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Im a down to earth honest person. I like to think that I'm a good judge of character. I have been with my partner for 40 years. I live in Yorkshire, England.
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No replies yet... 17 August 2021: I met my husband when we were teenagers. My brother kept coming home from school upset because of a lad who was always picking on him. I just flipped one day and being a bit of a Tomboy I donned my platform boots on, given to me by my sister in law ...
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I feel I’m not good enough for my husband no matter what.
Q. I feel I’m not good enough for my husband no matter what. If we go the beach like we did tonight and a woman as s bikini or costume on he will look. She could be over weight even not much to look at but he will keep doing it. Tells me I’ve got it ...
A. 10 August 2021: Men do look at other women, that doesnt mean they want them, i just dont think they can help it. When my hubby is driving the car on occasion ive seen his head turn, i just say jokingly if shes blond ! Right thats it, im going blond!' On another ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid by working towards permanently moving out as soon as possible?
Q. I’m back home over summer due to COVID and that has triggered a bunch of memories i hadnt realized i’d forgotten and feel unsafe because of this. The majority of these are from when I was under the age of 10, my mother calls me crazy for still ...
A. 10 August 2021: Yes get out as soon as you can. You need to make sure your brother is safe also. Contact childrens services and talk to them. They will go in and do an assessment. Your parents are obviously been abusive.... (read in full...)
Do I say how I feel or remain quiet but regret it?
Q. Hey everyone, I’m in need of some help! So a few years back I was chatting to this boy ok Twitter (weird I know) but we lost contact due to me getting in a relationship and me living far away at the time. Fast forward and I’m out of my relationship ...
A. 10 August 2021: He is using you. You wont be the only girl hes stringing along. With the age of twitter, dating apps etc its so common. You want someone just for yourself not to share. Someone who gueniunly wants you will make contact with you as much as he can and ... (read in full...)
Do I say how I feel or remain quiet but regret it?
Q. Hey everyone, I’m in need of some help! So a few years back I was chatting to this boy ok Twitter (weird I know) but we lost contact due to me getting in a relationship and me living far away at the time. Fast forward and I’m out of my relationship ...
A. 10 August 2021: He is using you. You wont be the only girl hes stringing along. With the age of twitter, dating apps etc its so common. You want someone just for yourself not to share. Someone who gueniunly wants you will make contact with you as much as he can and ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents
Q. Am i being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents. It has started to really bother me. Wee have a good relationship, been on holiday together, he's good with my kid ect. I think I keep myself reasonably well....
A. 10 August 2021: Could be hes embarrased about them, his upbringing . Might be a reason why he doesnt live too close to them. They dont sound a close loving family to me. It could be a good thing to not pursue it.... (read in full...)
Why do I desire her so much when I know in reality is 100% a never?
Q. Why do I desire her so much when I know in reality is 100% a never?...
A. 10 August 2021: We always want something that we cant have. If there was a spark with her then you would know it. Look elsewhere before your heart gets broken.... (read in full...)
I think this girl likes my boyfriend
Q. Hi everybody. Some advice please. There's this girl that I just noticed. I've been observing her behaviour. I noticed her looking at my boyfriend. At first, I thought it was nothing because maybe she looks at him out of curiosity or something els...
A. 10 August 2021: Reading between the lines, always go on your gut reaction. Is there something going on? befriend her and get to know her then you can keep a clioser eye on her.... (read in full...)
Does wife want a threesome or just role play?
Q. I have been happily married with my wife for many years. Sex is good. Sometimes it is romantic, other times is primal and erotic. We often flirt with the idea of a threesome, but more just role play as I think she is too conservative to follow ...
A. 10 August 2021: Good answers. Stick with the fantasies. If you involve a third party you will be bringing a lot of trouble into you relationship i should think. All too often things dont end well when fantasies are brought into reality. Have you ever thought of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is grieving the loss of his mother and has pushed me away
Q. Hi I would love some advice on how to deal with my boyfriend who is grieving and has pushed me away. He told me he needs time to deal with the death of his mother who was very ill for sometime didn't die suddenly and says he needs peace and quiet ...
