I finally feel happy....so why is my ex contacting me again?
Q. Hi there:) I was just wondering if you guys could clarify something for me. I dumped my ex in April after an extremely difficult 3 year relationship. To cut a long story short: he drank too much, treated me like dirt, took me for granted with his...
A. 10 August 2011: You have handled it well and maybe have the jist of his intentions.
I have had something similar, but I was the one dumped. She has since text and called me after three months saying she misses me etc
I'm not sure how this all relates because ... (read in full...)
Found my 8 year old brother and a girl playing together naked, what should I do?
Q. Hi right now I am very scared and disturbed. For two years now I have been sexually active with my bf and we have done it at my house quite a few times when my parents were not home. However some of those times my little brother who is now 8 was ...
A. 30 July 2011: I have to laugh a little because I got naked with my childminders daughter when I was eleven. I don't even remember why, but it was all rather innocent.
Maybe he has seen you or maybe he hasn't. He needs talking to about it though.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has no interest in playing video games together?
Q. My boyfriend lives a few hours away, so our communication is entirely online. He loves playing video games, and they take up a large part of his time. I've never thought much about it until the last six months or so, when I realized it was ...
A. 7 June 2011: Since you want to play with him i'm assuming that the games are multiplayer. Every guy who likes video games would wish their girlfriend would have an interest in them, but I think his problem is that you are not good enough to play with him. If he ... (read in full...)
Would I get more attention from boys if I let my grades slip down to C and Ds?
Q. Do some boys feel intimidated if a girl gets very high marks at school? It seems to me that the girls who get so much more attention from boys do not get as good grades? Or am I wrong here? Should I try to slacken off a bit at school? One of the ...
A. 21 May 2011: Firstly keep doing what your doing with your grades, they should be your priority. It has been quite a few years since I was at school and unless things have changed then I can't imagine a boy being put off by a girl who gets better grades. I reme... (read in full...)
I'm shy, but how do I make a good impression on this girl I'm crushing on in class?
Q. There's this girl in my class that I'm crushing on. Sometimes I notice her looking at me and when she notices that I'm looking at her, she looks somewhere else. I'm shy and till now, I haven't talked to her yet. How do I make a good impression ...
A. 30 April 2011: If you are constantly glancing at each other there is likely something there. She might have a boyfriend she might not but you won't know unless you start talking to her. You have to have the confidence to do something, because it's unlikely she will... (read in full...)
Was it a good idea to let him go as a friend?
Q. My best mate treats me like crap..ive tried so hard for my mate and my boyfriend to be friends so i can have both the people i love around me and i want to spend time with him and my boyfriend at the same time ..but hes just being so stubborn..he ...
A. 27 January 2011: Sounds like he was only your friend to get closer to you and to become your boyfriend. They don't get one because of jealously, he is just trying to make you choose between them both thinking that he would ultimately break you up with your ... (read in full...)
I'm devastated, what can I do? He's blocked from his life over an email.
Q. He saw an email to my ex - it was bad. I admit that. But it wasn't from present day! And although he saw it recently, before that he saw my messages telling the ex to leave me alone cuz I was happy with my boyfriend. The email was from a stage in ...
A. 26 January 2011: You shouldn't have gone near your ex if you knew any kind of contact with him would mean risking your relationship. Does he know when and why you emailed him? I'm not sure what's in this email, but it must have been pretty bad for things to go this ... (read in full...)
How on earth do you find someone you just CLICK with?
Q. I don't know why I am SO anxious to have a boyfriend. It's driving me crazy. Okay, so, I'm 21 years old. I'm in the nursing program studying to become an RN. I'm very busy all the time now. I have only ever had ONE relationship when I was 19 ye...
A. 20 January 2011: You are still very young and have a lot of your life ahead of you, it's not a race or a competition either. There will be many men who you might like and they simply don't feel the same about you, but then it work's both ways. Don't get phased by ... (read in full...)
I lied and told my boyfriend I was the same age as him, but the gig is up when we celebrate our birthdays!
Q. So I've done something stupid and need your advice on how to fix it...I've been with my bf for 3 months, he's amazing and I am falling for him. Now, the problem is that I told him I'm 29, but I'm actually 30 (he's 29). I didn't intentionally lie, ...
A. 19 January 2011: He might be a little disappointed because your birthdays are so close and it's something special that he thought you were both turning 30 at the same time.
The only mistake you have made is that you have let this carry on, even if you didn't c... (read in full...)
I want a serious relationship, why doesn't anybody else my age want the same?
Q. I'm 23 and quite mature for my age. I want a serious relationship, but all I find is people my age wanting flings. Or they just play you like my ex did and then dump you by text. Why is this? The problem with guys my age is that they only want sex ...
