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writes: I'm 6 months pregnant and my partner recently left me. He wants nothing to do with me or his unborn son. He already has a daughter. How can he do this? The pain is ripping me to bits and I don't know what to do. Please can you help me? We were together a year and a half. I love him and miss him like crazy. Reply to this Question
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reader, frustrated0001 +, writes (27 June 2005):
i know how you feel also, i was about 5 mths pregnant - very very hormonal, and my boyfriend broke up with me said he was done and was moving across the country. I know how you feel. Emotions run crazy when you are pregnant, the one thing that will help you is to know that this will pass. Once you have that baby in your arms the thought of him will be gone. I know you probably love him and wanted him to stick around but it is better that he be gone than be a terrible role model for your child, and a terrible husband to you. He would not be supportive, he is very immature and he cannot take responsibility. You need to focus of yourself and your needs. Get ready for this baby. There is tons of help you can get - take a few classes, make a scrapbook of your pregnancy, workout - whatever makes you feel good about yourself. Then, in the meantime... im sure he is going to be thinking and hopefully he will come around. Dont chase him, just go on and let him be. He is not being there for you so be there for yourself. Read, write your feelings, talk to friends, just dont let him ruin your life or the health or you or the baby. It will pass, God has plans for you, maybe not the ones you see .. but there is a beautiful gift on the way so look foward to that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2005): I am 7 months pregnant and my boyfriend recently left me also. i didnt know how he can do it either. we to were together over a year and i felt i was going to die of heart ache but every man has his excuse or the same excuse. they arent ready, maybe he has a daughter but maybe he isnt ready for another one. one baby causes great responsibility emotionally and financially. He can just be immature and not want to handle his responsibilities, whatever his reasons try to talk to him and tell him how you feel. make it clear to him there is no excuse of denying your role as a parent. if he wasnt ready for another child he shouldnt have done what it takes to create one. Hopefully you have family to turn to. I'm lucky i do, that and my friends are what is keeping me emotionally healthy and thats extremely important considering how you feel effects not only your health your baby's also. If anything give him time to accept this and see how things turn out but dont expect the best just be prepared for anything because thats what you'll need to do as a mother-to-be!!
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reader, Wildberries +, writes (8 June 2005):
He is not interested in being daddy and has made it abundantly clear..You on the other hand have a child to concern yourself with...make sure you get the child support and move on...find a man who isnt afraid of fatherhood perhaps?
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reader, carla +, writes (3 June 2005):
When you have the kid, talk to him about the child support money he owes you. Show him that looking after a child comes naturally, it's nothing you learn!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (2 June 2005):
 It could be that the thought of the sudden responsibility of fatherhood took his breath away so he basically ran away. However, you say he has a daughter. I wonder if he is a responsible parent to her?You can claim child support to help you financially but you need emotional support possibly more.You could try writing to him but I'm not sure you would receive a response. It is very odd that he wants nothing to do with you. Did he give any reasons?Perhaps he is depressed. Is there any way you can find out his whereabouts or what he is up to? Any mutual friends?You need to look after yourself now. He may well come back to you but you must put yourself and your baby first. What he has done to you wouldn't be forgiven by many.Reach out for support from friends and family. There are people that care about you and how you are feeling. Confide in them. Look towards the future for you and your baby. You can most definitely survive without him and move on.Ask for help to see you through this.Take care.
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reader, clare_bear +, writes (1 June 2005):
maybe he just needs some time
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