Are there any circumstances where it's OK to hit someone?
Q. Can anyone please tell me if there are ever circumstances where it is understandable to hit a woman? Picture a scene of a grump, overweight and lazy woman who constantly nags her husband when he comes in from work, shattered. She won't leave hi...
A. 3 June 2005: NO NO NO NO NO there is no excuse to hit a woman. Maybe her self esteem is a little low and she needs a push to make some changes in her life but dont push her too far. Sit and talk before you make decisions because they may be the wrong ones.... (read in full...)
I'm with a guy, but he doesn't want anybody to know about us!
Q. Hiya, I'm 13 and I'm with this lad I love him so much but he doesn't want to tell anybody that we are together. I don't want to lose him so I just go along with it. I like my friends lots but they accuse me of fancying the lad I am with, but I have ...
A. 3 June 2005: You're 13! Your still in the whole teenager thing. Of course he won't want anyone knowing about you because he's a typical teenager male! Tell him that you're not going to hide what you do in life and how you do it. You're young. Enjoy ya self XX... (read in full...)
I thought we'd agreed to have another child, but now my husband says he doesn't want any more...
Q. My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have a 6 year old daughter and recently talked about having another child. We both agreed we would wait a couple of months as Christmas was here. Last week I tried to talk to him about trying f...
A. 3 June 2005: The hardest bit is having to sit and talk about it. It's not all bad. He may not have wanted to talk about it at that moment. In time ask him to explain why he is saying one thing and changing his mind. There may be a deeper reason. Search for it ... (read in full...)
Didn't realise I was talking so much about my ex until my girlfriend left me!
Q. Dear Cupid, My girlfriend and I recently broke up. I've known her for 15 yrs. We got together about seven months ago. But before we were together I was engaged to my high school sweet heart of 5yrs. She cheated on me and really never got over h...
A. 3 June 2005: It doesn't sound like you have ever been totally over the other girl from the past. Maybe she did leave you because she could see that you have feelings for someone else. You need to make sure that the girl that hurt you is out of the picture. In ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend walked away from me and his unborn son. How could he do that?
Q. I'm 6 months pregnant and my partner recently left me. He wants nothing to do with me or his unborn son. He already has a daughter. How can he do this? The pain is ripping me to bits and I don't know what to do. Please can you help me? We were tog...
A. 3 June 2005: When you have the kid, talk to him about the child support money he owes you. Show him that looking after a child comes naturally, it's nothing you learn!... (read in full...)
Should I believe my bf when he says that the raunchy text message wasn't his?
Q. Been dating 3+ years, thought he was Mr Perfect. Found a raunchy outgoing text on his phone that seemed to imply having slept with whoever he sent the text to. (wasnt Me!) Went nuts but he insists he lent his mobile to his friend who put his sim ...
A. 3 June 2005: I don't say keep an open mind about it at all, because you then may start looking for anything and everything to cuase an arguement. You're going to pick on the smallest little detail. Trust what he says because something like that can happen, but ... (read in full...)
I want him to tell me he loves me, but all I get is he "likes" me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he has never said "I love you" but he is good to me. I've asked him how he feels about me and he just responds by telling me that he REALLY likes me and REALLY cares about me...any advice??...
A. 3 June 2005: Ask him if he loves you!... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I might just be a "substitute" for my boyfriend's ex-partner!
Q. I am moving in my my boyfriend in 2 weeks, I have 2 children from a previous relationship and he also has 2 children that live with their mother. Until today I had never even considered that he might still have feelings for his ex but it dawned on ...
A. 3 June 2005: Sounds like he's trying to hold onto his past. Talk to him and if things don't go your way then break up with him.... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend leave me because our relationship was too intense?
Q. Do rebounds ever last?...My now ex bf of 2 years (Age 22) who I lived with, left me (age 19), 3 months ago for another girl who is only 17. He seemed to go out with her almost immediately, but I can't understand how emotionally he can move on so ...
A. 3 June 2005: He left you because he was insecure.... (read in full...)
Can I let my boyfriend know that I'm finished with our time apart, without seeming to rush things?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were dating for 6 months, and a week ago, we decided to "take a break". The reason why is because we both thought things were "different intimately", but the feelings are still there for the both of us. We agreed that we were ...
A. 3 June 2005: Let him know by your actions, not your words!!... (read in full...)
Never been popular with girls, but now I'm confused by my options!
Q. Hi. Growing up I've not been very popular, but in the last few months... I don't know, but the girls have one hell of an attraction to me? I hear it every day. I don't know what to do, but let me start off with: I started grade 8 and like I said ...
A. 3 June 2005: Go for the one you feel more strongly for. But also, from the sounds of it, you're at the stage in your life where you want to have fun, not settle down so why not do that?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me fat, threatens me, hits me, meets with other women... Is he wrong, or am I?
Q. Hi i desperately need your help advice etc. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and have lived with him for the last 2. It has been an absolute knightmare he has physically hit me on many occassions, i must be honest as sometimes i initiate...
A. 3 June 2005: He's wrong hunny. Get rid of him.... (read in full...)
What do women want?
Q. Hola! after recently discovering and absorbing most of this website, I feel overly compelled to ask for help in my own plight... I am 19yrs of age, and have suffered a meaningful, but scarceful love life, having only been intimate with two females ...
A. 3 June 2005: First of all, get off the drugs, secondly start going out more, sitting in your room listening to music, smoking pot will get you nowhere! You need to work out where you are in life before you can settle down with someone. ... (read in full...)
We hit it off wonderfully, but is there any chance we can survive the distance between us?
Q. Hola agony-aunts! Recently I've developed strong feelings for a friend I've known for the past 3 yrs. She now attends college in a different town except during this summer where she is back home until next fall. While on a trip to the town where ...
A. 3 June 2005: She thinks of you more as a friend, so if you want her in your life then keep it that way.... (read in full...)
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