Is he not into me or am I just impatient?
Q. I'm 49, separated for a year and a half and been dating on and off since that time ... but nothing serious. I have been seeing this man for almost 3 months. We get along great, we have chemistry, he respects me, he doesn't pressure me to s...
A. 22 March 2016: He is a busy man. And I am a busy woman.
And yes, I'm insecure. He's an amazing person and I feel he could be the one for me. He suits me in so many ways. He meshes with my personality. I love everything about him that I have learned so far. ... (read in full...)
My wife refuses to accept my wish to be a woman.
Q. I would like to know why, my wife cannot understand that I want to be a woman. She see's me every day for the past 2 years dressed as a woman, she knows I pluck my eyebrows and have my ears pierced, she has even caught me more than once being with ...
A. 22 March 2016: Simply put, you need to split up.
You said you want to be a man's wife. That is a huge insult to her to say you want to be with someone else ... male, female, doesn't matter who.
The right thing to do is set her free.
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Should I trust and feel reassured by my Boyfriend's remarks considering he cheated on me?
Q. My ex boyfriend cheated on me and it has affected subsequent relationships. When I said to my current boyfriend that I always want to be his only one, he said to rest well knowing I am the only one he thinks about. Would this be reassuring ...
A. 22 March 2016: You need to trust the new boyfriend, without conditions, until or unless he gives you a reason not to.
I am in a similar situation. I decided to trust my new boyfriend. It feels wonderful. I sometimes have little doubts but they turn out OK. ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have reminders of his ex wife all over his house? Should I end things with him?
Q. hi there, i maybe sound so silly, but i cant help it. thats the reason im here, cos i wanna feel better. i have a boyfriend.we are now almost 9 months in relationship. we are not living together, cos our city are more than 2 hours drive from each ...
A. 22 March 2016: I think you are finding the long distance a problem. I wouldn't worry too much about reminders of your boyfriend's ex in the house. He may have liked his mother in law and maybe they still keep in touch. He didn't divorce her, just the ex. Q... (read in full...)
I really feel like running away from it all
Q. hi there. i am 53 yrs old and like many people i have had some rough times (divorce, break ups, fall outs, no money etc ). i have chronic face pain (over 15 years) and have taken lots of meds for this. none have worked. the last lot were anti dep...
A. 22 March 2016: Go talk to your family doctor. You sound depressed to me. You may not even realize it.
I would also suggest some marriage counselling as a buffer for you and your partner to work together through this.
Good luck. It does get better. Hap... (read in full...)
Is it right to stay in a relationship when your partner indicates that someone before you was his ''perfect match''??
Q. I would really like some opinions about my situation and I'm not sure if I'm being an idiot staying with my boyfriend or if I should leave him. I've been with him for three years and from the second date he started talking about a female friend qu...
A. 22 March 2016: He is way out of line and acting like a complete jerk.
Please dump him and save your self esteem. You deserve better. You do not deserve to be treated like a second hand citizen. The writing is on the wall here. He wants her, not you.
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I feel scared that I'll be tempted to cheat again. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 37yr old married woman no kids. Have been super happily married for a few years now, but I am seeing my usual relationship pattern starting once again. And the pattern, which has always started after a few years into any of rela...
A. 22 March 2016: It sounds to me like you are insecure.
The guilt from cheating will make you hate yourself. I assume you love your husband. Don't hurt him. Just say no. Don't flirt with other men and be put in any situation that would tempt you.
Focus o... (read in full...)
I can't seem to make a relationship with a man work
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We were together for about 6 months. This was my longest relationship and I lost my virginity to him. As with most of my past relationships, they start very exciting and lovey-dovey, then fizzle out. We h...
A. 17 March 2016: Be yourself and love yourself and the rest will fall in place.
Don't rush a relationship. It will happen when you least expect it.
If there are red flags, like lots of baggage from past relationships and serious anger issues, dump him... (read in full...)
Can I check on a mobile phone to see if my husband has been using skype to do sex chats?
Q. Is it possible to check on a mobile phone history if my hubby has been sex chatting with other women over Skype. The reason I ask this question is that I have seen a lot of Skype login on his web and app activity and he has never mentioned this, we ...
A. 17 March 2016: He's cheating. Plain and simple.
He cannot be trusted.
Dump him and move on ... married for 30 years, there should at least be trust in the relationship. Clearly you have lack of trust, no respect and no love left.
Run!
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I just want to know was it wrong of her to accuse me of being a liar? Shouldn't she trust me more as a "best friend?"
