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... Send *aybaybay_x a private message | | | *aybaybay_x's profile:Me and my boyfriend made it official last week but he has a trip booked to his friends birthday that fall into Valentine's day weekend. He knows that I love Valentine's day, I was quite bummed when he first told me and kept hinting it but he felt like I was attacking him. He's leaving on Thursday and I'm seeing him tomorrow before he goes. I love valentine's day but he's quite laidback about it all. I don't want to be too pushy and I still would like to get him a present. I just feel a little disappointed. I like to spoilt people and all that cutesy stuff. But I don't want to pressure him...help? |
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My ex isn't apologetic about his behavior and its starting to turn me off
Q. I broke things off with him because he kept gaslighting me. Anytime I wanted to talk to him about something he’d call me a drama queen, sensitive, emotional. I got so drained trying to salvage things. The last straw was when he told me to shut up as ...
A. 5 December 2017: You’re right. I’m literally just going through the motions. It’s silly to even waste anymore time thinking... (read in full...)
My ex is behaving weird and watching me!
Q. We broke up april. I havent spoken to him since because he strung me along during exam season and asked for a break, when it seems he just wanted me to do the dirty work. I eventually dumped him after waiting for him and he accepted without fuss ...
A. 17 November 2015: Hi, no. He didn't bed my best friend. Lol God help him if he did. I do have some backing stories. I'll link them. I'm not sure what it is... I'm really confused. Knowing him, his ego couldn't take that my outgoing personailty (that resum... (read in full...)
I thought we were cool but he's went MIA, what went wrong?
Q. Me and this guy have been going to the same uni for the past three years and have mutual friends. So mutual that he hangs out with a guy I was heavily involved with. We hit it off recently. We spoke everyday non stop for a good month and a half...
A. 2 November 2015: Last weekend,
My ex saw us together at an event and came up to me saying "go talk to him, go dance with him again"
In quite an aggressive manner.
Tbh we see eachother around quite a it and he's an international student so he never has minutes to c... (read in full...)
I thought we were cool but he's went MIA, what went wrong?
Q. Me and this guy have been going to the same uni for the past three years and have mutual friends. So mutual that he hangs out with a guy I was heavily involved with. We hit it off recently. We spoke everyday non stop for a good month and a half...
A. 2 November 2015: I reached out to him in our usual manner. He replied but ignored my response. Lol I'm guessing my ex may have had words with him or he feels guilty. He literally went from 100 to 0 after we hung out. Otherwise, he lost interest for whatever reason. ... (read in full...)
His past (failed) relationship is making him very cautious about getting into a relationship with me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy a bit less than a month ago and things have been good between us. But something sparked the conversation about what he wants and he said he likes me, i tick all the right boxes but he needs to know that he is 100% okay because ...
A. 20 September 2015: To be very honest, Youwish.
This is the first time we spoke about this stuff. The times we've been seeing each other have been fine. He doesn't seem to want any reassurance or even feel sorry for himself. If he never told me, I'd have just thou... (read in full...)
His past (failed) relationship is making him very cautious about getting into a relationship with me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy a bit less than a month ago and things have been good between us. But something sparked the conversation about what he wants and he said he likes me, i tick all the right boxes but he needs to know that he is 100% okay because ...
A. 20 September 2015: Also do you have any tips on how to play it safe exactly or how you went about it?... (read in full...)
His past (failed) relationship is making him very cautious about getting into a relationship with me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy a bit less than a month ago and things have been good between us. But something sparked the conversation about what he wants and he said he likes me, i tick all the right boxes but he needs to know that he is 100% okay because ...
A. 20 September 2015: Awww. That's so sweet WiseOwl...
I would like to see where it goes. We suit each other well&we are celibate so I can definately wait. I don't do sex without titles so its not hard lol. I like him a lot but he seems like he has things to get thro... (read in full...)
His past (failed) relationship is making him very cautious about getting into a relationship with me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy a bit less than a month ago and things have been good between us. But something sparked the conversation about what he wants and he said he likes me, i tick all the right boxes but he needs to know that he is 100% okay because ...
A. 19 September 2015: Well, he's celibate&so am I. So there wont be any of that lol... (read in full...)
His past (failed) relationship is making him very cautious about getting into a relationship with me. What should I do?
Q. I met this guy a bit less than a month ago and things have been good between us. But something sparked the conversation about what he wants and he said he likes me, i tick all the right boxes but he needs to know that he is 100% okay because ...
A. 19 September 2015: He hasn't even tried to have sex with me tbh. He's celibate. But thank you for that :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 16 May 2015: Exactly, thank you for that because I just woke up one morning feeling off.
And thinking exactly what you just said 'he must feel like a king having me waiting around, I cant do this anymore'
'Low and behold. I already feel like I'm over it.
Tha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 15 May 2015: Lol you sound like my mum anon. Are you Jamaican? This has made me appreciate everyone in my life so much. I had a relationship similar to this one and it made me feel so rotten. Now I'm older, I know I'm a good person and I will do better. He has ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: The saddest thing is I'm really annoyed with myself.
