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writes:Is my boyfriend falling out of love with me or lost interest?I'll try to keep this short. But here goes.My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 4 years. I love him so much and I am stilll soo in love with him. I like to think that he's love me so much too. But he doesn't hold me anymore, doesn't pay much attention to me. I'm always the one to reach over and kiss him or hug him...If I touch him in a suggestive way then he'll respond or a good example was when we went to Belgium. Normally, just walking. He wouldn't kiss me or hug me or anything. He'd remember to hold my hand if I looked at him as if to say like "hmm". In the hotel room he'd do all these things but i think it's because he just wanted sex. Which is another issue. On our way back from our holiday he'd say. "It would have been better if we'd had more sex" I didn't put out a lot because I felt used. ..With the paying attention thing. I'd be talking to him and he'd be looking else where, I'd say "Did you even hear what I said?" And he'll say "Say that again, I'm sorry. I didn't hear you."We went to Belgium for a wedding and we travelled with his bro and his bro's girl. They kept walking away from us and many a time I said to him just leave them because it seemed they were doing their own thing (The girlfriend hates me, she said rude things about me before she met me and was saying mean things about me when she thought I was sleeping on the coach)He said to me "It seems like you'd make me hate my own family" I did explain that I was merly getting annoyed by the fact that they were walking away and he was rushing me with my luggage just to catch up and I blame his bro's girl, his brother is his brother obviously I'd NEVER want them to not speak.If he was in love with me, would he not see that?I've spoken to him about it, he says he's sorry and he knows what he's going to do. But I get this feeling that he's not into me anymore...He's taking me to Spain for my birthday in 2 weeks. Maybe that'll help things along? Maybe we've become too comfortable? We had problems which left me insecure and had me questioning things last year. But we've more or less come back to normal.... I enjoyed the time I had with him but affection doesn't come natural to him any more.What do I do about this? I really want to feel loved and desired..and I feel like he's now wanting something different.
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reader, Kaybaybay_x +, writes (26 October 2010):
Kaybaybay_x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much both of you.
I have seen the light.
I am currently trying to curb my clingy way as it is the reason for my relationship troubles.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 I don't see anything significant signs that he's falling out of love. He's not going to read your mind. It's better to tell him what you want rather than saying what he isn't doing already. Let him make you happy in Spain. I wish you have a good time.
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reader, HotGeek  +, writes (20 October 2010):
Throughout your post you made it clear that your reaction to the growing distance was to became more "loving", or simply clingy. Can you imagine how annoying that is? Most men hate it, and they only put up with it when they are married, and not even always then.
Face it, your relationship may be simply dying, and the best thing would be to stay cool. Maybe it isn't ending, maybe he just wants to be alone a bit? If not, try to get as much fun out of it as possible, like out of a summer which is ending.
Also, if you stop panicking you may be able to see things better.
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