What is love really - I just don't want to be hurt again
Q. I just wonder if most of what we call attraction is just our animal instincts to mate, and we call it love? Does anyone know what love is? I've heard it labelled so many things, anyways, I think I've found a girl im in love with but I am so afraid ...
A. 30 July 2009: Thanks, for your suggestions and I do think I will go for it, we will be meeting for the first time next week so we will see how it goes.
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We had a great relationship until he said that I wasn't the one he would marry.
Q. Hey everyone, I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half...its actually been a year and four months. Anyways we were doing great... everyting was perfect but I had a bad feeling and when we were drunk I asked ...
A. 30 July 2009: Be greatful he's being honest with you right now in your life, rather than being honest 20 years from now and 20 years of living hell and misery being married to him. I know this is hard for you and you've got alot invested in this guy, but just ... (read in full...)
Do you think she'll cheat and be with another guy?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 9 months. She is on holiday at the moment in Italy with her aunt, but she has gone camping, and has her own tent. For some reason, I keep thinking she is going to cheat on me, depsite the fact that she ...
A. 30 July 2009: you asking the question in the first place raises concern that its probably probable she will, and yes, I am sure she's playing around in Italy, you mean to tell me if your in Italy with all the beautiful Italian women you wouldn't full around? If ... (read in full...)
Why is life so hard when you've found your soulmate?
Q. What do I do???? I am 45 and in a relationship with an 18 yearold!!! Where do I begin? Well for nearly a 10 months I have been seeing a woman/girl whos is nearly 27 years my junior!!! at first we knew each other as we live close and saw each other ...
A. 30 July 2009: Hello my friend, first off, your a dog dude, but on the other hand, I have been in a marriage like yours, in fact I felt more alone in my marriage than i ever did single, also, my biggest regret from years gone by is not following my heart when I ... (read in full...)
I just ended an abusive relationship. I'm scared of what my ex might do!
Q. Hi everybody So I finally got the courage to leave my abusive (mix of verbal, physical and sexual) boyfriend this week. I ended up having to do it online because after talking with some friends they suggested doing it in person would be too dang...
A. 30 July 2009: Don't see the guy, he's dangerous, and you don't need to deal with trauma, you've probably already been traumatized by the guy as it is, you dont need any more.
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He's not into me... right?
Q. So, to make a long story short. I met this guy about 3 1/2 years ago. We were both in relationships and did nothing but email almost every day for about 10 months. We definitely had a serious attraction and got to know each other well through these ...
A. 30 July 2009: It's over, move on, its easy meeting someone, its easier to say good bye. Just move on and forget this guy and remember the happy memories you shared and enjoyed, let it go... (read in full...)
I am not going to continue rewarding abusive behavior! Any suggestions?
Q. I am a single mother and have an 11 year old daughter who has been used to seeing me being abused by her father, my mother, my sister and my father. This abuse from her father escalated when I tried to have a relationship with a man that I was ...
A. 30 July 2009: You know what, everything is fine in this situation as long as you continue being the sacrificial lamb, doing whatever everyone else desires or wishes for you. My heart is so sad for you, because the one thing being wasted and pissed on the most is ... (read in full...)
If she says I'm perfect for her, why is she still with him?
Q. Hello everyone, I've met a girl at work, I really like her and she seems to like me too. We sometimes chat to each on MSN to 5/6am some nights and what is shes is nice :) But, there's one problem. She's still currently in a relationship with...
A. 30 July 2009: Dont worry about the other guy, if your really the guy she needs in her life, you'll prove your the better choice just by being yourself, also remember the push/pull mechanism in the art of attraction, ... (read in full...)
Do I ignore him and give him space?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend on and off since December 2007, it began as a long distance relationship but he moved nearer, to manchester which is about 25 miles from where I live to see me more often. However, this year the realtionship has hit ...
A. 30 July 2009: Sounds like your an overly controlling annoying person, better called AKA Drama Queen, get over yourself... (read in full...)
Why does she keep turning me down after claiming that she wants sex with me?
Q. im so confused about this girl im seeing!!! Ive startd seeing a girl the last few weeks that has really fancied me for about 2 years. Anyway the thing is we havent had sex yet but have had plenty of oppertunities to, but she keeps making excuses...
A. 27 July 2009: i had a girlfriend just like yours, but she had been sexually assaulted as a teenager and it really had caused major intimacy issues for her in her life.
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We rarely have sex and it's been this way since day one. What should I do?
Q. My problem is my boyfriend, ever since we've started dating he hasn't been interested in sex. We're lucky if we do it once every 2 or 3 months. We've been together for almost 3 years now, and this is something I've been trying to resolve with him...
A. 27 July 2009: well one of two things, either this guy has personal problems of a nature your unqualified to deal with, meaning he need professional help and counseling, or the physical attraction just isn't there,... (read in full...)
I can't stay in a relationship where I'm not trusted!
Q. I'll try and keep this short, but there is so much to the story. My boyfriend is extremely jealous, insecure and controlling. This is all getting better since he has been seeing a therapist, but one thing that has gotten worse it his trust problems. ...