All he really said was "I dont want you to stress, so if you can't wait perhaps its for the best. "
Its been long enough, its turned from "because of arguments" to "i dunno if i want a relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: An update.
First of all I'd like to thank those who helped me.
I ended it.
Everytime I'd talk to him he'd say oh I dunno if I want a relationship right now, too demanding. But he still expected me to wait around and be there when he wanted to re... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 12 May 2015: Thank you. Its getting to that point now where I am okay either way...
I will definately untilise the facilities at uni.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 9 May 2015: Lol we all go to the same uni....
Who hurt you? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 5 May 2015: Hi. An update ...
He told me he missed me and I told him I missed him too and he completely diverted the conversation . Saying he saw a friend of mine..(I thought he came to a conclusion).
So I just told him we still had a few weeks left and so ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 1 May 2015: Tbh it was moreso my insecurites. I questioned him
A lot. On really stupid things. Anything i would think up when i wasnt with him. Because he's so laid back. I found myself kind of wanting a reaction/reassurance for how much he likes me. When it w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 1 May 2015: Literally, he asked for space before. I gave it to him then I kind of picked bits of the fight and was asking him things. But IT
IS a habit of mine espesially with this relationship to want to know more cos he doesn't elaborate. He's quite quie... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 30 April 2015: Not at all. I was distraught when he asked for the time apart but maybe this is his way of showing he still cares... Perhaps he misses me. But it's upsetting me more than its helping...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 30 April 2015: How do I deal with the small talk . He says he's checking up on me ... It's very sweet but I just want him to say he misses me and he wants me back :(... (read in full...)
Our relationship is drained and I don't know what to do
Q. Well, my boyfriend and I have been through a lot. We go to the same uni and I'm really into him and he knows it. However, there will be times when theres no doubt in my mind he wants to be with me... He acts so into me and I'll take it as a step f...
A. 24 April 2015: Maybe 8 months. I've backed off anf he accused me of being distant. Saying I was upset with him. But I just kinda carried on with anything I had to do. He has kind of stop bothering. He went from asking all these questions to even bothering to see ... (read in full...)
I've recently discovered inappropriate messages between my boyfriend and other girls
Q. My boyfriend left his snapchat logged in on my ipad and my friend was over using it and thought it was my snapchat and saw some things that were quite questionable. There are many message from him to other girls telling them they look extra hot ...
A. 23 February 2015: Thank you everybody. I just left his. Needed to get some of my stuff back. He never said much. Didn't try to justify it. He was just upset about something I took back that I bought for him. But yes, its over. Quite upset but I can't allow myself to ... (read in full...)
We're moving fast should I ask him for space?
Q. Me and this guy have been speaking throughout this past summer via text. Hes funny and charming but hes quite flakey. We finally took things one step further and now we are dating but not official. The flakiness however is really making the spark ...
A. 2 November 2014: This is what I've started to do. Very weird that you've suggested this. He's already being very attentive and he's suposed to be on a weekender with his friends. And this is from me just not doing the usually quick fire replies and being ... (read in full...)
He's flaked a few times -- am I being tested?
Q. I started talking to this guy from my uni. We have mutual friends and we've been talking through facebook and now text and flirting all summer non stop. We're both 21 and have a lot in common. Lately however, he has been quite flakey. He said...
A. 12 August 2014: Thank you so much guys...
I turned it down and he said "I was thinking about it today at work, it's too soon"
Maybe he'll flake again,maybe he'll respect me more.
At this point who cares lol... (read in full...)
He's flaked a few times -- am I being tested?
Q. I started talking to this guy from my uni. We have mutual friends and we've been talking through facebook and now text and flirting all summer non stop. We're both 21 and have a lot in common. Lately however, he has been quite flakey. He said...
A. 12 August 2014: Hi, thank you.
I had a feeling, yes. That's why I asked lol
Thank you. I had a think myself and thought exactly this.
The only problem is to 'suggest proper date' is to assume that he likes me which I'm unsure of.
Would me just saying to him 'I... (read in full...)
I'm not his Gf but I thought we were friends. Then he let me down. Should I bother to contact him again?
Q. I met this guy about a mouth ago. We got close and when he'd see me, he'd carry my bags. Pick me up and hug me in front of all of our friends. He'd always give me good advice. He's everything I wanted in someone. He's smart, humble, outgoing...
A. 6 October 2012: After reading my question and asking for advice from friends. I realised this. I'm past this insecure and self esteem issue that was just dragging me down from past relationship mistakes. I've turned a new leaf& set boundaries recently after being ... (read in full...)
I'm not his Gf but I thought we were friends. Then he let me down. Should I bother to contact him again?
Q. I met this guy about a mouth ago. We got close and when he'd see me, he'd carry my bags. Pick me up and hug me in front of all of our friends. He'd always give me good advice. He's everything I wanted in someone. He's smart, humble, outgoing...
