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writes:hello, i was just wondering if anyone believed in the old saying never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love? I've found myself in a situation that goes right along with this. i love my boyfriend very much but we have a lot of problems so i he and i both know that im not in love with him that much anymore. its like i just have love for him. so we have been going on breaks to try and fix things and so far its not working. he wants it to work so bad and has been trying so hard. but i dont know what i want yet. part of me wants to say forget him and go be with this other guy that iv been talking to while were on our breaks but then another part of me feels like no way i love this boy and have been with him for four years how can i throw it all away. im so confused. and i feel like my decision is clouded because of this other boy who i talk to. if he wasnt in the picture id already be back with my boyfriend trying to make it work. i know if i tried like he has been trying then we would be able to be happy again. and i really like this new guy which is the big issue. we have been talking on and off for about 2 months. we have alot in common and i really enjoy talking to him. the only downside to him is that i have heard he is not a great guy even though to me he seems like one. also is that he talks to a ton of girls. im just really confused on who i should be with. i love my boyfriend and know we can make things work. but at the same time i want to try something new. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your advice!! i think im going to just stop talking to this other guy and give my boyfriend and our relationship one last chance.
Hurtandunsure- your totally right, i think i do neglect my boyfriend because of how the other guy makes me feel.so really im creating more problems for us. so im going to stop talking to him. And your also right about the red flag, i ahdnt even thought of that. clearly he isnt who he is making himself out to be.
tantevictoire- im glad you liked the saying its one of my favorites.
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reader, HurtandUnsure +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I believe in the saying, and it appears in your heart, you do too. This little fling with the other man is probably contributing to the fights between you and your current if you think about it. This other boy makes you feel great - like your boyfriend should, he compliments and adores you, like your boyfriend should. However, because this other man is giving you butterflies, you're neglecting your boyfriend. He has no idea whats changed between you two, and won't figure it out before its too late. If this other guy is willing to flirt with you knowing you're with someone at the moment, what would he do if you and him were together? Its a red flag.
Ultimately, the choice is yours. If you choose the other boy, break up with your current before deciding to move on. It will save him a ton of heartache.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): whats meant to be will happen...make a decision and stick to it maybe this other guy was meant to be a distraction just to break the older relationship maybe he is your love
stick to what you do and mean it and you will be fine
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): I think you should stay with the one you love, and this little crush you've developed would only lead to disappointment. You've heard what people say and clearly feel uncomfortable. Try to make it work; it's what your boyfriend wants, too!
I like that saying; this is the first time I've heard it.
-Tante Victoire
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