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writes:Hey. My boyfriend broke up with me last week and my heart is so broken. He said as we're both going off to uni soon we'd have to split up at some point anyway and he thought we should do it now as he was already getting 'too attached' to me. I understand what he's saying but I miss him so so much and i really want to try again with him, and just take it slow. Do you think i should try getting back with him or just move on? And what should i say to him? I know I'm young and this is my first real heartbreak so I'd appreciate any advice from others who have gone through this. Thank you
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reader, eri_sunshine  +, writes (23 December 2012):
I know how it feels to have that first real heartbreak, and it can be very tempting to jump right back into the relationship. However, this isn't a good idea- maybe this is a good time for both of you to have your space.
I would suggest that both of you keep your distance for a while, as you're going to be apart anyways. After the hurt has faded a bit, you can always be friends again. It's hard to be friends with an ex that you still have strong hurt feelings for, and that could end up making the relationship negative again. Don't rush into this- instead, take your time and move on while you're at it. Enjoy life, focus on yourself and what makes you happy without him, and focus on your friends.
Perhaps if you begin talking to him again in a while, you will find that you still have the same feelings. Maybe you will then be ready to make the relationship work again- sometimes a break can be good for a relationship because you'll figure out how to life without him. If you are meant to be together, you will eventually be together, so there isn't any rush. If you do get back together, your relationship will be that much stronger because you both will have some independence under your belt.
Good luck, only think of yourself for a while, and don't worry. :)
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