I forgave her for cheating, I love her so much, but I fear the relationship is dying, please help!
Q. i really feel that my relationship is dying. weve been dating for one year and 8 months so far..i love her very much, and she is/was the love of my life so far. im only 20, but unlike most people my age, im only interested in long term relationshi...
A. 26 July 2007: Dude, time to get rid. Hard to hear but true. You want this great romantic and deep love and want her to live to your ideals, not gonna happen, she isnt the one.
She cheated on and dumped the ex bf to get with you and that should have told you... (read in full...)
I feel so rejected and abandoned by my husband right now! Can anyone help me cope?
Q. Hi, its 3 months today since my husband and I split up, it was not what i wanted but he seemed to be unable to commit to the future i wanted, having a family (even though he said he wanted this too, numerous times). I am finding it very hard to get ...
A. 30 October 2006: yes it will get better. You need to realise you do not need him, you only desire him. You were complete before you met him, you were complete when you were with him and you will be complete now he is no longer in your life.
Put all the energy you ... (read in full...)
What should I do, if I want to have the best chance of my gf coming back to me?
Q. Hi there, I am getting the sense that my ex-girlfriend's current relationship is coming to an end. I alwyas felt that it would as the guy was the complete opposite of me, had little in common with her, and was of a different religion and she's from ...
A. 30 October 2006: Firstly I want to tell you that i feel your pain here buddy, it is hard.
There is not a lot you can do to win her back, either she wants to or she doesnt. It depends what is in her heart for you. There may be something in her heart with your name... (read in full...)
Badbrit, message to all those that may be fed up with my problem...
Q. Badbrit here, man who has peed everyone off with my problem and ignoring advice. I am now taking it, accepting it is over and she not want it anymore and has no interest. I accept it but will always feel she has done it wrong and it is purely b...
A. 1 September 2006: i have been reading one of those self help manuals also you know and it made me see more about this and feel better about myself, that it just happens sometimes and how the more i have been pulling, i have actually been pushing her away. The re... (read in full...)
What a mess... what do i do. Give up? (long)
Q. YES IT IS LONG BUT I SO NEED HELP FROM AS MANY AS POSSIBLE. PLEASE PLEASE YOU SMART ONES READ THINK AND HELP ME DO THE RIGHT THING i was with my gf for three and half years, lived together for a lot of it and we had a baby eight months ago. We...
A. 30 August 2006: Rach, that is fantastic advice, my only fear about moving into the spare room is i could push her away when she MAY be starting to lean back towards me. I may be wrong, but my feeling was to see if slowly, while she is under my roof, let me see i... (read in full...)
What a mess... what do i do. Give up? (long)
Q. YES IT IS LONG BUT I SO NEED HELP FROM AS MANY AS POSSIBLE. PLEASE PLEASE YOU SMART ONES READ THINK AND HELP ME DO THE RIGHT THING i was with my gf for three and half years, lived together for a lot of it and we had a baby eight months ago. We...
A. 30 August 2006: When we were trying but her feelings were not coming back, i made the excuse for her that maybe it PND but she dismissed it and continues to do so, cos she is not depressed she says, just down about us and it is feelings not depression, she says she ... (read in full...)
What a mess... what do i do. Give up? (long)
Q. YES IT IS LONG BUT I SO NEED HELP FROM AS MANY AS POSSIBLE. PLEASE PLEASE YOU SMART ONES READ THINK AND HELP ME DO THE RIGHT THING i was with my gf for three and half years, lived together for a lot of it and we had a baby eight months ago. We...
A. 30 August 2006: thank you snowbird. I agree in the main with all you have said, and it is unfair and stopping me moving on. I have been wondering if she is back in the house for the reasons you say already, but wondering if also partly because she is still a ... (read in full...)
I was ready to propose to her two weeks ago-now she's with another guy. How do I deal with this?
