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... Send *illymay a private message | | | *illymay's profile:i am a 31 year old woman with 2 kids and in a happy relationship.i like to work people out,like to no wat makes them tick.i enjoy helping people as it gives me comfort.i am known 4 being a very honest person so u will always get as honest an answer as i can give.i am a bit of a nutter but in a good way.ive had alot happen to me and people i love through my life so i feel that im in a perfect position to advise.i love my life but thats only happened in the last 3 years,it took alot of hard work to get to a place in my life where i am happy. |
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Should I ask her out or wait awhile?
Q. I've known her since grade 9 (grade 11 now) and we've been pretty close friends since then, I started liking her around June last year. She has had a couple bad relationships where the guy would date her for a couple weeks then ask her out again, ...
A. 8 April 2009: hi there my advice would be to be a very good friend to her rite now.take her out to the movies and food and walks and give her an idea of what it would be like to date you without the pressure of being boyfriend and girlfriend. then maybe fur... (read in full...)
My friend gave a blow job and now I can't help but be disgusted by her!
Q. Ok, so here's the deal. Recently one of my friends gave her bf oral sex. I asked her over text and she ignored it. Then, rumors went around school so everyone knew basically. Then I found out it was true because she admited it. Shes only 12 and im ...
A. 4 April 2009: well,i think u have a good head on those young shoulders and i have a daughter a few years younger than u and i hope she thinks as u do when she is your age.
this girl is so young and it is a horrible thought that a girl of that age feels she had ... (read in full...)
He'd rather masturbate than use condoms with me. I feel so unwanted!
Q. I walked in on my boyfriend masturbating the other day, and while I know that masturbating is completely normal, and I have nothing against it at all, it really hurt me for some reason. I think it hurt me because we rarely have sex, and he claims ...
A. 4 April 2009: hi,
i am so sorry.i wasnt sure,thankyou 4 explaining.
it sounds to me that something is not rite.u have to decide,do u want to accept things the way they are or do you want to change these things that are making u unhappy and down on yourself... (read in full...)
He'd rather masturbate than use condoms with me. I feel so unwanted!
Q. I walked in on my boyfriend masturbating the other day, and while I know that masturbating is completely normal, and I have nothing against it at all, it really hurt me for some reason. I think it hurt me because we rarely have sex, and he claims ...
A. 4 April 2009: hi sweeti,
to be honest it does sound as if all is not well in the sex department.why do u not have access to contrceptive pill.im thinking maybe you are younger than u have said.its fine,im not here to judge you,and i am sorry if i am wrong thin... (read in full...)
I have razor rash! How can I avoid this when shaving?
Q. i shave my public hair and now i have gt little red dotes all over .. lots . wtf !! i cant shave now cause it iwll get worse and they will get caught in the razor and i dont think they will go away !! help !! is this common ????? what can i do ??...
A. 3 April 2009: hi,
yes!its very common.my advise would be let it grow out for a week and then either wax,which is easy if u follow the instructions.if u dont fancy that get a good hair removal cream.look it up on the internet that will tell u the best ones to use,... (read in full...)
Met someone new and better than my boyfriend. What do I do?
Q. I have been on and off with my boyfriend of almost two years. I feel like our relationship has gone through a very rough patch. It is not easy, even though we loved each other. All these times I have been working hard to make the relationship to ...
A. 3 April 2009: hi there,
it sounds as if the relationship u r in has run its course regardless of anyone new in your life.first of all from what u have said it sounds as if u have outgrown your man.to have a clear mind u should be honest with your partner and tell... (read in full...)
Broke up now wants to marry me...Should I consider it?
Q. I'm a female of 24 years old. I have 2 lovely childen by my ex boyfriend. Reason i broke it off with him was because he made another woman pregnant. It has been 2 yrs some months since we called it quitz. Now he has been aproaching me wanting us t...
A. 23 March 2009: i just want to say,whoever thinks its a good idea for people 2 stay 2gether 4 the kids sake is completely wrong.it can tear a family apart and no one is happy.if u r unhappy then so r your children.i can tell u it will not have a good effect on ... (read in full...)
Broke up now wants to marry me...Should I consider it?
Q. I'm a female of 24 years old. I have 2 lovely childen by my ex boyfriend. Reason i broke it off with him was because he made another woman pregnant. It has been 2 yrs some months since we called it quitz. Now he has been aproaching me wanting us t...
A. 19 March 2009: hello there to be honest with you,i would have to say no.the reason i would say no is cause its been some time since the breakup which means u have had time to get over him and he has had time to miss you and regret his actions. but even if he... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and I don't know what to do.
Q. Hello, I discovered nearly two weeks ago that my boyfriend of a year and half had been cheating on me for two weeks. When i confronted him he did not try and deny it and said "im sorry i do not know why i did it". He has told me that he has end...
A. 9 March 2009: hi,
there is no rite answer to this question im afraid.he has broke your heart and that feels devastating.u probably do nothing all day but tie yourself into nots wondering what he is doing and then having images in your head of them.
thats... (read in full...)
Love or just friendship?
Q. There's this boy that I am REALLY good friends with him. I have been fancing him really badly since ages, and I know that he knows that, but he also knows that I am not allowed 2 have a boyfriend so I don't know how he thinks about me. Everyone ...
