Avoiding the term "boyfriend" led to an ongoing misunderstanding
Q. I brought my boyfriend to an after hours work party four months into our relationship. I didn't refer to him as my boyfriend but he kissed me a few times and held my hand. He and I were already committed but i don't like the term bf. He's 38 and it ...
A. 3 February 2014: There is nothing much you can do about the rumours. except maybe let it go and laugh it off. Rumours start from more than a one off chocolate giving so I think this is less of a rumour and more of a joke. I found if you laugh it off and then mak... (read in full...)
Does she really care for me more than the other guy? Did she just make a mistake?
Q. Let me wrap things up. I am paranoid so I'll address the girl as "O" , me as "X" and HIM as "Y" So I met "O" 4 months ago in a nightclub. The moment I saw her I knew I wanted to be with that girl, not forever (because i dont like the sound of it)...
A. 3 February 2014: You need to relax. Maybe lose some of that aggression too. If a girl is with you she is with you. If she cheats on you she cheats on you. If the latter happens you say "thanks, goodluck, goodbye" There is always a goal to try and be better than t... (read in full...)
I ruined my boyfriend's life because I didn't lose my virginity to him
Q. Hello all, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3years 3months, just recently he found out the guy I lost my virginity to was 20yr old and I was only 16, I regret it completely and know it was a huge mistake when I was immature young and drunk. ...
A. 3 February 2014: retrospective jealousy is a hard one because there is nothing you can do to change what happened.
there is something that i have found though. Ihave never been too jealous about the things i knew upfront about before loving the person. I did have... (read in full...)
Avoiding the term "boyfriend" led to an ongoing misunderstanding
Q. I brought my boyfriend to an after hours work party four months into our relationship. I didn't refer to him as my boyfriend but he kissed me a few times and held my hand. He and I were already committed but i don't like the term bf. He's 38 and it ...
A. 2 February 2014: This empasises something to me; Girls misunderstand things then take it in an offensive way, and that men say ambiguous things.
Now you are my friend too... could that mean that she is now his friend as well as yours? not that both of you two ladi... (read in full...)
I'm happy to be practical but I don't want to insult him
Q. Should I offer to let him use the diamond from my previous marriage? I know my boyfriend plans to propose, probably sometime this year. Neither of us make a lot of money. I still have my wedding/engagement rings from my first marriage (only b...
A. 30 January 2014: sell the ring. then talk about marriage. If he wants to tell him that there is this money available that he can use whenever the moment arises.
do not use the same diamond. As a man I dont think that I would like that. I could handle the money. M... (read in full...)
My husband is angry about my photoshoot even though he was there
Q. Hi everyone. My husband and I are having a difference of opinion and I wanted to get some objective views... so here I am. First of all, my husband (Dave) and I have been married a bit over two years but have known each other for about four years...
A. 16 December 2013: I would think that of all the men in the world 10-20% of those wouldnt mind someone else seeing their wife naked. Of those 10-20% would agree to those people taking photos of their wife naked. Of those 1% would be ok having an 18 year old see their ... (read in full...)
I'm really ready to break it off!!
Q. I am ready to break it off! My bf recently had a birthday, and due to unfortunate circumstances, I was a little late in asking him what he wanted to do for his birthday. I asked him the day before what he wanted to do, he responded with he was ...
A. 8 November 2012: Yep. Everyone is busy. Guys are like kids on their birthdays. We like to think that the whole world revolves around us on one day of the year. It isn't about money, or grand presents, it is about the people around us making us remember how much we ... (read in full...)
We are both in relationships but I'm falling for my co-worker! Help!
Q. I think I'm falling for my coworker, we have been working together for 6 months and I have never thought of him in that sense before. He never showed interest beyond just being friends, and neither have I, we always flirted and joked around but ...
A. 8 November 2012: There are always going to be other people. After a relationship has lost its gloss you will find someone else who makes you feel alive again. THat is the nature of these things. It doesnt make the new person any better, and after a year your special ... (read in full...)
Should my friend tell her fiancé that she slept with two of his friends, before they were officially a couple?
Q. i wanted to ask this question on behalf of one of my good friends. we were talking earlier today and i gave her some advice and wanted to know if people had differing perspectives. her and her boyfriend got together about a year ago. they were j...
