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writes: i was with my first love when for 6 years we met when i was away to turn 15. All in this month he asked my mum about getting engaged to me, we sorted out a morgage showered me with gifts for my 21st and we went away to Paris and had a ball, where he told me he was going to take me back next year! But three days after Paris he ended it. I thought he was just stressed out about xmas coming up and he was skint, so i thought if i gave him time, we would get back together. But i soon found out he had a new girlfriend very soon. Which i assume he was seeing her behind my back, but i dont know. I was heart broken, i never ever thought i would get over him.But as they say time is a great healer and its true, i would see my ex in the town i would automatically say hi, but he would just look and keep walking ( this happened on several occaions) after the attempts i would just walk past him aswell. Since the summer i heard he moved to abroad with the girlfriend.But to my suprise, i was on a christmas night out, was in a night club i noticed the exs girlfriend and sister on the dance floor. Then i clocked him aswel but i didnt think he seen me. we carried on dancing and left to go to another floor. Within 2 mins he was down behind me, he stared and i just looked away, he walked past me, then to my surprise he came back and stood across from me, he took my hand and led me away from my friends, he then said "lets go, please can we get out of here" i was stunned i had never been this close or heard his voice for 2 years, he then said "please can we leave? i told him i was sorry and that i wasnt leaving as i was friends he asked again and i said no, he then said to me "i still have feelings for you" i never said anything, i gave off a nervous laugh and just as that my friend came and took me away.He kept trying to get me away from my friends to talk, but i said that if he wanted to talk to me he could talk here, but then his girlfriend came and went beserk at him, he then walked out with her still screaming.At first it felt great, the nights i cried for him hoping he would regret what he done and now i felt that i finally had an answer. But now its messed me head up, thinking about him constantly, hes not just in my head anymore hes back in my heart.People keep saying oh he did it you now hes doing it to his girlfriend you now know what hes capable off, is this true?Please help its hurting again x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): It is sort of a confusing story, but it sounds to me like being your first love, he is very special to you, and he broke your heart in a way that he did not explain himself to you, but just left.
Now that a couple of years has passed he may be regretting the way he left you more than anything, he knows that he hurt you and he sounds like he was confused because he fell for another girl while dating you....sadly this happens a lot especially to young people who are trying to fall in love, they don't know themselves well enough to know who is right for them.
I would give him a chance to talk to you, let him talk and listen to what he has to say, and then if you feel like telling him how you feel about him do so, it may make you realize that he is not the one for you, or that the time of your lives was not right for a romance or a future and then you can move on at peace with him and for what happened.
If you think that you still have an interest in a relationship and so does he, then just take things slowly as he has not ended his other relationship, and I know you don't want to be his rebound fling after that one do you? It is not really a great sign that he can't end one relationship before starting another, he sounds a bit of a drama queen to me, or insecure with himself, so he can't be on his own without a girlfriend.....not great signs of maturity and stability in a man in my opinion, but you know him, I don't.
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reader, fuse +, writes (17 December 2006):
I think you should talk to him to get all those hinder emotions out of you. I am not saying to get back with him but to just release all that is bundle up inside you. You may be surprise you might be able to let him go once you sit face to face or the over the phone with him and tell him how much he hurt you. he might apologize give you a half ass explantion but something that help you become whole again and be able to move on. Or you might give him a second chance. the choice is yours. but you dont want to wait any longer. anything can happen in days hours or minutes the new girl can become pregnant and your situation has just gone from bad to worst. dont allow your nerves to predict your future with or without this man. the choice is yours. you dont want to blame others for decisions you did or did not make.
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