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writes:I am considering proposing to my girlfriend and want some advice on how to do it and also the ring. We have been together three years, lived together for over two, and have a 8 month old baby.Any ideas on a good way to propose, something romantic is what i am after. We live rural so cant book a show or anything like that. Our baby son is not too well with a permanent condition, so i cant get someone to look after him for a weekend and take her to Paris or something, as much as i want to.ALSO, should i buy a ring beforehand and propose with it or propose and choose a ring together, supposing she says yes of course.I was married before, but never proposed, it just kinda happened!! I never had the big 18th or 21st birthday, the big wedding etc, and for once want to do things right, to be remembered forever. I am woefully lacking in stories of "how i did it" to tell my kids and want a great, nice story to tell them and grandkids one day!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): buy the ring and take her 2 a special place like where u first met of so where tht is special to her and then when the rigth moment comes ask her
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reader, badbrit +, writes (10 August 2006):
badbrit is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey that all really nice, i loving the teddy one, cheers
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 I've got one that has always touched me, it's how my french teacher got married after accidentally breaking her boyfriend's heart. It's an idea, but I figured it's worth a shot. I don't know any girl that wouldn't melt. Anyway, I'm basing it off that, I'm molding it to better fit the situation of course.One day, when the time is right, and she goes somewhere, get together a couple of things she likes, maybe some teddies or candies. And without her noticing, buy some notecards. Now, while she's out, write a clue on the notecards, placing them in the arms or underneath each teddy. The clues would of course lead her on a hunt for the other goodies. Then, after a medium amount of searching, have her stumble upon a teddy with a notecard that will lead her to wherever you are. (Suggestion: At a candle lit dinner table.) Upon her arrival, kneel down, tell her how much you love her and you want to spend the rest of your life with her (the speech is all you bud. No one can tell you that). Then, pull out the ring. And as Malyce said, you can always return the ring if she doesn't seem happy with it.That's one idea, since you can't make it too big, but you want it romantic. Also, you could get someone to watch your baby just for a few hours, then after the dinner, get him and bring him home. ^_^ Hope you like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2006): Buy a ring before hand. Tell the jeweler and make sure if you can come back if the lucky woman doesn't like the ring. I wouldn't be offended if she doesn't like the ring.
Chances are she would be more than touched.
It's the proposal that counts.
Family near by that can spend the night with son? How about a trusted and reliable, responsible friend?
What does she like, any hobbies? Has she shared favorite childhood stories? Most women want the fairytale wedding/engagement. Does she like horses? Dogs? Cats? Teddy bears??? What is her favorite flower? Is this more of a private engagement that you envision or one in front of loved and trusted friends and family?
How about taking a video camera and going to her friends and family and asking them to share their favorite memories of the woman you love. End the video with all the things you love and adore about her. Speak from your heart...she wants this.
Ask her if she feels up to dinner and a movie. Then make her dinner or take her out somewhere she wouldn't normally go. (Of course maybe take her shopping for a fancy dress or something she feels comfortable in)...splurge. Then set up a tv and dvd or vhs and play the movie.
Tell her that you love her and you want to spend a lifetime loving, laughing, together. Give her the ring.
Then after this night, tell her if she wants another ring of her chosing...you are willing to take her shopping.
Then plan a get together with friends and family and have some fun.
This is just one idea.
Best of wishes and congratulations.
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reader, xcherryx +, writes (9 August 2006):
 You sound like you are very much in love. whether to by the ring before or after is quite a tough question, i would say before as its more romantic. some women are realy into a ring in a rose , or in public, or just having the question asked unexpectedly. you need to think about what kind of person she is , whats shes into and whats shed apreciate most. try searching the internet for original ideas to propose. when you do finaly pop the question im sure she will say yes. good luck. x
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