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writes:My boyfriend off and on for the past 6, years wants me to give away my dog who is 9 and my rescue puppy who is 3 then find a job in his state and move in with him he moved away 5 years agao and we stay in touch meeting when we could in talking on the phone almost every day. I love him but I love my dogs! he says they are burdens and things like dissection rats in science. That its a horrible thought to me. But every time we are together I am so happy. He is the only guy I have dated since we met 6 years agao. I love my dogs. What should I do? He says he wants me to move in and marry him in five years and never have pets. I have had animals all my life. I love my dogs they are like kids to me. I am so torn it is misery. Reply to this Question
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reader, lovebot +, writes (10 October 2013):
If you are having a tough time deciding between your dog and your man then this means you really don't love the man...thus just go with the dog.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2012): The dogs are only part of the problem:He:1. Wants you to give away your dogs, even though they are like your family2. Sees your animals are lab rats3. Never wants pets and sees them as burdens4. Says he will marry you in FIVE YEARSDump this zero, honey. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012):
Dump him.
I have seen women get rid of their pets for men (or get rid of the cat and buy a dog, which is just as disgusting) and it's never for the best. Ever. Either she resents the man forever or later on they break up and she feels awful that she got rid of her pets.
Any man that asks you to do that is not worth having. That goes for women, too. Any woman that asked me to get rid of my cats would be questioning the very relationship, because I wouldn't do it for anyone. If she had allergies then I guess we wouldn't mesh, because I won't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): Definately keep the dogs!! How unkind sounds like the first step of a controlling boyfriend. Give up the pets you love, move away from all you know and live with him. Why shouldn't he make sacrifices too? You honestly deserve better and a good point was made that he doesn't seem the right guy for you. Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): I'd rather meet a girl with a boyfriend than a dog. Dogs are always more important to girls than their man. Face it men, if you meet a girl with a boyfriend she might drop him for you, but you will always be 2nd to a dog, don';t get caught up. This really only applies to animal haters, if you like dogs/animals then jump right in.
Also, Police in PA, use ss3704 (title 75) to ticket people driving with dog on their lap. If they want to argue, counter with it is for the animal's safety, being that in the event of a crash the dog will most likely be ejected out of the window or crushed by the airbag.
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reader, Lovedoll80 +, writes (27 January 2012):
Thank you for advice. This was my first post. I appreciate the input. I sure managed to go about this backwards.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 January 2012):
 While I rehomed my dogs for my partner there are many reasons I did so. ONLY one of which was that my partner is deathly allergic and afraid of animals. AND HE TRIED to be with my dogs it did not work for him(he could NOT breathe(or see as his eyes swelled up) at all when they are around and still has problems in the house with residual dog hair as we find it) and the dogs were given BETTER lives by being rehomed. They no longer had to crate for 8 hours a day while I was at work. I rehomed them with families that have mommies and small children that stay home all day… Now my dogs run and play all day as opposed to laying in their crates waiting for me to get home….and we go visit them and see them all the time. My bf did not demand that I get rid of them, we just knew due to allergies we could not live together while I had pets. I miss them but I do visit them and I see the new daddy of one of my dogs every day at work and get pictures from the mom of the other dog daily….
IN YOUR CASE I advise you to NOT rehome the dogs but rather rehome the boyfriend…. It’s not allergies or fears that keep him from the dogs it’s just selfish ignorance. Would you rehome your children if you had them for a man who disliked children?
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (27 January 2012):
This is not about animals, but about a guy who's putting his desires WAY beyond yours! He doesn't care that these loving animals would be heartbroken without you, or you them. You need to see him for what he is, a sick selfish person. If you make this major mistake it will eat at you till you get enough nerve to leave him and those does will be long gone.
Don't even this about placating this selfish jacka**... dump him.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 Keep the dogs, off... I mean dispose of the bf ;)
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 There's no way that a 'dog person' can have a good, fulfilling life with someone who doesn't care to have animals in their life. The very idea that he'd tell you to get rid of a rescue puppy says that he is absolutely not the person for you. Good grief, he wants you to send your dogs away -- to where? That's just so wrong.
Hon, there are guys out there who like dogs. Who care that lost dogs get a good home. Keep working with the shelter, and you're going to find a guy who's way more in tune with your values than this guy.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (27 January 2012):
 This is a no-brainer! Get rid of your boyfriend and keep your dogs!
You may love him, BUT he sounds like a selfish, insensitive clod. Telling you to marry him and move to where he is, then never have pets again! HAH! Not in a million years.....
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reader, eri_sunshine +, writes (27 January 2012):
If he really loves you then he will let you keep them. He isn't allergic to them, which would have been an actual reason- he just doesn't like them, which is a stupid reason. If he isnt willing to let you keep your dogs and will break up with you if you do, then he obviously isn't the one for you. If you give them away and you break up (as you may have before) then you will be out both dogs and a boyfriend :( At least this way you have a shot at both!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2012): Keep your dogs and get rid of the boyfriend. Find someone who loves animals too.
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