A. 6 October 2012: None of you are keeping in mind that I don't care what he did. I'm just upset that when I asked he lied whilst getting upset with me doing my own thing.... (read in full...)
I'm not his Gf but I thought we were friends. Then he let me down. Should I bother to contact him again?
Q. I met this guy about a mouth ago. We got close and when he'd see me, he'd carry my bags. Pick me up and hug me in front of all of our friends. He'd always give me good advice. He's everything I wanted in someone. He's smart, humble, outgoing...
A. 6 October 2012: YouWish. It's not that. I told him that myself. I have no authourity over him. He tried to hide it from me. He tried to lie to me and say he went to sleep, when in actual fact he was in the company of some girl. Tbh I would have been a little sa... (read in full...)
I'm not his Gf but I thought we were friends. Then he let me down. Should I bother to contact him again?
Q. I met this guy about a mouth ago. We got close and when he'd see me, he'd carry my bags. Pick me up and hug me in front of all of our friends. He'd always give me good advice. He's everything I wanted in someone. He's smart, humble, outgoing...
A. 6 October 2012: Also, I just said I had been busy that day, which I was but maybe not too busy to say hi. Just felt like I needed to think things over,I was even planning to bring the matter up with him. He got upset and said he thought something happened. But this ... (read in full...)
I'm not his Gf but I thought we were friends. Then he let me down. Should I bother to contact him again?
Q. I met this guy about a mouth ago. We got close and when he'd see me, he'd carry my bags. Pick me up and hug me in front of all of our friends. He'd always give me good advice. He's everything I wanted in someone. He's smart, humble, outgoing...
A. 6 October 2012: I don't think you get it..
He suggested the date, not me. After declining numerous times because I was scared to get attached. I accepted the offer.
After that it was all good. Then I found out he lied to me. His excuse was he didn't want me to th... (read in full...)
I'm over my ex, so why is this news making me feel so bad?
Q. Me and my ex were together for 4 years and broke up 10 months ago, but he's been chasing me since then and told me that the rumours were true. He took this girl out and he told me that it was cos he can't say no, she begged him and she knew he had ...
A. 29 December 2011: Take a look through my posts when you have time.
Even DearCupid got sick of me posting for advice on him. I defnatley can't go back. It wasn't just this one girl&he played into the hands of everyone that was knowingly jealous of everything we had.... (read in full...)
How do I get my sister to stop being so mean to me?
Q. I've always been a subject to my mun's insecurities and feel I am still that confident person but I've become sensitive to a lot of her comments. Not to do with appearance but she rubs a lot of things in my face. Highlights mistakes, I feel like I ...
A. 21 September 2011: I go to college three times a week. I've run outt of friends i hardly do anything other than go to college. My dad lives in the same house but I haven't spoken to him for about 5 years now. He has issues. He controls every move my mum makes and has ... (read in full...)
What now? I am fed up with our relationship the way it is at the moment!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years in January. We have been having a lot of problems since last year started and it become a bit hard to handle. I feel like we're growing apart and that he's becoming more and more comforta...
A. 23 November 2010: He didn't apologize and he called me twice in a row (I saw it when I came back to my phone)
He called me twice then left it and then when I called him he got angry at me saying he had a headache and if he said sorry for not being there I would beli... (read in full...)
He never says he loves me, does this mean he just using me for sex?
Q. I meet a man last year november 2009 .. and from that on we meet each other as a normal girlfriend and boyfriend .. i love him from months pass by i started loving him till now we still together have sex, cooking food together , hangout do some ...
A. 23 November 2010: I think he does.
He's obviously got feelings for you, otherwise he wouldn't do all the little things with you.
Me and my boyfriend hardly do things like that. I think you're in the 'honeymood period' and if he hasn't said it yet.
He's probably abo... (read in full...)
How does a guy lose is virginity?
Q. what are the ways by which a boy loses his virginity?...
A. 23 November 2010: A girl loses her virginity when she is penetrated by the male penis, vaginally.
Some people say that if you have or give oral sex, you're no longer a virgin either.
A guy loses it by penetrating a girls vagina.
Some people have different ou... (read in full...)
Is our relationship failing? Is there a way I can get the spark back?
Q. How can I get the spark back? Me and my boyfriend are in holiday in Barcelona and he just now said to me that through out this whole trip he hasn’t been happy with me and that he thinks that whatever he does, I will never be satisfied. That...
A. 12 November 2010: No, this is not the first time he lied to me. He lies to me for one reason and one reason only. And thats when he goes somewhere he knows I'd feel uncomfortable with. At one point he did stop going to parties and stuff because of me. I guess I ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend falling out of love with me?
Q. Is my boyfriend falling out of love with me or lost interest? I'll try to keep this short. But here goes. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 years. I love him so much and I am stilll soo in love with him. I like to think that he's ...
A. 26 October 2010: Thank you so much both of you.
I have seen the light.
I am currently trying to curb my clingy way as it is the reason for my relationship troubles.... (read in full...)
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