A. 10 August 2021: Give him as much time as he needs. He seems like he has gone into his shell and needs some time to digest, remember life with mum, re adjust. One of the stages of grief is guilt, could he have done more etc. Just be there for him for the moment even ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is grieving the loss of his mother and has pushed me away
Q. Hi I would love some advice on how to deal with my boyfriend who is grieving and has pushed me away. He told me he needs time to deal with the death of his mother who was very ill for sometime didn't die suddenly and says he needs peace and quiet ...
A. 10 August 2021: Give him as much time as he needs. He seems like he has gone into his shell and needs some time to digest, remeber life with mum, re adjust. One of the stages of grief is guilt, could he have done more etc. Just be there for him for the moment even ... (read in full...)
My partner's porn watching really makes me feel unconfident
Q. So I recently found out my partner is watching porn again which makes me really unhappy. The first time I found out he was watching it was whilst he was in the bathroom with the volume turned up, so it was quite obvious and he made no effort t...
A. 10 August 2021: Its true a lot of adults watch porn. A lot of couples watch porn together. on a good note its out in the open with you and hes not denying watching it but in a relationship youve both got to be comfortable and respect each others wishes. He knows ... (read in full...)
Can a school bully ever have redemptive qualities?
Q. When I was in 10th grade, the 11th and 12th graders were hazing and initiating us even though it was against school rules. I thought it was just a guy thing but then had an 11th grade girl tells me I was her initiation assignment. I had training in ...
A. 8 August 2021: Some good answers here. Mine is just short and sweet. School bullies should be put in their place but maybe taking out her knee was a bit harsh. Wasnt there any other manouver you were taught just to push her away. I cant think why she woukd want to ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over losing my best friend
Q. Hi everyone. I lost my best friend a few years ago and I am not coping very well with the grieving aspect. We met as teenagers, we were so close and we would drive out until the early hours and just lay looking at the stars in his car just cha...
A. 8 August 2021: Im sorry for your loss. Grief affects everyone differently. You are holding on to something that needs closure. Is the life you have now not complete and you are finding solace by clinging on to your old memories for comfort. I would suggest that ... (read in full...)
26 years old and never had any romantic experience
Q. Can anyone tell me what being in a relationship is like? Asking for a friend... Lol joking aside, 26M. Virgin. Kiss-less. Holding Hands-Less. Date-less. Getting a girl's number-less. It's hard to deal with. I guess the main problem is I've a...
A. 8 August 2021: First let me say, keep away from the online stuff. A lot of people are flitting about, being players, not really looking for meaninful relationships and more like looking to see how popular they can become. Have you thought of joining a gym. My son ... (read in full...)
Was my partner being mean and cruel about my appearance?
Q. I'm in need of some advice. I've gained a few pounds during the pandemic. I used to be in great shape before I was forced to stop working out. It has been 1.5 years of inactivity. Even so, I still think my body looks good. I have gained w...
A. 8 August 2021: Youve got some good answers here. You sound like you know your self worth. Sounds like the green monster is surfing. He sounds insecure and cruel. Tell him, ok we will both go to the gym and whilst Im trying to look like a kardashian you can be ... (read in full...)
Should I stay friends with my ex-boyfriend?
Q. Trigger warning: this involves a suicide attempt. When my boyfriend and I were together, he was very selfish and stingy. I accepted this about him, because I understand he is an anxious person when it comes to money and he’s afraid he’s goin...
A. 8 August 2021: Hi, to answer your question, in a nutshell, yes the first thing you should do is cut him out of your life. Its a very unhelpful situation with him. You must be stronger with your mother also. Speak to your doctor and let them know how you are ... (read in full...)
I wanted to cuddle after sex but he just rolled over and went to sleep
Q. Hi, has anyone had this happen to them. I’ve being dating a man for about 6 weeks. I’ve only ever slept with him once and that night, after we slept together he just turned over and went to sleep. I’ve never experienced this before, I like a cuddle...
A. 7 August 2021: Hi, dont worry too much at this stage in your relationship. There could be many factors as to why he rolled over. He may not be very experienced with what women want. You just need to talk about this and tell him what you like. If after youve ... (read in full...)
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