Aged 21, pregnant with twins, father ignores me.
Q. im 21 and 3months pregnant with twins.the babies fateher ia an ex of mine and we use to live together, we split up at the end of january but remained good friends by seeing each other and being in contact everyday.but a month ago when i told him i ...
A. 15 May 2006: I'll give you the same advice I give every woman who gets pregnant and decides to keep the baby (or in your case babies) with an unwilling father in the picture. You have to be prepared to do this on your own. Children do not tie a man to you ... (read in full...)
I'm not in love with my BF? Should i move on to my gym love?
Q. Im a gay male and I live with my partner of 3 years. I have only ever been in love once and I know what it feels like, and I know I do not love my current partner like I loved my ex. However at the gym we go there is a guy who works there and I am...
A. 15 May 2006: First love is different from every other love you will feel. It's so much infatuation because of the newness. Before you do anything, think seriously about your feelings for your current partner. It's possible that you do love him but it's just a ... (read in full...)
How can I make a move on a married man I really like?
Q. Listen guys hey how are you? Well I have another problem I fancy one of the Dads at my daughter's nursery, he is really nice, good looking, friendly and I really like him. And he is funny too. I would like to make the first move on to him the only ...
A. 15 May 2006: Even if you could get him, why would you want someone who would so easily break a commitment to his wife and child(ren)? Being attracted to others regardless of their status is normal; going after them is not. Either learn to appreciate this man ... (read in full...)
Is "no-sex" a problem?
Q. im in a relationship with a man i love deeply , but my problem is that the thought of having sex with him anymore turns me right off , we been together for sevral years , iv not had sex with him for about 8 months and he doesnt seem to bothered....
A. 15 May 2006: How do you feel about sex in general? Were you very interested in it in the past? What about your boyfriend? It's possible the two of you just have low sex drives, but if you're interested in sex, but not with him, then it's a problem. I'd advis... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and pregnant but the kids dad doesn't seem to care...
Q. im 17 and nearly 3months pregnant i decided to keep my baby and my parents and friends are being really supportive im looking forwar to being a mum except for the fact that the father of my baby doesn't seem to care we've known eachother for 4 years ...
A. 15 May 2006: It depends on what you mean by "say something to him or leave things as they are." In terms of a relationship, a baby does not equal a romantic contract. He can have as many girlfriends as he wants, and your pregnancy has no bearing on that. Since ... (read in full...)
Marriage Proposal Rejected? What Next?
Q. Me and my partner have been together for 2 1/2 years. I have three children from a prev relationship,my partner doesnt have any. When we both got together i was sceptical that it would last as i am 11 years older than him,but he said that it was...
A. 15 May 2006: This guy is too wishy-washy. You deserve better treatment than that. Do you really want to have more children, or did you just want to have them with him as a way of binding the two of you together? Either way, this person doesn't sound like good ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my bf is NOT jealous of my male friends?
Q. I'm 21, my boyfriend's 19. Is it odd that my boyfriend ISN'T jealous of me having other male friends and that he tries to make friends with them instead of being jealous?? Laura xxx...
A. 15 May 2006: No, it's not odd at all. My best friends in college were all guys, and my husband fit right in with them. It was one way I knew he was the one for me. You're very fortunate to have someone who wants to be friends with your friends regardless of ... (read in full...)
My gran is sick and if I don't visit soon, I'm worried I'll never see her again...
Q. My grandma is very sick and i know that she'll die soon. shes been in hospital for ages and is very weak. we didnt know them very well when me and my brothr were young because they live far away and my dad (whose parents they are, but whom we dont ...
A. 15 May 2006: If your grandmother is still well enough that a visit would be meaningful to her and would leave you with a good memory, then go if at all possible. Otherwise you will always regret it. My own grandmother passed away just a week before I was due to ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't trust me
Q. it has been 2 months already. i have known her for one year. she just told me yesteryday, she doesn't trust me because its hard for her to trust people in general. i have been putting 110% and she has giving back 20% in this relationship. she wants ...
