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writes:Ok so I've been dating this guy for a few months now. And I have to say our relationship doesn't make any sense. For one he's already talking about marriage and having kids. When he has 2 kids and I have 1. I told him I'm not ready for marriage, but he insist that we get a ring any way. He wants to see me everyday. He tells me he loves. But we haven't even had sex yet. Last but not least. He found out I was talking to another guy. By the way he was talking I guess he wanted to call things off. I didn't protest. I agreed with it, saying we should cut our loses and move on. Then he kept texting me and calling me, begging me not to leave him. That he's nothing with out me. I tried ignoring him for a while but he kept going on and on. I got back with him because I was scared that he would hurt his self. My question is how do I handle this situation? I do love him, but not as much as he loves me.
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reader, lillymay  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 hi,you sound very confused,you have my sympathys.i have been on both ends,once i was with someone who just wouldnt take no for an answer.also i have been the one to be obsessed with a guy.believe me sweeti,i no it isnt an attractive quality in anyone let alone in a man.i will tell that if u dont feel as strongly as he does,maybe u should think about cutting your losses.if he is this obsessed now,think what he will be like later on in the relationship.maybe try writing him a letter explaining that u dont feel things r going to work out,that u both want different things from your lives.u sound like u have your head screwed on and a smart person so u need to think what is best 4 you and your child.good luck,please let me no how things turn out 4 u.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Do him a favor and leave. He really needs to get a grip on reality. He is a grown man with two children, and he needs to be able to hold himself together for their sake.
just a thought... is his ex in the picture at all? Maybe this is why they split up?
Do you talk with his parents at all? I think it would be in his and his kids' best interest if you made his family aware of his behavior. They can urge him into counseling so he can handle these relationship issues. It sounds like he has a big problem with rejection.
But really, you aren't doing him any favors by being in this kind of relationship and enabling his severe emotional attachment.
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