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writes:hi there.i am 53 yrs old and like many people i have had some rough times (divorce, break ups, fall outs, no money etc ). i have chronic face pain (over 15 years) and have taken lots of meds for this. none have worked. the last lot were anti depressants and anti anxiety which i stopped taking a few months ago - probably at a bad time as my daughters had fallen out with me and my family.(mum and sisters) i am now back in touch with them both, but my family won't talk to them and vice versa. i live with my partner of 10 years and a few years ago we started a business and i left my job to work there. at the moment, everything is getting on my nerves. the fall out with my daughters and mother and sisters not getting on is upsetting me still. my partner - who i spend all day in the same place with yet in the evening if i start doing something whereby i don't give him full attention he moans at me for not listening to him etc. my facial pain is wearing. I have been seeing a pain psychotherapist as i was seriously thinking of suicide last year. i just want to go - away, for some peace to do what i want when etc without guilt.I have a house i rent out am am thinking of just moving back there, leaving our business and looking for work in my own right. but i feel stuck. i feel unthankful for what i have. my partner supported me through the fall out but i know he gets fed up of me, when i mention it or when i mention the pain in my face.
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reader, Kate1967  +, writes (22 March 2016):
Go talk to your family doctor. You sound depressed to me. You may not even realize it.
I would also suggest some marriage counselling as a buffer for you and your partner to work together through this.
Good luck. It does get better. Happiness is a choice. Choose to be happy.
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reader, NORA B +, writes (18 March 2016):
Yes from your letter.you seem to be carrying-OVERLOAD-for some time,and the pain in the face is very wearing on you when your trying to do your best.REMEMBER WHEN YOUR DOWN-WHAT STRENGHT YOU HAD AND HAVE,OVER THE YEARS CARRYING THIS OVERLOAD.But as the years roll on,we become more tried and weary.I do understand very well where your coming from on this.However your partner supported you through the ups and downs.So would you consider having a indept chat with him,telling him how you feel[maybe a weekend away for both of you]perhaps somewhere quiet and peaceful,with no pressure.Also would you consider going to a counsellor,and talking everything over with her/him.Sometime in life we cant do it on our own,we need help and that may help you even better to focus on what you really want for yourself in the future.Before you decide on doing anything.[1] take care of your health.[2]Have everything talked over and make sure-whatever decision you make-it what you really want.At 53 years you still have a lot of living to do and there is always HOPE that things will be better tomorrow.Maybe a holiday would help you unwind and see things in a fresh light.Remember it was your strenght that got you this far.Its not always easy for your partner to understand when you mention the pain in your face,and i know it then difficult on you.But do consider in getting some help.Kind wishes .NORA B.
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