Q. I have posted here loads about me and partner, been together over three years, got baby etc, and she left cos feelings are gone, doesnt feel the same, not interested etc. She been at her mums a week, and i stayed at house for issues i have already ...
A. 26 August 2006: I love her to bits guardian, and would have put up with anything and i did cos i loved who the person i thought she was. Someone who can move on that quick and replace me so easily after three years, and having a slightly handicapped eight month ... (read in full...)
We have a son and I still love her! Can love come back after a split?
Q. Can love come back after a split? I have just split from my girlfriend who i was together with for three and half years, and we have an eight month year old baby. Things were up and down to be honest all along but we had loads in common, got on w...
A. 22 August 2006: thank you Juliette. I hear what you are saying, i know i have to move on but deep down i just cannot let go of the feeling that she will never regret it and miss what she had. This has happened because things were not as good for her as i previou... (read in full...)
Just a friend or does she want more??? Women respond please....
Q. Can someone please clear this up for me!!! I just came out of a relationship were I still to this day have feelings for my ex. I'm coping and trying to move on with my life. Anyway, I met someone who works in the same building with me and she is ...
A. 18 August 2006: depends how you feel, if you are not interested then make that clear, and dont give her false hope.
Is it definetly over with the ex? any chance of it reigniting? If it is a definate no, then think clearly whether this girl may have a future for ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she doesn't see how lucky she is!
Q. Sorry this may be long, I hope you read it though and have suggestions. Basically I was in a relationship for three years, we had ups and downs, but always managed to sort things out I think cos we had such a strong love. However she fell pregnant...
A. 16 August 2006: Malce, Yos has already made me see all you have said, and in summary you are right, and I already know that, you said this – “She sounds like she is a very sensitive, loving, responsive woman and is even more so when YOU are able to notice and ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she doesn't see how lucky she is!
Q. Sorry this may be long, I hope you read it though and have suggestions. Basically I was in a relationship for three years, we had ups and downs, but always managed to sort things out I think cos we had such a strong love. However she fell pregnant...
A. 16 August 2006: Yos, i always do the right thing, i will support as much as i can, but i have to pay for my ex kids a certain amount, always have, cos that the right thing to do, and i also have 30% custody of them, so need a roof over my head for that, and to have ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she doesn't see how lucky she is!
Q. Sorry this may be long, I hope you read it though and have suggestions. Basically I was in a relationship for three years, we had ups and downs, but always managed to sort things out I think cos we had such a strong love. However she fell pregnant...
A. 16 August 2006: Yos thank you again for advice, it seems nothing will fix it. I think any damage done is too deepset for her and i will have to learn to accept it and learn lessons for the future. It will be hard because i love her so deeply, and recently thought i ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why she doesn't see how lucky she is!
Q. Sorry this may be long, I hope you read it though and have suggestions. Basically I was in a relationship for three years, we had ups and downs, but always managed to sort things out I think cos we had such a strong love. However she fell pregnant...
A. 15 August 2006: Yos, you are a genius, at first I thought u didn’t get it and was angry reading your words, then I re-read and I realised you hit the nail on the head. I was blind and stupid. I thought simply showing love and being nice would make it all come back ... (read in full...)
My "one off" guy sort of became my boyfriend, hes treating me oddly at the mo and I dont know what to do because I love him!
Q. about 3 months ago i cheated on my boyfriend (he is now my ex) and went with a 45 year old man, i am 17, and yes i was drunk and it wasnt supposed to have turned out to be anything more than a one off. but once me and my ex boyfriend had split up he ...
A. 11 August 2006: Apart from the obvious fact that the age difference is going to cause you major problems, there is an important issue here. He strangled you and you still love him and havent left him??
Hello?? you really need to leave this man, he acted in a dan... (read in full...)
Is this normal behaviour when you break up ?
Q. I have to ask if how my girlfriend broke up with me is normal or if she was acting spiteful. When we broke up I went round to her house (just to like say goodbye) but she wasn't in (as far as I know). I asked the neighbour when she'd be back but...
