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writes:The person I fell in love with broke up with me a couple days ago and I've never gone thru such pain of missing somebody. I would love to get back with her but I know that it'll cause only more pain and stress... so how do I keep myself occupied and get over this break up a little easier?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Exercise and weightlifting has always been my cure for most things, but after breakups it helps me maintain focus on my health and body and in return mind. Exercise can vastly improve mood and also prolong life, reduce stress, curb appetite, all of that. In addition, I spent a lot of time sorta diving into music and became a trance DJ... and while I used my best judgment when going to clubs, I wouldnt recommend going to such things as youll be tempted to drink away your issues and numb your pain so to speak. A horribly immature and very very unwise approach to any situation. Good luck here. Feel better :)
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reader, Illithid +, writes (4 January 2011):
 When I lost my ex, aside from all the time I could manage with friends, I signed up for a martial arts class to get some exercise and go out and do something I'd always wanted to try but never made time for. Is there anything you've been putting off? A sport, or travel, or some hobby?
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reader, HurtandUnsure +, writes (4 January 2011):
 Aunt Honesty has said it best. I suggest confiding in a friend and letting those emotions out. Pent up emotions do more harm then good. Speaking from experience, time heals. Slowly, but it does make it a little easier. Explore life on a new level, seek out old friends whom you haven't seen in a while. New social settings work wonders. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Well welcome to the heartbreak club!!! You are not alone. Getting over someone you love is very tough. Especially if they break up with you. At first, you don't feel like doing anything. You want to stay home, be miserable, look at pictures of your ex, wallow in your sorrow. The words "I won't find anyone as good as her" will repeat over and over in your head. What you have to do is go through the motions of moving on even though you don't "own" the feeling yet. Go to the gym, get a haircut, buy some cool jeans. There is no easy solution though. You love someone and they are still in your heart. Your heart is hurt and you must give it time to heal. When I was trying to get over my ex, I did all these things. I joined a gym, went out with friends. But when I'd come home, the feelings of sadness rushed over me. I felt like all my efforts of moving on were futile. That's normal. I went to seek counseling and my therapist told me this great trick.Let those feelings rush over you. Cry if you must. Literally give yourself 1/2 hour each night to feel sad. Time yourself. Cry, yell, sob. When the timer goes off, put on the tv and watch a funny show. You see, if you allow yourself to feel sad, then it won't be so bad when you are going through it. After all, you've earned it! Each day, those feelings will get less and less. After two weeks, give yourself 15 minutes at night to be completely sad. Of course you will be sad at other times, that's normal too. But I guarantee you, if you put in the effort of moving on, it will reward you. Make sure to exercise, eat right and drink lots of water. See a therapist if you want. It's so nice to have an hour of whining, complaining and crying. It's healthy to talk about it! Remember the saying: "the best cure for an old love is a new one." So get busy and give yourself the opportunity to find someone new. Good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (3 January 2011):
 In addition to aunt honesty, I read something in a magazine today on how to get over your ex. This reader wrote that she makes a list of all the bad flaws her ex had. Every time she got sad and thinking highly of him, she reread that list of flaws. She was quickly reminded of why he was an ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): I had the same question..bec my husb left me a month ago...
well...I love dance...I found a studio dance for women, and I really enjoy to be part of that, I met new people and that keeps me really busy, I work too, some times I feel homesick..but I am doing a lot the new things and that makes me feel important and happy. Try to do new things..things that you did not before.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 The best way to get over anybody is to keep yourself busy. go out socializing more with friends, keep yourself busy with school or work. Think about things that you really like and take up new hobbies or join new clubs this is a great way of making new friends as well. Also dont contact your ex as this only makes it harder delete all contact details so that you wont be tempted to call her or to check up on her via social networking. Accept that it is over and keep going with your life. All the best.
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reader, ninja26 +, writes (3 January 2011):
 well if its still bothering you, talking to someone you truley trust will help to start with!! and with the whole trying to keep your mind off of it, thats all up to what u like doing? any kind og craft or watch movies for a while? I had to watch like 10 movies in a row, and talk to my best friend to start forgetting for a littel while! hope that helps?!
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