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| Latest articles: Having Sex for the First Time
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5 June 2012: Having sex for the first time is daunting for anyone whether you've been with the person for 6 months or 6 years. It can be something that you love or hate but you will remember it for the rest of your life. First, sweep all expectations aside. M...
The V-Card for Teens
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5 June 2012: The V-Card, innocent, untouched, whatever you want to call it. Virginity is something that affects women (and men!) from the ages of 13 onwards. Being a virgin means different things to different people. For most it means not having sex before. ...
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I'm pregnant and don't even know the guy's last name!
Q. im gonna make it short. im 16 and about 2 months ago i went to a rave and got with this way older guy that poped my cherry and said hes got "it" under control and obvi. didnt it was the worst thing in my life he wasnt gental at all and i just found ...
A. 11 June 2012: First, silly, silly girl but I'm not going on about that because you can sort that out...
Tell someone, even if it is your doctor. Since you are under 18 you may have to tell your parent in order to have an abortion legally but research into it. ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong for letting my 17 year old daughter sleep in the same bed as her male best friend?
Q. I let my daughter's male best friend sleep in her bed with her - am I a bad mother? My daughter and her best friend are 17 and I completely trust my daughter's trust in him. I know she wouldn't do anything because she's too insecure for anything ...
A. 6 June 2012: If they're friends then nothing will happen...or it shouldn't do. Girls can just have male friends and it's just a generation gap where males and females are socialising more as friends than they did in the past. You're not a bad mother because you ... (read in full...)
My friend is betraying my trust by telling my secrets to our other friends!
Q. Help!! One of My best friends keeps getting me to tell her secrets and then tells some of my other friends!! I feel like i can't trust her anymore but she is having a hard time right now (shes having counselling) and I don't want to talk to her ...
A. 6 June 2012: Simple; don't tell her anything then she has nothing to say. It doesn't matter that she's going through a rough time. If she can't keep a secret then she's not worth telling them to.... (read in full...)
Can't get my bf to cum when I give him Oral
Q. i need help! i recently gave my boyfriend oral for the first time and i couldn't get him to cum! i asked him what i could do and he just said don't worry its not your fault. and i said well why couldnt i? what was different? and he just said it ...
A. 6 June 2012: Maybe it wasn't your fault! He may just have not been in the mood in which case it is definantly not your fault. If you got some reaction then good, and if you didn't then try again next time.
One tip is fiddle gently with his balls whilst you'... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and don't know if I want to lose my virginity or not
Q. I'm 17 and basically, confused about weather I want to loose my virginity or not. I'm one of the oldest of my friends and I'm the only one to be still a virgin. I know that at least a small part of me wants to loose it, but the other half of me is ...
A. 5 June 2012: Do what you feel is right. If you do it, do it for you, not your friends. it's your body not theirs so they have no rights to it.... (read in full...)
How do I support my friend who just broke up?
Q. My friend had been with her boyfriend for 19 months before they split up, it was her first boyfriend so it's kind of hit her hard. How do i support her? Like, what do i say and do? Help will be appreciated, thanks ...
A. 5 June 2012: Don't hang over her like 'Are you ok?' or 'Do you want to talk?'. If you're her friend then she'll talk if she needs to.
Obviously she's been hit hard. Prioritise her in your friendship group. If she wants to go to the cinema then go to the cine... (read in full...)
I am SO DONE with my MOTHER!
Q. i dont know what to do anymore! i am soooooo extremly annoyed my mom needs to stop she finds any EXCUSE to start nagging at me i honestly cant take it anymore! i dont wanna be at home i rather just runaway! if my bf has his hand over me i dont know ...
A. 5 June 2012: CALM DOWN! You wrote this when you were p***** off I can see. First calm down. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has had annoying mothers. It is a part of life that we have to deal with. It happens when your mother realises that her 'little girl' is... (read in full...)
My insecurities are pushing him away.
Q. I've been dating this guy for more than a year now. We have a really good relationship. The first half was amazing. We told each other everything and I was genuinely happy, and being depressed that's saying something. However, as the relationship ...
A. 5 June 2012: First things first; your insecurities. Do you know where these stem from? Try to combat these and then things will pick up. If you cry when you see him then he probably thinks that he is doing something wrong or hurting you. If he says he loves yo... (read in full...)
I'm only 14 and pregnant and I'm afraid to tell my b/f or family
Q. Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, but 2 months ago we had sex. We did use a condom but I had many symptoms of being pregnant. I finally took a test 2 weeks ago and it was positive. I haven't told anybody except for my bestfrie...
A. 5 June 2012: No matter what happens you MUST tell your parents. This is one of the rare occasions when they actually know what they're doing. Be prepared that if you're only 14 they'll be in shock because; 1)You have had under-age sex (your choice, you body... (read in full...)
I just want an innocent relationship, but guys run when I say 'no sex'
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex... But I don't! I'm only 14. I'm an attractive girl, but every guy asks for sex anywhere I say no they run.. I just want an innocent relationship. I we can touch, and kiss but not sex.. How do I get a guy I be ohkay ...
A. 5 June 2012: It sounds harsh but if he continues to harrass you into sex then break up with him. I'm not surprised that you don't want sex yet! You should be having an innocent relationship! Did you know (probably) that it is technically rape if underage people ... (read in full...)