A. 11 August 2006: The only behaviour not normal i am afraid is your own. The relationship was over and it sounds like you had trouble accepting that. If someone is no longer wanting to be with you, sadly that means that basically they no longer want your company, so ... (read in full...)
I dont like the idea of him going to a bachelor party, am I just being too insecure ?
Q. Is it naive to trust a b/f at a bachelor party? I am jealous and insecure about this and my b/f thinks i am being childish and immature. He says the strippers are not there to have sex with everyone in the place. I feel like what goes on at these ...
A. 11 August 2006: You need to show a little bit of trust and loosen up a little. Lapdancers do not have sex with drunken leering stag party blokes, and as a man who has been to these club, can assure u that if you so much as lay a finger on a dancer, you will be ... (read in full...)
I want to propose, but in a really nice and special way!
Q. I am considering proposing to my girlfriend and want some advice on how to do it and also the ring. We have been together three years, lived together for over two, and have a 8 month old baby. Any ideas on a good way to propose, something romant...
A. 10 August 2006: hey that all really nice, i loving the teddy one, cheers... (read in full...)
We broke up, first I was relieved, then he wanted to get back, I didnt but I do now and now he doesnt want to!!!
Q. My boyfriend of two years broke it off with me a couple of weeks ago. At first i was relieved because we had been arguing so much and he was extremely jealous and wouldn't allow me to do things i wanted to. However, now i'm having regrets. He text ...
A. 9 August 2006: Well you hit nail on the head with the final sentence. Ring him, and ay you want to talk with him, just talk. See if he will meet you so you can discuss things sensibly and honestly and see what comes from that. If it ends with him till saying no, ... (read in full...)
When I was trying to get her back she couldnt care less... now though shes texting me and showing an interest... what is she doing!?
Q. This is the situation. My ex broke up with me and I was devastated. I tried to get her back and she said she didn't want a relationship right now as she didn't trust me. So in my mind and heart I let her go. Since I let her go and live the life ...
A. 9 August 2006: She is doing one of a few things, she may be unsure of feelings, kinda wants to go it alone, kinda doesnt, so cant let go. OR she may be regretting letting you go and wants you back or she may be enjoying control, likes to manipulate and... (read in full...)
Not sure how to interpret his text, does he mean we are over ?
Q. Have been going out with a lad on/off for the last three months. For the last week I've really busy and have been unable to return his msgs. Then yesterday he sent me this text here it is word for word "Deep heartfelt msg take1, sorry4annoying y...
A. 2 August 2006: I am confused by this question. With the small backround you gave and the content of the text, how could you see anything other than it is??
There is NOTHING to suggest he wants to finish, it is exactly as the text says
sorry4ann... (read in full...)
Can a partner really be confused about their feelings?
Q. SORRY THIS IN LONG. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND NEED TO MAKE ANY HELPERS UNDERSTAND IT ALL IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND THEN ADVICE Can a partner really be undecided about their feelings? Can "I am confused" be true or does it always mean they have f...
A. 31 July 2006: Serene, I do not discount the possibility of what you are saying, but i do doubt it is the case. She knows i am committed, although in the past i have sometimes said i would like to get married, and other times said i would never do that again (i am ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just told me he has Chlamydia
Q. I'm so upset, we were about to start trying for a baby. I'm going to the clinic tomorrow to get myself sorted, but what if I am infertile now because of him? What if he is infertile?! And where did he get it from? He said he was checked and given ...
A. 26 July 2006: one question. How does he know he was clear just before he met you? He had a test just before he met you? I dont know him so cannot judge or know for sure, but i do find that very unlikely. I dont know of many men who pop themselves off for a test ... (read in full...)
Can a partner really be confused about their feelings?
Q. SORRY THIS IN LONG. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND NEED TO MAKE ANY HELPERS UNDERSTAND IT ALL IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND THEN ADVICE Can a partner really be undecided about their feelings? Can "I am confused" be true or does it always mean they have f...