A. 16 January 2011: Agree with the other comments, you are likely attracted to the wrong type of guy that doesn't want a relationship at that age.... (read in full...)
Does this silence mean it's over?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I haven't heard from for almost 2 weeks now. We're in different countries right now. I've tried calling him and left voicemails I don't know how many times but he hasn't returned any of my calls. I sent him a letter which was ...
A. 15 January 2011: You have done pretty much everything you can do at this point and should no longer try to contact him. If he is still interested then he will contact you, it seems that he isn't if he hasn't responded by now, sorry to be blunt. Should look to move ... (read in full...)
Still single. Is there any hope for me?
Q. Is there any hope for me? I'm 25 and I've basically been single my whole life. I'm well educated, decent looking (or so I'm told), friendly, a runner, and over all a well rounded person. There have been two guys who were interested in having sex ...
A. 15 January 2011: Not a lot can be said really, you are still young and you just need to put yourself out there.
If one approach doesn't work, then try something else.
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Why are men so daft?
Q. Why are men so daft. A very old ex, from school, has just got in touch with me on facebook chat, asking me did i remember him and his friend, did i remember going out with him lol. He only split with his girlfriend a few days back, so i have an idea ...
A. 15 January 2011: Aha I know where you are going. Just tell him you're too busy/ not interested or simply meet him for a drink and if he advances then make it clear to him that it's not happening. You said it's been awhile since you knew him and have no idea what he ... (read in full...)
My best friend's crush catches her gaze and mine!
Q. So my best friend likes this guy at school, and when ever they catch each other's eye, she said that they hold each others gaze for what seems like a pretty long time. But whenever I catch the guy I like's eye, if he's already looking at me he looks ...
A. 15 January 2011: Yeah that's personality to me. I tend to look away quickly as well because i'm shy about them catching me. At the same time I think it's awkward and a bit rude to stare with someone you don't know. That's just me, don't worry about it. Talk to the ... (read in full...)
New to dating, what should I do about my cheating boyfriend?
Q. I woke up the other morning to my boyfriend of 7 months alarm on his phone which is normal. I reached over to turn it off. I don't know how commom it is but sometimes when things are kindda fishy I get really bothered. And it just so happened that I ...
A. 11 January 2011: You have no reason to put up with that sort of thing. nothing how I would call a joke. I don't know how the rest of your relationship is and if you love him, but you can always do better than a guy who takes you for granted like that. If he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Controlling mother becoming too much for me.
Q. I've been having problems with my mother since I was a child, she's extremely controlling and it's becoming worse in the last few years. My mam has brought me up as a single parent for all my life and we've always lived with my elderly grandmot...
A. 10 January 2011: Have all these problems come around since your mother knew she would get no more money from you come May? The pressure of having to worry about where your money is coming from can be very daunting. She should work herself and not look to use you as ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to hold a grudge for that long?
Q. Alright, this girl i knew a 3 years ago is trying to get in contact with me. She use to be my bestfriend till one day i found out she had sex with my boyfriend at the time when the 3 of us were hanging out at another friends house. Even though i ...
A. 9 January 2011: That's a really hard choice as there will always be doubt that you can trust her. If she has done it once then she is capable of doing it again. She did an awful thing to you, the boyfriend at the time might be nothing now, but what about your ... (read in full...)
Are we ever going to meet? He stopped texting me
Q. I was due to meet this guy ive been speking to for 4 months yesterday(sat) which never went ahead We speak and txt everyday and everything was still going ahead Anyway i spoke to him for around 15 mins friday nite and he said we will do somt...
A. 9 January 2011: It seems pretty clear that he stood you up after texting him three times over that time period. I would not text him again and give him a couple of days to get back in touch with you if he wants too. He needs a pretty good explanation though and ... (read in full...)
I've just given up caring that boyfriend doesn't treat me right
Q. My bf hasnt always treated me right. And as a result I became very insecure for 2 whole years. But suddenly I woke up and I felt I didn't care. Not about him, I still love him. But I feel like I've just given up caring. I don't know what's changed ...
A. 8 January 2011: You might have just settled for what you have and also maybe lowered your expectations of your relationship. Do you love him still or are you just not sure where you can go from where you are. ... (read in full...)
My friends are trying to convince me the age gap is a problem
Q. I'm 20 and my current boyfriend is 33, we've been together for 10 months or so. We met via work (we play pro badminton) and I used to play mixed doubles for a little while before we got together, which is where we initially got to know each other. (...
A. 7 January 2011: Not exactly sure why your friends keep commenting on the age difference in the relationship. You could say it's very simple and they just don't agree as they are not open minded enough to accept it. Not experiencing it themselves could be a factor ... (read in full...)
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