A. 15 May 2006: She is telling you she doesn't want to get serious with you. I'd advise you to listen to what she is saying. If the two of you stay together and she changes her feelings, she'll let you know. But you can't change her. I have seen this in real life ... (read in full...)
Seems like my boyfriend fancies my friends more than me... Or am I just imagining it?
Q. I am currently living with my boyfriend and since we've started dating, it's with me and my girls and him. They use to come over to his house when I was there to visit all the time. I used to catch him taking a glimpse at my friends when they wou...
A. 15 May 2006: The problem is your boyfriend, not your friend. You don't say anything about her coming onto him, so obviously he's the one with the issue. Don't lose your friend over this. Few men are worth ending a friendship. You and your boyfriend need t... (read in full...)
Worried that I got her pregnant last night
Q. Last night I had sex with a lady who I've known for a while, She's on the pill, I also withdrew, I am now so worried I got her pregnant, Am I just being overtly paranoid? I'm worried sick!...
A. 15 May 2006: If she is on the Pill, it's highly unlikely she's pregnant. Pulling out is NOT contraception. Sperm can and do come out in the pre-ejaculate. If you are not prepared to be a father, then you need to protect yourself each and every time regardless ... (read in full...)
I'm wonderfully a nice guy, but my wife isn't so much as that....is it wrong to want happiness?
Q. I have been married for 16 years. Unfortuneately as I grow older and after having somewhat raised the kids (4, I am finding more and more that my wife and I do not really have much in common. I work over 78 hours a week at a full time job, my own ...
A. 12 May 2006: I think your wife is justifiably resentful at the amount of time you spend away from home. You say your wife has "worked little or part time" since your second child was born. She was raising your children during that time while you were working at ... (read in full...)
He hurt me before, but I love him so much. Should I give it another try?
Q. The ultimate dream situation happened to me last night; The bf who dumped me months ago called me, and pretty much told me he still loves me. We hadn't spoken for ages, then i got this phonecall out of the blue saying he saw me walk by at work today ...
A. 12 May 2006: I think you could do better than this guy. Most likely he is lying to you about the reason he left. But even if he's not, he's involved with something questionable to say the least. Before you give him another chance, I think you should ... (read in full...)
If I no longer love my wife should I break it off?
Q. My wife and I have been married for nearly 3 years. Before that we dated for about 5 years. For the past year or two we have been growing apart. Our sex life is awful, we bicker and fight all the time, and we hardly communicate. I find that ...
A. 11 May 2006: Have you thought about why you grew apart? Was there a change in your lives that put this distance between you? I think you need to take some time to figure out what happened and try to remember what drew you together in the first place. A good ... (read in full...)
I may be pregnant. How much for an abortion.... And would I need to tell my mom?
Q. I'm 14 and the weekend just gone me and my boyfriend both had sex for the first time, Stupidly we didnt use a condom but he said he pulled out in time. We went to a clinic the next day and got an after morning pill, Its been 2 days and im late for ...
A. 9 May 2006: First things first: get yourself a box with two pregnancy tests and take one now. If it's negative, take the second one in a week (assuming you don't start between now and then). Two negative tests a week apart means you are probably not pregnant. ... (read in full...)
I'm struggling with who I am or how I should dress since I enjoy the thigh-high boots my g/f bought me
Q. im a 26yr old guy who is straight and has a lovely girlfriend of 6 yrs. Sounds good so far yeah. Well I am struggling to come to terms with who I am or what I am how I look. Me and my girlfriend have often played in the bedroom dressing up etc inc ...
A. 9 May 2006: It's not wrong to feel this way, but you do need to be prepared for people's reactions. Not everyone is as liberal as I am! Your best bet if you want to try this in public is to ask your girlfriend to accompany you to a a gay/tranny bar or a ... (read in full...)
I have no sex life because of my wife, what should I do?
Q. I am 39 and been married since 1990. I have two beautiful children whom i adore, and a lifestyle which surpasses my expectations.My problem is that my relationship with my wife is totally unfulfilling for me physically. We have sex approx once a ...
A. 9 May 2006: Have you talked with your wife about why she wants sex only once a month in a such a constrained way? Maybe she has issues the two of you need to discuss. Does she work outside the home? Is she primarily responsible for childcare? Does she have ... (read in full...)
