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I am 26 years old. The mother of two and a wife of a man seven years my senior. I have always been older mentally. I love giving advice and I am always open in considering advice from others. However I am a straight shooter. I will not say things to someone just to make them feel good. I rather be honest. The truth sometimes hurt and sometimes it will set you free. I appreciate when people do the same for me. I live in the state of Texas. I hope from joining this site I help at least one person in their life. I am very pleasant and a genuine person.

My bf's friends are mostly ex girlfriends!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I love him dearly. When I met him I didn't know how many friends that he has that are girls, with most of them being ex's. I am having a hard time dealing with them hanging around and calling ...

A.   10 August 2010: I'm 29 (I'll be 30 in 3wks, yikes) I have been married since the age of 23 and I am still friends with a few of my ex-boyfriends and honestly some are still interested in me and others completely respect my marriage and are happy for me. I'm not ... (read in full...)

How can I get him back without it being obvious?

Q.   A guy split up with me and was so rude. Is there any way I can get him back that is not too obvious?? Thank you....

A.   20 December 2006: Get him back as in revenge? If so hurt his ego. nothing seems to hurt a man like seeing his ex with a guy he know is doing better than himself or looking better by looks or fitness.(from my past experiences) Example if he think he is really ... (read in full...)

They treat me like I'm dumb!

Q.   I am not sure if my husband respects me. My family loves him and I don't want people to know this. He treats me like I am dumb. I never realized it before but I have fed into. I find myself saying things like don't ask me like I would know. My ...

A.   20 December 2006: Of course I carry myself like a mature woman should with some sense. I was taught growing up people treat you the way you treat myself. I don't want to tell them they are offending me because I know the way they will respond. As if I am ... (read in full...)

3 years of ups and downs but I just want it sorted once and for all!

Q.   why the hell hasnt he made an effort to get back together?...he tells me he still wants me..and yet he still argues with me...hes ruined my xmas spirit...seriously...i want him back so badly...bu hes messing my head up...i feel as tho i am making ...

A.   20 December 2006: He too might need a little breather but he loves you and you are confident in that so give him time. Sometimes when to people love eachother that person can also get on you nerves.this is so normal. he will be back. good luck!!... (read in full...)

I'm 17 and scared of losing my virginity because I've heard it really hurts!

Q.   Hi, I am a 17 year old girl and i am really scared to have my first time sex. I love my boyfriend but i am scared of the pain of first time sex. I have been told it hurts a whole lot and this is stopping me from having sex. Can anyone help me?...

A.   20 December 2006: i will suggest don't do it if you are not a hundred percent ready. that is not the only way you can express your love to your boyfriend. it is painful i know you want that questioned answered. are you sure the pain is the only thing that is stopping ... (read in full...)

I was going to lose my virginity but I couldn't get an erection!

Q.   i am 15 years old and today i was going to have sex for my first time, but i couldent get an erection. could this have been from being nervous or something else?...

A.   20 December 2006: It's possible you are not ready but it could have been your nerves. You are young sweetie are you sure you are ready to lose your virginity? Have you really thought this through? If you decide to do it make sure you are 100% ready without regrets. ... (read in full...)

He broke up w/ me and said it's because I wasn't independent - but I'm not clingy at all!

Q.   My man broke up with me about a month ago. He just decided he didn't love me. We are both in late 20s. I am having such a hard time not over analyzing everything I did to make the relationship go downhill. As, he has told people, he just wanted ...

A.   20 December 2006: When you truly love someone you don't wake up and decide one day you don't love them. Now you can get tired of a spouse or mate etc. and in time your feelings can or may settle. being independent is different than clingy. I'm not sure if you are ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid theres something she's not telling me. Can I trust this girl anymore?

Q.   My girlfreind works with about 400 male athletes and when shes on the road they all go out and party all the time. She has a good time and makes a lot of freinds, which doesn't threaten me, but every time she's on the road her normal habit of ...

A.   20 December 2006: her behavior sounds very suspicious to me. A few years ago I was in my early twenties and hung out with friends and got smashed. About half of my friends was guys and not once did we sleep in the bed together even the days we were pissy drunk. we ... (read in full...)

