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writes: what should I do? My husband is neglecting me sexually do to his internet porn usage. He says he does not masturbate to it but where is he getting his kicks. When we do have sex I have to initate it. I am at the point that I am considering divorce. What should I do?
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reader, fuse +, writes (15 December 2006):
fuse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I have a high sex drive. I tried to add spice in the bedroom. He said he wasn't interested, he's not bored. He also have told me on several occassions that I want sex too much. He tells me I am a great wife and mother. So what am I doing wrong?
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (15 December 2006):
 It isn't his porn usage that is the problem...(and of course he masturbate to it...get a black lite like one of those that finds cat pee...sperm glows in the dark) The porn usage is a cover up for the real problem. And there can be a million of those.
If he doesn't masturbate to it...it could be he's loosing function.....and mortified to tell you.
And if you don't initiate sex....you don't have it? What has happened in the past when He initiated? Rejection seeps into men....it hurts them as much as it hurts us. when you initiate...does he show interest then? cool...initiate it all you want then...problem solved.
If not...you need to talk to Him. Don't accuse...Don't talk....Ask...then shut up and Hear. If he won't talk...don't fill in for him. Tell him you'll ask him again tomorrow....then drop it. Then repeat as necessary.
Don't Blame the porn...it becomes a stone between you. Figure out what is causing him to shut off.....that is your key. hope that helps...BTDT
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