A. 4 March 2009: hello there,
it sounds as if he does like u but to be sure u have to ask.it will never become clear if no one makes the first move.
from what u have said about yourself it sounds as tho he doesnt want to step over any bondarys.so,how do u feel,is ... (read in full...)
I got back with him as I was scared he would hurt himself, how do I handle this situation?
Q. Ok so I've been dating this guy for a few months now. And I have to say our relationship doesn't make any sense. For one he's already talking about marriage and having kids. When he has 2 kids and I have 1. I told him I'm not ready for marriage, but ...
A. 2 March 2009: hi,you sound very confused,you have my sympathys.i have been on both ends,once i was with someone who just wouldnt take no for an answer.also i have been the one to be obsessed with a guy.believe me sweeti,i no it isnt an attractive quality in ... (read in full...)
I want my sister's deadbeat boyfriend's friend to GO AWAY!
Q. Ok, so i started dating this guy that i met through my sister that isn't living her life right, who is dating a dead beat guy. the guy i met was his friend. i knew it was a bad idea but they said he was nothing like my sisters boyfriend. and he ...
A. 2 March 2009: hi,
well,first off,im so glad you got yourself out of the situation with him.you really did the right thing especilly when there are drugs involved.
i no its painful,you feel that you have been treated badly,and you have sweeti.
your sister shoul... (read in full...)
He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it.
Q. My boyfriend and I been going through some shit lately. He's having sex with someone else, but he finds no problem telling me about it. He tells me it's only because of the kids he loves me, so it's best if we keep just a friendly relationship. ...
A. 28 February 2009: hello, i really do feel for u as this is something i have been through myself.y do u not feel that u deserve more from a man,because u do.if he thinks the things he is doing is fine then im sorry but he will never ever change.its a very difficul... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend is unconsciously trying to sabotage our relationship!
Q. I think my boyfriend's best friend is unconsciously trying to sabotage our relationship! His best friend is a girl and anyone with working eyes can see she has a thing for him. My boyfriend insists they are just friends, though. But when he says ...
A. 28 February 2009: hi,
i was in your situation when i met my first love.his best friend was and still is a girl.it was very difficult to come to terms with.he and she always insistead they had always just been friends and they were very close.now,i cant tell u that... (read in full...)
How can I stop this mindset and get over him?
Q. I lived with Tim for 8 years. We owned a home together and moved out last April. Main problem was his ex-wife and his kids. The Ex harrassed and stalked me during those years, I did have a restraining order and she broke it 21 times. The kids ...
A. 28 February 2009: hi kathleen,im affraid what u r experiencing is called the grass is always greener.its not u no,when u have only fantasy to go on everything seems like it was perfect in yr mind,when infact it never was perfect between u was it.u have to think what ... (read in full...)
Is 32 years... old???
Q. Is 32 old? In people's eyes and in comparison to some still in their 20's?...
A. 27 February 2009: hi,
im 32 this year and ive never looked better or felt better in my entire life.i always get told i look in my early 20's which is great.i have 2 kids and a great man.20's can be hard and confusing.i have life cracked now im in my thirties.i love... (read in full...)
Will all of this that I have found out "blow" over???
Q. I just found out my wife cheated on me while we were engaged. I'm really angry and hurt. I don't know what to do. We were engaged and got married in Summer 2007. There was one time we had a big fight and didn't speak for 2 weeks, but didn't break up...
A. 27 February 2009: hi, I'm sorry you are going through this, its very painful. Yes, you should force the issue, wheather you decide to end the relationship or not, its important 4 peace of mind that you know what happened. I know not everyone would agree with me,... (read in full...)
Can an emotionally abusive man change with therapy
Q. can a self centered emotional abusive man change with therapy or it is a long up hill battle. He only sees things one way his - even if everyone disagrees. He is stubborn. He even gets mad at doormen and if you dont agree with his views on eve...
A. 26 February 2009: hi.people always say,leave him u will never cahnge him.my dad was that way 4 nearly all of my life and as im sure u can guess,it made home life difficult.he has cahnged to a certain degree,but he can still be very difficult.i think it depends on how ... (read in full...)
Can an emotionally abusive man change with therapy
Q. can a self centered emotional abusive man change with therapy or it is a long up hill battle. He only sees things one way his - even if everyone disagrees. He is stubborn. He even gets mad at doormen and if you dont agree with his views on eve...
A. 26 February 2009: hi.people always say,leave him u will never cahnge him.my dad was that way 4 nearly all of my life and as im sure u can guess,it made home life difficult.he has cahnged to a certain degree,but he can still be very difficult.i think it depends on how ... (read in full...)
Can an emotionally abusive man change with therapy
Q. can a self centered emotional abusive man change with therapy or it is a long up hill battle. He only sees things one way his - even if everyone disagrees. He is stubborn. He even gets mad at doormen and if you dont agree with his views on eve...
A. 26 February 2009: hi.people always say,leave him u will never cahnge him.my dad was that way 4 nearly all of my life and as im sure u can guess,it made home life difficult.he has cahnged to a certain degree,but he can still be very difficult.i think it depends on how ... (read in full...)
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