A. 20 July 2006: totally right kdlady and that is what i have been thinking and feeling. The only factor that makes this slightly not the same as a typical situation is the new baby. If not for that, she is out of order totally but a new abby can make your hormones ... (read in full...)
Can a partner really be confused about their feelings?
Q. SORRY THIS IN LONG. BUT I REALLY NEED HELP AND NEED TO MAKE ANY HELPERS UNDERSTAND IT ALL IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND THEN ADVICE Can a partner really be undecided about their feelings? Can "I am confused" be true or does it always mean they have f...
A. 20 July 2006: Thank you for the advice, and all that you say i should do, i am doing. She is 31 and i do not think she feels having a baby is going to stop her doing things. We still go out and do things, and get babysitters, but it is an adjustment, and maybe ... (read in full...)
Ladies, I need your help. After our baby was born my wife has no sex drive and is questioning her feelings for me!
Q. This is a problem that only women can help with. My gf has a zero sex drive, and it is either since our baby was born at xmas or since we argued a bit since then, not sure which triggered it. We have been getting on great, and i mean gre...
A. 10 July 2006: Thankx for reply Granny - He is a good baby actually, hardly ever cries, sleeps well and bottle feeds, BUT the part you said about putting all her feelings into the baby to be a perfect mother rings loud bells. It is almost like all her love has ... (read in full...)
Ladies, I need your help. After our baby was born my wife has no sex drive and is questioning her feelings for me!
Q. This is a problem that only women can help with. My gf has a zero sex drive, and it is either since our baby was born at xmas or since we argued a bit since then, not sure which triggered it. We have been getting on great, and i mean gre...
A. 9 July 2006: I dont think it is that no, for a while i did, but talking to her she has no other sympton - not generally miserable or depressed, not struggling to get on with life, not crying for no reason etc etc etc - just having no sex drive and being confused ... (read in full...)
Can we learn to love each other again,the way we once did ?
Q. I am going round in circles and could do with some help as I do not know what to do. Sorry if I ramble in advance. Basically my girlfriend and I have been together three years and had the usual ups and downs in that time, possibly and pro...
A. 4 July 2006: Thank you aerial. I hope your situation continues to be good and i hope we go the same way. You have given me hope as I too think she feels that way, but like your husband i know i can make it work, and that we can work, if and big IF she has ... (read in full...)
Can we learn to love each other again,the way we once did ?
Q. I am going round in circles and could do with some help as I do not know what to do. Sorry if I ramble in advance. Basically my girlfriend and I have been together three years and had the usual ups and downs in that time, possibly and pro...
A. 4 July 2006: Aerial, thank you for the reply. I may have not explained this correctly.
i have 100% put my hands up, told her everything and why i did it. I have told her i have changed, i have cried, i have said i will do anything for her, i have said she is e... (read in full...)
Can we learn to love each other again,the way we once did ?
Q. I am going round in circles and could do with some help as I do not know what to do. Sorry if I ramble in advance. Basically my girlfriend and I have been together three years and had the usual ups and downs in that time, possibly and pro...
A. 4 July 2006: Thanks for replies. I appreciate it. The baby is a change for us but i dont think we are exhausted, he is a very good baby who never cries, moans or gets us up in night.
This is so hard, i just cannot work out if she really has had enough or not. ... (read in full...)
Can we learn to love each other again,the way we once did ?
Q. I am going round in circles and could do with some help as I do not know what to do. Sorry if I ramble in advance. Basically my girlfriend and I have been together three years and had the usual ups and downs in that time, possibly and pro...
A. 4 July 2006: What i need to clarify is that she seems very confused and has been given opportunites to end the relationship but doesnt. She acts like we are totally a couple but beneath the surface it is a mess and i wonder if it has something to do with birth ... (read in full...)
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