Boyfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me out of the blue and I'm feeling lost
Q. My boyfriend and I were together over 3 years. 2 weeks ago he told me that he has nothing to offer me. He called himself a pathetic piece of shit that can't get off his ass and take care of stuff that needs to be taken care of. He said that he wants ...
A. 20 January 2014: A similar thing happened to me about a year ago. My boyfriend at the time was also depressed and so we ended our long term relationship- and I can tell you right now that it does hurt a lot, more than you think will be bearable, but it does get ... (read in full...)
He loves me but crushes on her!
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend for a few months. Before we got into the relationship, I knew about the fact that he had a crush on another girl for quite some time before he fell in love with me and decided to confess. Even now, he still has feelings ...
A. 21 December 2013: The same thing happened to me and my ex-boyfriend. He was in love with me, but had a fantasy-like crush on one of my best friends. It really hurt my self-esteem and our relationship because of that, but it was not a good relationship anyways.
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I cheated on him, once. Yet I can't picture my life without him. What do I do about my guilt?
Q. I'm about to get married to my bf of 5 years I do love him very much and I am very happy that we are going to get married, but I am having second doubts about getting married, because I am guilty of cheating on him once in the past, while we were ...
A. 19 December 2013: Cheating is a serious thing that shouldn't be taken lightly, but you need to realize that all people DO make genuine mistakes. You were going through a rough time and you messed up, but all that matters now is that you're happy and committed. If you ... (read in full...)
My EX from 2 weeks ago is already ENGAGED to her PREVIOUS EX!!! Help!!!
Q. So I figured I would get an outsiders, unbiased perspective on this situation. My ex and I broke up about a month and a half ago. We broke it off very well; maturely, trying to stay friends, and kept it very civil. We were dating for about a year...
A. 8 September 2013: Personally it sounds ridiculous to me, and it sounds like the actions of two people who are very insecure about themselves, too frightened to be alone, and confused about their lives and feelings. Yes, you're right in thinking that this is pretty ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was looking at dozens of pics of his "ex" while sleeping in my room, in my parents house, after we got engaged!!
Q. My bf and I got engaged a few days ago. We have what I thought was a ‘perfect’ relationship, we’ve known each other for many years, started dating sometime back, we clicked, we were absolutely made for each other…or so I liked to think and from what ...
A. 30 July 2013: Honestly, guys (and girls, too) can do things like that simply out of their primal instinct to pleasure themselves. The pictures, to him, were likely nothing more than cheap porn he had since there was nothing else available. It is perfectly fair ... (read in full...)
I'm four months pregnant and I've just discovered my boyfriend's excessive porn use, much of which involves extreme stuff
Q. Yesterday I used my boyfriend's ipad (with his permission) and came across a search for a porn site. When I clicked on his history to see more, I saw that he watches porn (alot of it) every single day. There were at least 50 links per day, and ...
A. 18 July 2013: He may be lying to you because he's afraid of you getting mad at him, or because you might feel insecure because he watches porn. To be honest, a lot of people look at hardcore porn without getting turned on by a lot of it- for example, he may have ... (read in full...)
Just discovered my live-in boyfriend of two years is checking out match.com profiles
Q. I am not sure how to react to all of this. I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for 2 years. We have lived together for over a year now. He has been a great guy and I never suspected he would cheat on me or betray me. I was married for 13 years ...
A. 8 July 2013: Personally, I know a lot of people (myself included) who look at profiles on sites like that just for interests sake. It's not that there's any level of romantic interest involved- it's just interesting to see the different people that put up their ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend finished it because we're going to uni soon and he doesn't want to get more attached. What should I do and how do I get over the heartbreak?
Q. Hey. My boyfriend broke up with me last week and my heart is so broken. He said as we're both going off to uni soon we'd have to split up at some point anyway and he thought we should do it now as he was already getting 'too attached' to me. I ...
A. 23 December 2012: I know how it feels to have that first real heartbreak, and it can be very tempting to jump right back into the relationship. However, this isn't a good idea- maybe this is a good time for both of you to have your space.
I would suggest that bot... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my sexuality
Q. Hi I find myself attracted to girls all the time, and obsessed with lesbian porn. But I also enjoy gay porn, and have had gay experiences, but I never look at a guy and think, hmm he's hot. What does this make me?...