Q. Essentially, today one of our mutual friends asked to hang out while I was on some errands, so I told them I might meet them up if I get back in time. Well, I came back and turns out I had family visiting from another country, so had dinner aroun...
A. 17 March 2016: She's not your best friend.
She's possessive and non-trusting. It's a recipe for disaster. Find a new best friend or make it clear to her that you also have other close friends and she is not your "best friend".
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We’re back together so why is he on a dating site?
Q. I decided to dump my boyfriend but afterwards realised i didnt want to do it i was feeling low im much happier now , The thing is 2 week ago he said he wanted to give it another go and we made plans to meet but i was ill with tonsillitis so ...
A. 17 March 2016: You dumped him.
He doesn't trust that you won't do it again, so he's keeping his options open.
Either that or he's going to dump you to get even.
Men are simple.
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He never initiates! Is he into me?
Q. I've been dating a great guy for two months. He texts me every day and is very sweet. We have gone out on some dates but usually only on weekends. I mentioned wanting to spend a bit more time with him more than once a week and he thought that was ...
A. 17 March 2016: So yes I am older. I just turned 49 and he is 56. I've been separated for a year and a half and the baggage is cleared up. The matrimonial home is sold and I've moved into a new place in August with my girls.
My b/f is laid back and goes along wi... (read in full...)
Am I being played like a sucker?
Q. I've been talking to this woman, I met on POF, over two years ago, we have only met, once, over coffee,not long ago, she told me, a guy from down south, moved in with her last year, he sold his house, left his job,but now she realized, it just won't ...
A. 16 March 2016: You deserve better.
If she were not stringing you along, you would have been with her long before now.
She has issues.
Run. Be happy.
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Does my professor like me? She appears to like my company
Q. I'm not sure but I think my professor likes me, too. She's 45. I'm 25. We don't talk much but when we do, I get the sense that she likes me. Sometimes she touches me when we talk. She rubs my back or my shoulder. I've had feelings for her...
A. 16 March 2016: Get out of this situation and do not put yourself in situations alone with the professor.
It is not OK for you to explore your "feelings". She is your prof and probably sees you more as a student/daughter.
She would get fired if any lin... (read in full...)
I feel guilty but I want to move on from my ex
Q. Me and my ex broke up after two years due to me not being able to trust him from the 1 year point, he wouldn't let me have him on facebook due to us having such an on and off relationship, he started hiding the fact that he was with me and I saw him ...
A. 16 March 2016: This man is a jerk whether or not you choose to believe it.
Let him go. Ignore him. Cut all contact. Block him from your phone. Red flags only get much worse over time.
You deserve to be happy and stress-free.
Get the pregnancy tes... (read in full...)
Have you ever done anything on a date that caused the other person to never call again?
Q. I did. And I keep beating myself up for it. Any stories about doing something on a date (or even just in the dating process) that led to never getting called again? Please share! I will feel a lot better...
A. 16 March 2016: Just be yourself ... you can't fully love someone unless you love yourself.
If you think you did something "wrong" on a date that caused the other person to never call again? ... then oh well ... he's not the one for you. Move on. There ar... (read in full...)
The ex factor. Can anyone think of anything that might help or make it better?
Q. I have a problem and I don't know what to do about it. I've been with my boyfriend for four years now. A year before we got together he was dumped by his high school sweetheart who he was with for five years. At first he talked quite a lot about...
A. 16 March 2016: You have been with your boyfriend for four years. You need to trust this man. If the trust isn't there, you should run for the hills.
I believe your issues is low self-esteem, being afraid he will leave you to get back together with her.
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Things ended without any explanation, now I want him in my life as a friend. Or should I leave him be?
Q. Long story short last year me and my ultimate crush were on the borderline of a relationship and I could tell he felt the same. We're both sort of shy I guess and never admitted but always spent time together and people thought we were in a ...
A. 16 March 2016: Move on. He's not that into you. You deserve someone who will make you happy and smile that you don't have to chase. Be patient. The right one will come along some day. The most important thing is to like yourself and do your own thing to be ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to offer something from my Mom’s estate to my brother’s ex-wife?
Q. Help someone, Thanks you to all who help here. My mom died.three years ago.My sister and I went.through boxes of things that belonged to mom....I have some China which will help me to remember my mom. My brother and his wife split a decade ago....
A. 16 March 2016: It would be nice to give the ex sister-in-law something to remember your Mom by. Get it for yourself and pass it on to her and not tell them if you have to. After all, she is the mother of the grandkids and was involved for 30 years. Just because ... (read in full...)
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