A. 26 July 2009: do role reversal and see how that works, adapt his attitude, give him a taste of his own medicine, unfortunately honey most of his issues have nothing to do with you at all, they have to do with probably a overcontrolling mother, or no mother at ... (read in full...)
I hate always being horny
Q. I am always horny and I hate it because, I must always masturbate to make it go away, I usually masturbate 5-6 times a day. Does any one else find themselves masturbating too many times a day? ...
A. 26 July 2009: Where's the log book for masturbation limitations per day? Anyone seen it laying around, mail it to this guy would ya?... (read in full...)
I hate always being horny
Q. I am always horny and I hate it because, I must always masturbate to make it go away, I usually masturbate 5-6 times a day. Does any one else find themselves masturbating too many times a day? ...
A. 26 July 2009: man, you need a girl that is just as horny as you are, there's nothing wrong with it, find u a horny woman, there's girls out there that get off as much or more than that a day, get a lookin... (read in full...)
I had my heart broken in the past and became cold-hearted. Then I opened my heart to this girl...but she is pulling away. Why is this happening?
Q. So, I never in my life chased after women. Just a male ego. I had fun with girls here and there that came my way but never chased after one, because i've been heart broken in the past and i'm not ready for that again but it seems like its happening ...
A. 26 July 2009: Man, you've turned this relationship into a personal fantasy fulfillment for yourself, unless you have real face time with this chick in person, your reading way to much into this thing than is there, take a break in your mind dude.... (read in full...)
His controlling behavior is tearing us apart
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about eight months now. We haven't had a steady eight months, we have been on and off numerous times. Sometimes he can be the most loving boyfriend ever. Some days he will treat me good, and other days he won't. ...
A. 26 July 2009: you know, I've always hated the fact that between men and women it always seems to boil down to a control game, it just cannot seem to remain mutual and balanced for to long, it seems relationship after relationship always goes sour, trapped sucks ... (read in full...)
I had my heart broken in the past and became cold-hearted. Then I opened my heart to this girl...but she is pulling away. Why is this happening?
Q. So, I never in my life chased after women. Just a male ego. I had fun with girls here and there that came my way but never chased after one, because i've been heart broken in the past and i'm not ready for that again but it seems like its happening ...
A. 26 July 2009: There's a thin line between attraction and when something turns into an obession, I think it sounds like your smoothering her man, whatever attraction she may have had for you, your making sure with your behavior to kill it, she probably feels like ... (read in full...)
What is the best solution?
Q. hi, i dont know where to start. i was in a relationship with someone who was very good to me. we broke up or should i say i broke up with him because i felt neglected. He would make time for his family and friends but me. 7 months later he went to ...
A. 26 July 2009: there's nothing wrong with placing expectations on other people to fulfill your dreams, but this is a tough place, I sense you want to be closer or more intwined with him than it sounds like he's willing to be with you, there is a difference in ... (read in full...)
Should I act on my attraction?
Q. My husband has a friend I am extremely attracted to physically. I think he feels the same about me. My marriage over 23 years is OK not spectacular. Should I act on my attraction? Not looking for an emotional relationship just physical. ...
A. 26 July 2009: Your the one has to live with the consequences of your actions, along with all parties involved, if the pleasure is that valuable to you, then go for it? My guess is the misery will outweight the pleasure 10/1 once it's all over with. Follow your ... (read in full...)
Went out on my first date after 6 years!
Q. I went out on my first date after 6 years after a divorce (married for 13 years- I came home from work and my X had left- found out later that he had an affair with a woman that frequently visited the church...there's no life in that story)... On to ...
A. 25 July 2009: good for you, im happy to see you taking risks, the rewards are never in store for those who will never take the risk. good luck and hope all the best... (read in full...)
Went out on my first date after 6 years!
Q. I went out on my first date after 6 years after a divorce (married for 13 years- I came home from work and my X had left- found out later that he had an affair with a woman that frequently visited the church...there's no life in that story)... On to ...
A. 25 July 2009: good for you, im happy to see you taking risks, the rewards are never in store for those who will never take the risk. good luck and hope all the best... (read in full...)
My first sexual experience and I came almost straight away...Do I have some kind of sexual 'defect'?
Q. Hello to all. I am 27 years old had sex for the first time. I manage doing foreplay for more than 25 Min's but the bad experience is that i cum with in 4-5 movements after putting my pe... into her cu.. Can any body suggest me out whether is it a ...
A. 25 July 2009: Dude cum all you can, get it out, the lasting longer part will come with time, keep drilling man, role on... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a single mom! How do we get back together?
Q. So I've moved out of the apt that my boyfriend and I shared with our son. But I want to be back with him . I don't know what to do everytime we talk he sits there and tells me he tried to make it work and everything I did wrong. Our son is only 2 ...
A. 25 July 2009: Whatever you do, don't stay together just to make it work. If it's broke don't try to fix it, pick up the pieces and move on. Otherwise your going to raise the child in a dysfunctional relationship with your boyfriend. Unfortunately children do not ... (read in full...)
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