Having an affair but scared to let my husband go.....
Q. I have been married for 15 years, have two children aged 18 and 12, and I have been having an affair for the last 7 months, and now im in a total dilemma! My husband is generally a good, honest, man, but he plays golf on his days off work and me and ...
A. 16 May 2010: Dear lady...from what you say it seems; You have been married for fifteen years, you are bored and lonely and feel life is passing you by. You are no longer in love with hubby,but reluctant to run off with new man {better the devil you know than the ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about his financial situation?
Q. please can anyone explain this-i feel like im going insane i work with this guy who ive developed feelings for. hes unaware but likes me a lot and we do get on really well. hes had a lot of stuff going on-his marriage ended last year and he hasnt ha...
A. 3 May 2010: Dear girl...how can you have "developed feelings' for this man who is already treating you with such scant respect?Don`t you feel you deserve better than picking up the tab constantly for a freeloader? This man is obviously a "user'and and men ... (read in full...)
Fighting often, and in front of the child -- should we divorce?
Q. My husband and I have been married for four years. We have a wonderful little girl who is three years old. So when we first met we were both on drugs, in a very bad place in our lives. We started out as friends and gradualy it turned into more. ...
A. 2 May 2010: Dear girl..Firstly,their seems to be a lot of issues here.
The most important thing is your daughter right? Do you really think the relationship you describe with your husband is doing her any good? She is constantly witnessing a dysf... (read in full...)
How can I back down and tell my daughter I am sorry?
Q. My only daughter has always been my baby girl. Ever since she was just a little girl she talked about beign a princess on her wedding day. I always told her that I would make her a princess on that day, I just didn't think that day would come so ...
A. 1 May 2010: Dear Guy,this is the kind of thing that happens again and again.You and your wife obviously love your daughter and want only the best for her..and yes, she is on the young side,and waiting at least another couple of years would be much better.
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His actions don't match his words of love
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for almost eight years, married the last three. My husband had a couple of bad relationships and has difficulty trusting anyone. One relationship resulted in a child he paid support for and never saw pa...
A. 1 May 2010: Dear Girl...your husband has serious issues from his past that he has not dealt with. He has very deep seated emotional problems that stem from somewhere in his childhood.You say you do not want to leave and you want to make it work. This would ... (read in full...)
Can I trust my girlfriend again after she left me for another man?
Q. do i trust my girlfriend again my girlfriend left me for another guy, she slept with him , then a week later told me she had made a big mistake...she was working away with him, so it took her 5 months to finish her contract and return to me..in t...
A. 30 April 2010:
Dear guy..It sounds as if you have deep feelings for your girlfriend. Obviously you would not have resumed the relationship after she left you for someone else if you did not.
If you are both serious about repairing the relationship it will tak... (read in full...)
Should I listen to what he has to say after he has cheated on me?
Q. Hi uncles and aunts! Wel, i'm just gona get on it. Yesterday my bf confessed to have been cheating on me... I'm so confused, angry and sad, i feel betrayed and lied to.. I don't knw what to do, i thought i needed to speak to someone. He confes...
A. 30 April 2010: Dear girl...Firstly, was he found out in his cheating? or did he just "confess"? If it was because you found him out that makes it worse.If he just "confessed" then at least he had some guilt feelings.
At any rate, you now know you are with a man ... (read in full...)
Am I being too nit picky? Should I try to reconcile?
Q. I am 23 years old and my ex-boyfriend, whom I broke up with yesterday, is 26. I am considering calling him to reconcile/talk and am not sure if this is a good idea. My boyfriend is a wonderful man-- tender, very physically affectionate (borderline ...
A. 29 April 2010: Dear girl...firstly, it is not a good idea to stay in a relationship through fear. {"If I leave will I find another good man..ect"] That is called staying through fear,and is a very bad idea.
Secondly you are not going with your intuition whic... (read in full...)
He's upset and snapping at me -- why?
Q. i dont know whats going on with my boyfriend, he got rejected by the raf becos he has a shellfish allergy, and his so annoyed by that, i understand. since then though he has been in a funny mood with me, and i try an easure him but his telling ...
A. 28 April 2010: Dear girl,firstly, it is not so uncommon for people to snap at others and be in a bad mood when things go wrong in their life...he is only human. Just bear with him and give him some space, and some understanding,it won`t last very long.
Seco... (read in full...)
He says he wants space to 'clear his head', should I be concerned?
Q. My boyfriend, who I have been with for 2 and a half years, has asked for 'space to clear his head' admist conflict between his mother and i (not caused by myself, but through her jealously of him having another important female in his life) I find...
A. 27 April 2010: Dear girl..If your boyfriend has asked for some space,why not give it to him? A good relationship is about give and take. If you love him,let him have the space he needs for a little while and let him know you are there for him too..
Whatever the ... (read in full...)
Confused and wondering what this means.
Q. My boyfriend told me last night that he will not leave me for another woman but will for his son. Then he said I'm honest just don't ask me if I slept with, what does it mean. We were suppose to get closer after his court with his ex nut it's made ...
A. 26 April 2010: Dear girl, your relationship with this man sounds very precarious. Firstly, you should find out who broke up with who. In other words, was it his ex wife who broke up with him? Secondly, he is more or less telling you in so many words, that he may ... (read in full...)
Very confused, am I over analyzing?
Q. Hello Sorry if this is long winded I "met" a nice guy online 6-7 weeks ago and we began online chatting, then texting(lots, quite flirty too), email and a few long phonecalls, seemed to get on well and have a laugh, so finally met up two weeks ago...
A. 25 April 2010: Dear girl..you just don`t know enough about this mans history or his character. The fact that you had to ask him out for the second date should have given you clue.If he was a genuine guy looking for a relationship and liked you..he would have ... (read in full...)
I was strong enough to leave, but don't feel strong now I have.
Q. Hello everyone I have recently left my b/f of 4 yrs. He kept writing sexual messages to other women and he did eventually cheat on me. It has been 2 months now and I am holding up. But I just found out my friend has a bf now. She is in ontario ...
A. 25 April 2010: Dear Girl, you say there are moments where "you wish you still have him" What exactly did you have? You were with someone who was cheating on you right?Is that really a person you want in your life? If you had stayed, you would no doubt have had a ... (read in full...)
Is this guy settling for me?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship for a year now. I feel that I love this guy and told him but he hasn't said it back, he said that he needs more time. My gut feeling is that he is settling for me because he told me that he cares for me deeply but has ...
A. 25 April 2010: Dear girl...the first thing you need to do is a little self examination. your "problem" isn`t about him,it`s about you.
You obviously have some serious self esteem issues that you need to address. Firstly,go and get yourself a few good books on t... (read in full...)
He's afraid to love again, should I hand in there or move one ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months now. He has had a bad experiance in the past (about 4 years ago) where he was in love with a girl, and was going to marry her. However she cheated on him with one of his best friends, they broke up ...
A. 25 April 2010: Dear girl,you are already answering your own question. You know in your heart {gut feeling} that you are wasting your time. You just don`t want to admit it...We ignore our intuition at our peril.
I will tell you what your intuition has been tell... (read in full...)
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