A. 6 November 2012: Reverse the situation. Imagine a guy is seeing a girl. He doesn't know if he really wants a future with her so he goes off and sleeps with 2 of her close friends. Anyway they stay with together for a year or so and develop a relationship.
The poor... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ABANDONED ME far from home today!
Q. THIS IS A LONG ONE BUT PLEASE READ ALL OF IT AND LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK: First of all, we have been together for 3 years. We're both 22 years old. We just moved in together a few months ago. We're both going to the same college full time. ...
A. 29 October 2012: You arent married. You are very young. Relationships are hard work and sometimes it is worth pushing through. At 22 some people are ready for a commitment, long walks on the beach and a white picket fence but sadly the most of us who are 22 male ... (read in full...)
If I play out this fantasy will is ruin our friendship?
Q. I am single, not been seeing anyone lately and I have a friend (a boy) who i spend lots of time with, he is younger than me about 2 years, I am 25 and he is 23 and I knew since i met him and he wanted to f*** me and I didn't think of him in any way ...
A. 29 October 2012: If he is getting teased for ages without any benefit you will probably lose your friendship anyway.
Do what ever you want. It wouldn't surprise me if that is your usual move anyway. Good luck being out of everyone's league too. Must be exhausti... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 3 years has confused feeling between me and another...
Q. My girlfriend and I had been together for 3 years, it has been the best 3 years of my life, we have conquered every kind of task possible. we even had to do the long distance thing for about year because she went to school elsewhere. we had fought ...
A. 25 October 2012: Don't panic. Start breathing and eat something. Now that is out of the way I have some good news and some very bad news. Good news is that this has happened to most guys at some stage of their life so you can use all of our experience to make the ... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? My boyfriend went out with his friends and he had a private nude lap dance provided for his enjoyment.
Q. I've never posted on anything like this before but I'm really not sure what to do. A few weeks my boyfriend went out with his friends just for a night on the town with the boys. At beginning of the night he and his friends went to a strip club ...
A. 5 October 2012: Right. What an idiot. In saying that I have been to a strip club and got a lap dance when I was 20 so I won't judge him much. For one he was completely upfront and he probably knew that he crossed a massive line in the sand. I think that the g... (read in full...)
Partner wants a break, so scared I'm going to lose her. Please help!
Q. Hi, so confused and i'm a mess right now with the unbareable thought that my family could end up seporated. I will explain the story of whats led to this, and any constuctive advise i would be really greatful. I first met my girl 4 years ag...
A. 2 October 2012: You may be praying but I am affraid you are praying for the wrong thing. I would be praying that you have the strength and fortitude to be your own person and move on. Think back and recognise what advice you would give someone in your situa... (read in full...)
Former supervisor bullied me and now is trying to stop me from making a grievance against her
Q. Hi, I started working at this new place in November last year as my husband lost his job so I had to leave my current part time job to do a full time job. I got on well with everyone apart from my supervisor who from day 1 never liked me or...
A. 25 September 2012: Take her to the cleaners.
Protect other people who will be subjected to treatment like this. People unfortunately rarely learn from their past unless there is a very real negative consequence.
Print out the contact on facebook, tell y... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a girl anymore?
Q. Before I was depressed people said I was cute and fun to be around. People would tell me I could get any girl I wanted. When I hit 15 I got acne and got depressed for NO reason. I think hormones screwed me up or something. Now I'm 18 and still no ...
A. 25 September 2012: Well with all due respect to the ladies who talk about how emotions should be for men then I have no idea how they know this!
Being a male teenager is rough. You go through emotions like they are going out of fashion. Try not just to tell yourself... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a girl anymore?
Q. Before I was depressed people said I was cute and fun to be around. People would tell me I could get any girl I wanted. When I hit 15 I got acne and got depressed for NO reason. I think hormones screwed me up or something. Now I'm 18 and still no ...
A. 24 September 2012: Stop eating as much red meat, drink more water, eat more vegetables, drink less milk, stop eating chocolate, look at trialing proactiv, take up a fitness routine, go to the gym, stop looking at the negatives in things, read poulo cohleho (hover it ... (read in full...)
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