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writes:So I met this guy on a night out, he's tall, perfect age, really good kisser and we get along smoothly it's nice. What I like was the fact he wasn't full on and didn't ask me back to his, or initiate something of the sort (very rare over here for guys to do). Well thing is, he isn't as good looking as I remember him, actually he's not good looking if i'm honest. But my friends say that considering what I thought beforehand, about being a decent guy and us getting along. That usually that makes a guy look better over time as their personality starts to make them appear more attractive to you, which can be true I guess. And that I should give him a chance, because it might be something great. Do you think they're right?But my sister said if I'm not attracted to him physically, there is no point wasting his time. That I should just tell him i'm not interested and carry on.What do you think? Should I risk it and give it a chance, or forget it...
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reader, person12345  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 It depends. If you are not attracted to him, you shouldn't lead him on. There's a difference between attraction and good looking though. Like if there's chemistry there, it's worth pursuing. You know, fireworks when he touches you, etc... I think it's worth at least one more date no matter what, but if after that you aren't feeling it, you shouldn't lead him on.
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reader, ineedyou  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 If you really cannot figure yourself getting intimate with this guy, well, I think there is no point in trying to start a relationship here. Maybe go on another couple of dates, see how it goes, but if you still feel the same, just be honest with the guy and tell him you'd love to enjoy his sparkling personality as friends. Just because he won't turn out to be your boyfriend it doesn't mean he won't be a very good fun friend for you- important thing though, is for you to be very clear with him, so he knows whenever you guys go out it's only gonna be on a friendship level. And that might be fun, too!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 April 2012):
 I guess it depends on how much good looks mean to you. If it's more important then, let's say a great personality, then I wouldn't go out with him again.
If you are just a little curious why not go on date and see if there is anything that spark your interest?
You might be passing up a really decent guy over being a little shallow.
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