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writes:I have to ask if how my girlfriend broke up with me is normal or if she was acting spiteful.When we broke up I went round to her house (just to like say goodbye) but she wasn't in (as far as I know). I asked the neighbour when she'd be back but he didn't know. After a week I got back in contact with her to ask how she was. Then she stopped talking, and then 2 weeks later she starts asking whether I had talked to her neighbour. She acted all bitchy about it.I have been asking myself this for months if it was my fault. Is it? Is this normal behaviour after breaking up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe broke up with me, to get back together with her ex
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (11 August 2006):
 Hey,
first off - you havent mentioned the following:
1) who dumped who?
2) how?
3) why?
4) how long had you been going out?
I'm guessing you dumped her, right? She was deeply emotionally attatched to you. I'm betting you dumping her came as kind of a shock. How would you have felt if it were te other way around? She's feeling very hurt - and doesn't want to talk about it as it probably makes it sound more real and she isn't dreaming it. You've got to remember that us girls are very sensitive about this kind of stuff. So talking to the guy who just hurt her that badly (it always hurts at first but she will heal in time) is not a very comforting thought. She'll probably miss you - that's why she didn't want to talk, and then started hating you for breaking up with her, that's why she's being so "bitchy" about it now. She'll be over you soon btu just stay clear and give her some room.
Hope this helped, oh, and I wouldn't get a new girlfriend anytime soon either - think of how she would feel then? She's hating you right now and then you go and get a new girlfriend? Big Mistake.
Phoebe
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reader, badbrit +, writes (11 August 2006):
The only behaviour not normal i am afraid is your own. The relationship was over and it sounds like you had trouble accepting that. If someone is no longer wanting to be with you, sadly that means that basically they no longer want your company, so why should she feel the need to tell you how she is or want to have you coming round to say goodbye.
If you are honest with yourself, you contacted her to see if there was a glimmer of hope of you getting back together not to say bye or she how she is.
I admit that it is hard mate to break up with someone, it is hard that someone gets to know you better than anyone, warts and all, then suddenly you go from best friends, inseperable, to nothing. But that i am afraid is what happens. It is sad, but part of life.
Move on, stop dwelling
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