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reader, livelifelove  +, writes (8 January 2011):
Okay girl
my boyfrined is the same and im going throuh thhe same thing
i always sit here and wonnder is one day is he going to change?
I still love him but something is differnt inside of me
and trust me i know how you feel
but trust me i dont know if you have a chlid by him or if you are plannin but let me tell you one thing
now were are expecting a little girl she is not a mstake but i wish i would of thought because just think before it gets to far.
I hope this helped you out in some way.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 January 2011):
Hurry up and dump him already. You've done the classic thing and settled for someone who is well below you. Leave him, spend a lot of time on yourself and find a guy who actually cares.
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reader, Loveless06 +, writes (8 January 2011):
Break it off like right now! you got used to him treating you that way. it's very wrong. i'm sure you deserve better. no woman should put up with that shit. you will be alot happier when you leave him and life your own life. it won't be easy at first but you will open your eyes to the situation and feel great you are out of it. good luck to you.
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reader, Fabulosa +, writes (8 January 2011):
 You can't love someone if you don't respect yourself. And allowing him.to treat u badly for two year is not a sign of self repect. Don't give up on yourself. Someone will treat u good. Someone will love you the right way. Unfortunately he's not going. Leave before its to late. You deserve better
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Leave him immediately. This is not love anymore. Your mind has merely grown accustomed to this attachment and the abuse he seems to be forcing down your throat. When you leave him, you will find that you do not really love him anymore and you will find that you are much happier without him. It might be difficult but I know and YOU know in your heart that it is for the best that you stop seeing him.
I hope that helps.
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 It seems you have lost your self esteem - you dont like yourself and you have given up trying because no matter what you do it doesnt please him. It sounds like your in a state of shock because you are feeling numb - its the mind trying to cope with reality when some tragic thing has happened or perhaps you are suffereing depression.
Is he hurting you physically and mentally I wonder?
This all sounds like the result of mental abuse but without all the facts its difficult to determine.
You need to go see a doctor, and dont leave it too long.
Go today.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 Might be self preservation. You didn't leave him, and as a result your mind has decided to shut itself off from it, as to not get hurt more.
It does happen. The mind works to take care of you by nature, and I've seen the mind shut itself off before like that. It's a sure sign that you are putting yourself through something not even your subconsciousness wants you to deal with.
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reader, Azza +, writes (8 January 2011):
You might have just settled for what you have and also maybe lowered your expectations of your relationship. Do you love him still or are you just not sure where you can go from where you are.
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