A. 2 February 2012: It's actually very common for guys to enjoy gay porn, or girls to enjoy lesbian porn. Human beings are sexual by nature- its just who we are! I wouldn't say that you're bisexual- bisexual means that you would want a relationship with either a guy or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates animals and wants to get rid of my dogs!
Q. My boyfriend off and on for the past 6, years wants me to give away my dog who is 9 and my rescue puppy who is 3 then find a job in his state and move in with him he moved away 5 years agao and we stay in touch meeting when we could in talking ...
A. 27 January 2012: If he really loves you then he will let you keep them. He isn't allergic to them, which would have been an actual reason- he just doesn't like them, which is a stupid reason. If he isnt willing to let you keep your dogs and will break up with you if ... (read in full...)
I recently saw a message my boyfriend sent to this girl saying nice photo! I changed mine and he said nothing to me? please help!
Q. Hi please help- i recently saw a message my boyfriend sent to this girl saying nice photo how are you.I should say the message was private. He hasnt talked to her in a year and now out of the blue mailed her when she changed her profile pic on site. ...
A. 27 January 2012: I wouldn't worry about it at all. Boys will be boys- they will always comment (and won't really be aware if it offends you) and look at other girls, but you have to realize that although the guy might have a fleeting thought of "She's pretty" , ... (read in full...)
Dating only 5 months and already he's making excuses to not cuddle/have sex?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months and he is as sweet as hell! helped me move into my flat, would do anything for me, but the last couple of days I have been feeling really annoyed with him but i dont know why~! actually i do know why! ...
A. 27 January 2012: You know, he probably was very tired and uncomfortable. And why didn't you make a move? Maybe he was waiting for you to cuddle with him! Don't always leave it up to the men out there- take initiative. He's your boyfriend and if you want to cuddle in ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps teasing me about being loud in bed, and it's making me self-conscious!
Q. Hello everyone! I'd like to know if you think I'm being too sensitive about this issue or not. Every so often, my boyfriend starts teasing me about the fact I can be rather, erm, vocal in bed. I know he doesn't do it to be horrible, but he does like ...
A. 27 January 2012: If you've explained to him that it makes you uncomfortable, then go a little further and really tell him how it makes you feel! But if that doesn't work and he still pokes fun at you, then please don't take it too seriously! He is just joking, and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend occasionally stays and sleeps in the same bed with her best male friend. I don't feel comfortable with this!
Q. My girlfriend is 22 and occasionally works 3 hours away and stays with here best friend who is a male. He is a straight male with a straight male roommate. My girlfriend, before we even met, would sleep in his bed with him when she was there ...
A. 27 January 2012: At least she is open to telling you about this d of trying to hide it. I think that you have every right to tell her to stop- I mean, is it really necessary for her to sleep in his bed when the couch would do just fine? It really isn't being fair ... (read in full...)
Am I in the running to get hurt big time even though he loves me?
Q. Hi I hope you can help me as I just don't know how to play this situation that I am in. My fella and I have been together 6 months, he has kids from a previous relationship. I haven't met them yet, as I thought its best to take things slow, fo...
A. 12 January 2012: I definitely think that his ex is being unreasonable. They are her kids as well, but he does have the right to introduce them to whoever he likes. Sounds like this girl has a bit of jealousy issues and protective issues.
In the long run, I don'... (read in full...)
Would doing this lead to sex?
Q. Hi all, there's this guy i love very much. we've been dating for 9months now. am still a virgin. we have'nt had sex as agreed. we restricted ourselves to making out and dry humping. recently,he said he wants me to suck him and i said no, though he ...
A. 6 September 2011: Oral sex is considered by some to be sex, as it is a type, but in reality it is not losing your virginity and not "real" penetrative sex. It all depends on the views of the person, and if you feel like you are not staying true to your beliefs if you ... (read in full...)
He wants to take pictures
Q. Every time we go for a real hot time, he always wanted to take pictures of me playing with him. He said he is having more pleasures on that. Just like a porn picture. Is this normal? Is he a perv?...
A. 8 March 2011: He doesn't sound like a perv. He probably just gets very excited when he's with you and wants to have pictures to look at when you're not there so he can think of what it felt like. It's fine! ... (read in full...)
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