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writes: My girlfreind works with about 400 male athletes and when shes on the road they all go out and party all the time. She has a good time and makes a lot of freinds, which doesn't threaten me, but every time she's on the road her normal habit of calling me 50 times a day ends and she becomes really cold and distant. On the last trip she admitted she became so drunk she "blacked out " and, not wanting to sleep on the floor, crawled into bed with a guy who conveniently had passed out in her bed. I didn't think it was a big deal but when she got back she started questioning our relationship ( prior to the trip she wanted to get married) and leaving the room whenever the phone rang. Last night she got dressed up in a revealing black lace tank top before going to deliver cookies to this guy for christmas. Today the guy she was in bed with came up right in front of me and gave her a big sloppy hug and she seemed to like it. She says she completely hates this guy and would never have anything to do with him, but I'm afraid theres something she's not telling me. Can I trust this girl anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): Suse, id be VERY skeptical. im in a similar situation.. my girlfriend always asks me if im cheating on her.. she tells me about guys grabbing her ass at work.. and she does the big sloppy hug thing. But back to your situation, i think "passed out next to" very well could be code for something else
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reader, fuse +, writes (20 December 2006):
her behavior sounds very suspicious to me. A few years ago I was in my early twenties and hung out with friends and got smashed. About half of my friends was guys and not once did we sleep in the bed together even the days we were pissy drunk. we crashed throughout the house or room INCLUDING THE FLOOR. So I'm not going to diss her for being drunk we all have been there if some of us want to admit it or not. If she has cheated she might feel guilty. If she blacked out she might not remember or at least want to. or maybe she's having doubts in pursing with you. ask her is it anything she needs to share with you.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (20 December 2006):
 Well, since you've already begun to question her motives, the seed has been planted. IT will grow, one way or another. You mentioned a sexy tank top. Does she usually wear this type of thing? If so, it's normal behaviour.
Her behaviour does sound a little strange. Why leave the room for a call? Getting so drunk she slept with another guy was wrong. She probably told you just to deflect some of her guilt, and by telling you, she could minimize it. After all she'd reason, she told you. and if she was guilty of something she would never have mentioned it in the first place.
Perhaps she is questioning your future. That might be true. It soesn't mean she physically cheated but it might have let her see a side of life she enjoys.
I'm really surprised you let her get away with sleeping in the same bed as another guy. That alone shows poor judgement, not to mention the alcohol issue.
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