How can I show my boyfriend I really love him with out having sex ?
Q. how can i show my boyfriend i really love him with out having sex with him i am planning to be with him for a very long time any ideas tips it would realy help!...
A. 29 May 2012: Just love him. That sounds so cheesy, I know, but if he knows that you love him then sex should be the least of his worries!
But if you do feel like you need to pleasure him, think about foreplay techniques like handjobs and blowjobs
Just make sur... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with scars from self-injury?
Q. Would you date someone with scars from self-injury? I recently went through a pretty rough period while I was far away from home at college, and I became so mentally worn that I resorted to cutting as a coping method. I know it's bad, and I kn...
A. 29 May 2012: First thing, your father was only saying that to make you stop. If a healthy, self-respecting man can't love you then that man doesn't deserve you. The 'healthy, self-respecting' men he seems to be talking about are people who see the scars and go ... (read in full...)
I have this "shell" around me, I don't let people in that easily!
Q. In the past few months, i met a guy and started talking to him. We clicked right away, we had similar personalities, we understood each other pretty well. I have this "shell" around me, i don't let people in that easily and i'm so afraid of reject...
A. 29 May 2012: I used to have a shell as well. And I pushed people away without knowing it. Just act like you have no care in the world (I know! I was told to do this!) or find something that you love. If you get so absorbed into something, even if it's making ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my boyfriend but his mom will be my teacher next year! Should I go ahead anyway?
Q. i want to break up with my boyfriend because he has been talking with my emeny but the thing is that his mom will be my science teacher next year and tennis person, should i still break up with him?...
A. 29 May 2012: Break up with him but make sure you have your reasons ready.
His mum should not treat you any differently to any other pupil. If you don't expect anything different, you shouldn't be treated differently. If she does treat you differently then tell... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I don't want to send him pictures of myself?
Q. So me and my boyfriend for 4 months recently had sex and he wants it a lot now. Like he wants me to send him pictures and everything. I told him I'm not his personal playboy and he got upset. I'm a sweet girl and hate seeing him upset. But I don't ...
A. 29 May 2012: Don't send the pictures! But if it does happen keep this article as reference because it is illegal for him to post pictures of you without your consent.
Just don't take any and then there is nothing to send. You sound like a really nice girl so d... (read in full...)
Need some info and insight about having sex on a girl's period. Help?
Q. I'm in a real pickle about this one. My current girlfriend and I trust each other enough to have unprotected sex, and of course I get that feeling that I want to cum inside of her, although I can always control that urge. Me and her were talking ...
A. 29 May 2012: Ok unprotected sex=risk of pregnancy. Accidents happen all the timeso don't let a pregnancy be one of these accidents. I understand that you trust each other and that is really good for your relationship but one of you should go onto some form of ... (read in full...)
I lied in front of my friends and said I wasn't a virgin, but I am and I'm afraid they'll find out!
Q. i have a massive problem, that could screw me up and lose my best friends and the guy if i tell the truth!! I'm going out with this guy, we're getting closer and i can feel it's leading somewhere.. thing is i haven't had sex before, but i don't want ...
A. 29 May 2012: If you're feeling like this then it's probable that some of your friends are lying about their virginity as well. There is nothing to be ashamed of and if you feel that there is then you are not hanging around the right people. It is your body and... (read in full...)
Does this married man think that I will be waiting for him forever?
Q. Hi Cupids. I was involved in an emotional affair with a married man who has two children. I am married with one child. The affair was about to turn physical but he is the one who decided to walk away. I was severely heartbroken and devastated w...
A. 29 December 2011: Ignore him. You have made your feelings clear and you are the one being mature. 1) He is cheating on his wife 2) You have obviously moved so forget about him.
On a different subject, getting into an affair is not the most intelligent thing to do. ... (read in full...)
Puzzling male behavior with this guy! Male advice appreciated!
Q. Well, this guy invited me out once, during the date he arranged to go to the cinema together, then we go to the cinema and he doesn't really talk a lot. then he suggests to have some dinner. then he makes me pay for everything. no problem, I get it, ...
A. 29 December 2011: Just forget about him. If he's trying to be attractive by playing hard to get, it's obviously not working.
Also, you can't expect him to act as a support network if he's met you once. He left you his number as he probably does with all the wome... (read in full...)
I met this girl but she has a boyfriend. Can we still hang out?
Q. Hey guys and girls. Happy holidays :D Hope you people had lots of fun. Alright here's the help I need. I meet this girl at a formal like around 1 week ago for like an Religious Catholic Organization. Alright I meet her, I don't wanna over board...
A. 29 December 2011: Ok...sounds like this girl may have been a bit of a player or she enjoys leading men on.
Don't get involved with the boyfriend. If you're going to see her, see her in the company of others so it is less awkward as there is less one-to-one contact.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants these poisonous "friends" back into his life, but I feel as if my life is being turned upside down again. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. I have been with my partner for 4 years and we have had a great relationship - he's stuck by me through everything even when my mum and brother passed away 2 years ago and everything was hectic. We are now living together, we both work and are very ...
A. 29 December 2011: If I were you, I would be quite worried. Well done for getting your life back on track and I understand how confusing and frustrating this may be for you.
First things first, you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend about what they sai... (read in full...)
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