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writes: My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have a 6 year old daughter and recently talked about having another child. We both agreed we would wait a couple of months as Christmas was here. Last week I tried to talk to him about trying for a baby and he told me he doesn't want to any more. I don't know why he's had a change of heart or why he said yes to let me build my hopes up.Am I being too sensitive? I'm just totally confused and whenever I talk about I just start to cry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2005): My husband & I have been together for 10 years, we had a daughter when I was just 17 years old, I got pregnant again at 22 years old & had our son. We got married June 2004, after 7 1/2 years of togetherness. We had decided before we got married that we would consider another child later on. Well our son will be 3 in march & our daughter will be 7 in June, I am ready to get pregnant again. I know it will take a while for me to get pregnant, because I have endometriosis, which can prevent of make difficult to get pregnant. During our whole relationship, I've never been on birth control & only been pregnant those two times, so I know it doesn't happen instantly. My husband is finding every excuse not to have another child, & he keeps telling me that "we're not having another child". I don't think thats fair. I asked him how he would feel if it was the other way around, he says he would respect my decision. I explained to him that it's his decision, not mine. He won't even hear me. It's to the point of divorce, which is not something I want at all, it's just hard to love someone or to feel loved when you get that kind of blow.
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reader, lady_rachel +, writes (25 August 2005):
I can't really answer your question for you, but as hard as it is you have to except that your husband just isn't ready right now...cause if you don't its going to sooner or later depress you....Im actually going through the same thing as you but he tells me it because our child is still kind of a baby. I love my husband to death but I think its my decision as well, not just his. To just stop and say no...its both of you in this together...you decided that the day you said your vowes...its called compromise
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reader, carla +, writes (3 June 2005):
The hardest bit is having to sit and talk about it. It's not all bad. He may not have wanted to talk about it at that moment. In time ask him to explain why he is saying one thing and changing his mind. There may be a deeper reason. Search for it
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