He likes me, I like him, but he's got someone else...what can I do?
Q. the person ive liked for ages has just got a girlfriend, i know he likes me too but what can i do?...
A. 9 May 2006: Leave things be. If he'd cheat on one person to be with you, then he'd do the same thing to you when someone else he fancies comes along. If you're meant to be together, then his relationship with the other person will run its course and you'll find ... (read in full...)
My fiance says lesbians turn him on and I can see that it does...I get hurt over this....
Q. i need advice im so confused hurt and do feel cheated on in a sense. me and my fiance were cuddled in bed when hes stupid fantasy comes up lesbians. i feel really uncomfortable when he always go on and it puts me off him otha than that hes the best ...
A. 9 May 2006: Everyone has sexual fantasies, so I don't think that aspect of it is a problem. As long as he doesn't try to make you participate in his fantasy, things seem harmless enough. Just tell him you get hurt when he talks about anything sexual involving ... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating, I can't prove it, he says he wants to be with just me...what can I do?
Q. I am in desperate need of help. I have dealing with this guy for a year now. It has been straight sex between us two. He is known to a lot of being a gigolo, hoe, whatever you can think of. Just recently, he told me that I was his girl, but for ...
A. 9 May 2006: You can't be in love with someone you don't really know. You've never been around his friends or family, you haven't been on a date, and you don't know who he spends time with when he's not with you. All you have in common is sex. The facts that... (read in full...)
I got pregnants even thought I was on the pill, I'm 16 and don't know what to do! help!
Q. I'm 16 and I think I could be pregnant. I'm booked for a test tomorow and I don't know what I'll do if it turns up positive. I'm still at school, my parents are not the type that will be supportive, I won't abort it or give it up, any advice? Also, ...
A. 19 April 2006: First, don't wait till tomorrow. You can go to a drugstore and buy a home pregnancy test now. A false negative is possible, but false positives are rare. So take a home test and then follow up at the clinic. If you do turn up pregnant, you ha... (read in full...)
I'm dating my teacher! Am I naive in thinking there is a future?
Q. I recently starting dating a man that is twice my age. Even more of a problem is that he is my high school teacher! The whole situation is really bizarre, but despite everything we get along very well and maybe I am being a bit naive but i think ...
A. 2 April 2006: It's possible but not probable. The only times I've seen teacher-student romantic relationships work is in college (with a returning adult student). If you are under the age of consent, what your teacher is doing is illegal at worst and unethical ... (read in full...)
Is his pattern of drinking a red flag?
Q. After the end of a long relationship I am dating again but I am beginning to notice a pattern with a man I have seen a few times. It seems that if we go on a date on a Friday night, he has to drink and he has to get drunk. I enjoy going to a bar as...
A. 2 April 2006: Have you tried setting up a Friday evening date where no alcohol will be present? That alone should tell you whether this will be an issue. Alcoholics behave differently. Some people who drink to excess only on weekends are alcoholics; others are ... (read in full...)
I'm an adult, but my parents completely disapprove of my boyfriend. How do I not lose either one?
Q. Why, hello there. I'm an 18-year-old woman who has been very much in love with a certain someone for a while now. He is one of three other people who I consider to be my best friends. Unfortunately, my parents disapprove of him to such a degree ...
A. 2 April 2006: It sounds as if he has some issues he needs to work through. If he's taking antidepressants, he may very well have had suicidal thoughts as a result of starting them. He needs time to adjust to his medication, which could take up to three months. I... (read in full...)
Is it worth trying to be nice to my toxic friend?
Q. Should I stay friends with a girl who: - competes with everything about me and what I do - flirted with the guy I loved for 3years, JUST to piss me off (because I think she thought the guy she fancied, fancied me), and then the guy I loved to...
A. 2 April 2006: She doesn't want to be your friend. She is using you to try to make herself feel powerful. Life is too short to put up with that kind of treatment. Distance yourself from this person as much as you can. And remember, this kind of thing won't matter ... (read in full...)
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