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writes:Im getting so upset lately because im so stressed about two boys.I have meet up with Danny about 4 times, we have never kissed or anything but he told me he likes me on a text and i told him i dont know how i feel yet. But the way we talk you would think i like him. And i didnt mean to give wrong Impression. Hes lovley but no spark :( and i dont think i liek him more than a friend.This other guy i kissed him a few days ago at a party, and i keep thinking about him. He gets alot of girls i think and i dont knwo him as much. But i feel something when im with him.And i want him :(I am so confused, I have danny coming over my house on monday cause he hasnt seen me cause hes been in Scotland and i dont know what to do or say about the way i feel, i know hes expecting a kiss.The other boy likes me he says, and i told him i liek him too but im kind of seeing someone else. If i spoke to him we would most likley meet up. Thats what i want :(
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reader, lilacfox  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Hi,You can only go with your gut instinct, that's all you can do.You don't feel the "spark" with Danny? You don't "fancy" him, or whatever the word or phrase is, and you can't see him being more than a friend? But then if you compare this to how you feel with the other guy, and it's different?I think you should tell Danny, as it's not fair on him. Say to him, you care about him as a friend, and that the friendship is important to you. Tell him you are sorry if you gave him the wrong impression, but while he was away you have been thinking hard and it doesn't feel right to be any more than friends with him.You don't need to tell him about the other guy if you think it may hurt him, but on the other hand if you think it will help you break the news, then tell him that you have met someone that you feel differently about to how you feel about Danny, and this has made you realise that you only want to be friends. I can't really advise as to which option, as I don't know Danny or what he is like.There is never a "nice" way to let someone down, but there are ways that you can word it.You don't know what is ahead in the future, and you never know but you could make a really good friend out of this!If Danny is lovely, but you don't feel anything, that's not your fault that's just how life is.If you think he is coming to see you with expectations of more than "just friends", maybe speak to him on the phone first?Good luck XX
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