched etc and let him know. Or even have some oral sex first and stopping before y... (read in full...)
I have an embarrassing problem - can you help me?
Q. Okay, this is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to me. My girlfriend, of nearly a year, and I experimented with oral sex the other day. She was amazing, I have never felt so much pleasure, but the problem is that I couldn't get, and ...
A. 15 June 2008: You are probably just nervous which can affect a man's ability to sustain an erection.
Its nothing to worry about as you know you can keep an erection.
Just explain to your girlfriend that you really enjoyed what she was doing, ensure she k... (read in full...)
In new relationship - should I tell my mum?
Q. Hi.I go to a school with both boys and girls but with same sex classes. i have some friends who are boys in my tutor and recently the one i fancied asked me out and i said yes but now i have a bf i cant stop worrying. my parents are overprotective ...
A. 15 June 2008: I know exactly how you feel, I was terrified of telling my parents I had a boyfriend and was making excuses to see him. Its likely that your mum already knows (they always do!!) so the best thing to do is just tell her.
I promise you she won't reac... (read in full...)
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