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writes: Can anyone please tell me if there are ever circumstances where it is understandable to hit a woman?Picture a scene of a grump, overweight and lazy woman who constantly nags her husband when he comes in from work, shattered. She won't leave him alone, is always 'at' him and follows him around, constantly nagging him and getting in his way. She doesn't do anything all day either. But say he does love her because she can also be a lovely, caring and warm woman.Would it be understandable if he struck out when she was like this? What else could he do?
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reader, becky05 +, writes (1 July 2005):
If your at the stage where you are beginning to think your wife's behaviour deserves physical punishment, then you must leave her. You say you love her but if you did you wouldn't be trying to (or getting others to) justify hitting her. It doesnt sound like you are in a very pleasant situation but violence is no answer.
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (20 June 2005):
I agree with Caribgal...she says it all.You claim your wife sits around & never does anything.You are guilty of something SIMILAR.You've been on the fence for years...Get off the damn Fence & take action !LOVE HER OR LEAVE HER.
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reader, Caribgal +, writes (9 June 2005):
What the hell is the matter with your mouth? It doesn't sound like you love this woman it sounds like you have her for a blanket. You only want her around you when it makes you feel good. Have you ever tried listening to her and do the things that she is nagging you about? If you do this you will hear less nagging. Why don't you love that woman like never before and see how the house suddenly gets cleaned and the nagging dissapates. Get your behind up and take her for a romantic stroll in the park. If you want to beat her beat her good in bed.
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (8 June 2005):
Only in self defense!!.otherwise NO!!!
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reader, clare_bear +, writes (3 June 2005):
You shouldn't hit anyone, no matter whether it's a man, woman or child. Sometimes when someone is ranting and raving at them it seems like the only way to shut them up but tell this person (well actually I'm assuming it's you) that holding someone by the shoulders and making them calm down and think about what they're saying is much much more affective. If this is your wife make her do some walking sometimes, great for releaving stress (and loosing weight).
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): No. There is never an excuse to hit anyone. I believe there are communication issues between the two of you. She wants to communicate calmly, but maybe this is the only way of getting your attention. Women love to talk about their feelings and men would rather not. You, my friend will have to find a way to open your heart and listen to what she's feeling. It will take work and I'll be the first to admit it's not easy at first. But it is a skill well worth the effort. Imagine mastering these listening and communicating skills how much happier you two will be. It is clear you both want to stay together, so why not channel the love you have for each other and give it a shot. It certainly would not hurt.
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reader, Cutie_Mish +, writes (3 June 2005):
i agree with all the others, hitting someone shouldn't come to mind even if she is damn irritating, simply walk away or sit down and REALLY talk to her, try not to yell, it'll only make her more annoyed and will probally irritate you more! xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): He could and should take the dignified route out and LEAVE HER. He should not hit her. Good god!
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reader, carla +, writes (3 June 2005):
NO NO NO NO NO there is no excuse to hit a woman. Maybe her self esteem is a little low and she needs a push to make some changes in her life but dont push her too far. Sit and talk before you make decisions because they may be the wrong ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): Never. At the end of the day there is no excuse to hit somebody! The best thing to do is talk about everything. Maybe she has low self esteem and needs to be told that you are feeling this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2005): You are going to probably hear quite a few "no's". Maybe when she acts like that you should tell her that if she doesn't stop you will leave. And then follow through with it. Go for a walk around the block. Next time when she does it again tell her you are going to leave again and walk around two blocks and so on. Tell her she must start expressing herself in a better way. Write it in a letter etc. and sooner or later she will learn that she is not going to get the response that she wants. I think she is feeling unheard and it is the only way she feels that she can get your attention. You have to give her other avenues of communication.
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reader, purple_angel +, writes (3 June 2005):
NO, there is no circumstances where anyone should hit another individual. If you are unhappy with your wife then you should talk to her and help her see sense, or if that doesn't work then there is always a divorce. No-one asked to you put up with her laziness so you can leave at any time, but under no circumstances should you lift your hands to another individual!!!
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reader, annabelle_me +, writes (2 June 2005):
It's never okay to hit anyone, no matter what annoying things they do. If you feel on the verge to hit take a walk or maybe you two should try couples therapy to work out all your issues.
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