My best friend was forced to give me up as a friend b/c of his fiance, but wants to secretly be friends! What do I do?

Q.   My best friend of 9 years (is male) whom I haven't seen because of my hectic life recently called me to say that he won't be calling or seeing me anymore,that his fiance doesn't like me so we aren't going to be friends anymore.I am married and have ...

A.   19 December 2006: Malyce Synn72 totally hit it on the head. I would tell him how much I adore his friendship and how rare it is to find a true friend. Obviously your friendship is innocent your husband is content with it. Tell him you are hurt by his decision and you ... (read in full...)

Is abortion right or wrong?

Q.   abortion? wot does everyone think? right or wrong? i would love to know your opinions x x x...

A.   18 December 2006: I personally believe it is wrong. The reason being I believe it is murdering someone. If you have read a baby journey book or caught that show in the womb. On the National Geographic Channel, the process of a fetus becoming an a actual baby its ... (read in full...)

All my husband does is watch porn or play video games. I have nobody and am extremely depressed. Is this normal?

Q.   My husband and I never have sex and our two toddlers cry all day. I feel like I am going crazy. He's always at work. When he is home he looking at porn or playing video games. I have no one and extremely depressed. Is this normal?...

A.   18 December 2006: The thing is he is great with the kids. He play with them and watch cartoons with them etc. It's me I feel he neglects. He watches movies with me. In order for us to talk I hsve to initate the conversations but more times than less he makes one ... (read in full...)

My ex tried to dance his way back into my life, while his gf was present.

Q.   i was with my first love when for 6 years we met when i was away to turn 15. All in this month he asked my mum about getting engaged to me, we sorted out a morgage showered me with gifts for my 21st and we went away to Paris and had a ball, where he ...

A.   17 December 2006: I think you should talk to him to get all those hinder emotions out of you. I am not saying to get back with him but to just release all that is bundle up inside you. You may be surprise you might be able to let him go once you sit face to face or ... (read in full...)

Is my husband's gay tendencies show that he's really gay? Help me out..advice needed!

Q.   I am really scared and confused. My husband and I just had our one yr ann. We have a very good sex life, sometimes we watch porn. The past few months he has made more and more comments regarding other mens penises. He also has a lot of naked men ...

A.   17 December 2006: Until he gives you a straight answer and you are truly concern use protection during intercourse with him. more than likely he will become upset but you need to also consider your health if he is doing something behind your back. God Bless You and ... (read in full...)

My husband and I are total opposites...should we split up?

Q.   I am married for 5 months and am seriously think i have made the wrong choice and sometimes feel i really do not want not to be married. I am not involved with anyone else, neither would i cheat of my husband. I feel it would be better both for ...

A.   16 December 2006: The two of you should sit down and discuss. I've been married for three years. I am 26 and my husband is 33. We have two children. We are happy for the most part. Our thumb rule is communication and compromise. Maybe he's not happy and you guys can ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid if I try to contact her again after all this time, it would be awkward - any suggestions?

Q.   I am interested in this girl, only the thing is I haven't spoken to her in about half a year. Recently, i was thinking about how we used to be friends a few years ago, and all the fun times we had, and it just brought back my interest in her a lot. ...

A.   16 December 2006: About six months ago I contacted a old boyfriend from six years ago. I was going through ups and downs in my marriage. he was really happy to hear from me although I am married. I had no intentions of hooking up or anything. but truthfully things ... (read in full...)

My husband is neglecting me sexually do to his internet porn usage

Q.   what should I do? My husband is neglecting me sexually do to his internet porn usage. He says he does not masturbate to it but where is he getting his kicks. When we do have sex I have to initate it. I am at the point that I am considering divorce. ...

A.   15 December 2006: Well I have a high sex drive. I tried to add spice in the bedroom. He said he wasn't interested, he's not bored. He also have told me on several occassions that I want sex too much. He tells me I am a great wife and mother. So what am I doing wrong?... (read in full...)

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