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writes:Having sex for the first time is daunting for anyone whether you've been with the person for 6 months or 6 years. It can be something that you love or hate but you will remember it for the rest of your life.First, sweep all expectations aside. Many people expect it just to slide in easily and heyho. Both people orgasm and then fall asleep cuddled together. This is rarely the case. If you are both virgins then neither of you will know what is going on so it's not going to run smoothly.Next, and most importantly, use contraception! Whether you use a condom or the pill use some form of contraceptive. Babies are very easily made. Contraceptives not only prevent babies but STD/STI's that you may catch from the other person.For the purpose of this article let us presume that both people here are virgins and we have one male and one female. Now the girl is probably feeling more nervous than the guy so there is one thing that you should do to create 'the mood'. Foreplay! These acts allow you to become accustom to both yours and your partners body. What they like, what they don't etc etc.Position. This varies. Most people do the missionary because it is intimate and it gives male dominance however another good position is girl-on-top because this allows her to control the speed and depth of thrusts. Don't copy some extreme position for the first time because that will be difficult in an already difficult situation.The first penetration, for the girl, will be painful. For some girls it may only hurt a tiny bit, for others it may be extrememly painful. Listen to your partner, boys! The difference in pain can come from whether her hymen is intact (broken from sports), the strength of her hymen or the size tampon she uses. Go slowly. If it feels like a crawl good, you're going at the right speed. If it isn't going too well then lube yourself up and try again. Many condoms are self-lubing (another reason to use contraceptives!).The first few thrusts are going to be rocky but try to create a slow rhythm to ease both of you into it. Stop often to kiss or fondle and keep asking eachother questions like 'Are you ok?' or 'How is it feeling?'. As you get more into it then move faster but still not too fast.Many women find that they can not orgasm from penetrative sex alone so do something to make her feel pleasure, especially if you have already climaxed. Girls, climaxing is a very hard job for guys so they will probably want to sleep afterwards.If you decide that tonight is not the night then just have a night together.Remember that it is about the pair of you so listen to eachother and make it something that you WANT to rememeber for the rest of your life. AND DO NOT FORGET TO USE A CONTRACEPTIVE OF SOME FORM!
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reader, lily13524  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Just reading this article,brings back memory of my first time.I remember clearly it was with a man around 6 years older than me and I was 16 at that time.I figured that having sex with an older guy would not put me in a position to really worry about pregnancy,since the older guy have much more experience than guys around my age.But truly I believe that persons should engage in sexual activity with individuals they truly like/love or have some sort of sexual feelings towards them.Other than that,if you choose to have sex with someone without the things I previously mentioned,I assure you,your first time experience or any other experiences will be disbelieving and passionless.
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