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female
age
41-50,
*noringboyfriend
writes:My problem is my boyfriend, ever since we've started dating he hasn't been interested in sex. We're lucky if we do it once every 2 or 3 months. We've been together for almost 3 years now, and this is something I've been trying to resolve with him since the 1st year we were together. He says "I can't keep it up dammnit!" but I think this has happened maybe one time that we had sex, maybe twice. He says, "You need to be the one that initiates it" but with all my past boyfriends they couldn't keep their hands off me so initiating sex with him makes me feel slutty and unattractive.I wish I had a low libido like other girls, but in past relationships I had sex everyday and loved it! This anti-sex relationship is driving me nuts.I tried talking to him a few times but he just gets defensive. He ends up storming out of the room.I've been thinking about doing thyings that I know I shouldn't. I know he loves me, we spend all of our free time together. Please tell me what I should do.
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reader, Ravenxx91  +, writes (27 July 2009):
 well ther could be other answers to this does he have erectile dysfunction - this seems to be the case of i cant keep it up dammit. from this he may have lost confidence? tell him to see the doctor about it. If its not AD or anything like that i would like to say politely he just aint that into you.
i hope you use condoms WHEN you have sex, maybe hes allergic? this might be why hes reluctant to have sex
you need to sit him down, be serious and talk about it, if he refuses to then theres nothing gonna come of this, your needs aren't being met and you'lll soon be tempted to cheat and when that comes you should leave it.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (27 July 2009):
 leave if he wont talk about it. there is a lack of communication and your needs are not being met. dont cheat just leave. you have a friend there NOT a boyfriend. you might spend all your time together but thats what i do with my friends who i dont have sex with, similar to your situation. three years is long enough to suss out his behaviour patterns. some people just dont enjoy sex with others, its called being asexual.
no communication= no relationship
your move
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reader, lonestarchalk1 +, writes (27 July 2009):
 well one of two things, either this guy has personal problems of a nature your unqualified to deal with, meaning he need professional help and counseling, or the physical attraction just isn't there,
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