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*orbiddenlovebutnoregrets
writes:Every time we go for a real hot time, he always wanted to take pictures of me playing with him. He said he is having more pleasures on that. Just like a porn picture.Is this normal? Is he a perv?
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (9 March 2011):
 It's more exciting to look from a distance at you and him together. That's one reason people puts big mirrors in ther bed rooms.
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reader, Forbiddenlovebutnoregrets +, writes (9 March 2011):
Forbiddenlovebutnoregrets is verified as being by the original poster of the question Geessh...that's what I was worried about... but at the end of our steamy night... he gives the camera to me.. and tells me to do delete them...
But what I really wanted to know is why he wanted to take pictures.. and get so aroused when he sees them.. can't he just look at me...that's weird... isn't it?
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reader, LustyLisa +, writes (8 March 2011):
Though I don't consider his request to photograph you in an intimate setting to be pervy since males tend to be more visual creatures than us. I do consider his REPEATED requests to take your picture troubling.
I personally wouldn't ever consent to being photographed or videotaped during intimate encounters largely because I really don't want to see what we look like! It may look sexy and arousing to some people, but I'm not turned on by images of people "playing" and "copulating". They look foolish and even desperate in a way. However, when my mind conjures up a recollection or a memory, I always look like a goddess, I don't have stretch marks and sagging skin, my husbands penis appears bigger in my memory than it does in real life and I feel empowered and strengthened by those memoeries and recollections. Pictures and videos would only spoil that for me. Your mand may need to rely more on the creative nature of his own mind than pictures and videos.
What matters in this situation is how YOU feel. Are YOU comfortable being photographed/taped? How would YOU feel knowing he could pull it out and scruitinize YOUR every curve, bulge and flaw? How would YOU feel down the road knowing he may still have that photo/video should you break up? Allot of questions YOU need to be asking yourself, not others. At the end of the day, you are only responsible for yourself and the choices you make. This one can actually come back and bite you if you are not carefull.
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reader, xanthic +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Are you comfortable with the idea of these pictures being seen by people other than you? Would you want your family to see them? If the answer is no to both questions, obviously you know what the right answer is. Just remember, any pictures of this nature are also potential blackmail material.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): Yeah it's normal. I look forward to seeing them on the internet like the pics of all the other girls who trusted their partners and assumed their relationship would last forever and never turn sour.
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reader, Forbiddenlovebutnoregrets +, writes (8 March 2011):
Forbiddenlovebutnoregrets is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys.. I am just worried because he's doing it everytime. Hehehe.. I feel uncomfortable sometimes because this might leak.. But i trust him very much...And I wanted him to focus on me....hahah..
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (8 March 2011):
Its normal, but if you dont fully trust him make sure your face is not in it. I love getting pictures of my girlfriend, it increases both of our libido's so much and makes our time in bed much more passionate
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reader, eri_sunshine +, writes (8 March 2011):
He doesn't sound like a perv. He probably just gets very excited when he's with you and wants to have pictures to look at when you're not there so he can think of what it felt like. It's fine!
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (8 March 2011):
Sounds normal.
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