Condoms are too big for my penis and it's creating problems for me...what should I do?
Q. Condoms, they're all too big for me. My penis is 4 inches big, but condoms are 6 inches if you buy them from shops or machines. This problem became worse when i was having sex and it came off in the girl I was shagging, things got worse wen i shot...
A. 13 February 2007: Every condom is different - shape, size, lubircant etc... Try a few different ones until you get a fit you like. Look for for "Slim Fit" - they are designed for men with your issue. Also, pay a little more attention while you are having sex; if you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is well endowed and I'm finding anal sex a bit difficult. What can I do to make it easier for me?
Q. Hi, im a 23 yr old gay guy, have just gotten into a new relationship and I haven't had sex for about a year and am finding it hard being the "bottom" especially since my new guy is quite well endowed, any advice making it easier, i've only ever ...
A. 12 February 2007: The normal answer to this is lube up and go slow. When you think you have enough lube, add some more. Start slow, with a finger or two or a toy, then move to more fingers/bigger toy etc. It's a muscle, and it needs to stretch. Take your time and ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancee cheating on me? What do you all think?
Q. i have been with my fiance for two years now and things are starting to look bad in our relationship. two weeks ago her grandma who lives down the street had some work men in the house refurbishing the place. and she was always there flirting and ...
A. 30 January 2007: Does not sound to me like she is cheating, just flirting and teasing a bit. My guess is she is feeling a little nervous at being engaged at a young age, worried abotu spending her whole lilfe with one person - she wants reassurance that she is ... (read in full...)
She was scared into giving him a hand job b/c he was drunk and acting belligerent, but I think cheating is cheating!
Q. i met a girl and we started goin out, and she was the first girl i ever had sex with or feel like i loved. 3 months into our relationship i was in jail for a couple weeks. while i was in jail she wnet over to a gf's house and got drunk. there was ...
A. 25 January 2007: If what she is telling you is the truth, it was not cheating, it was rape. If that is the only reason you have to doubt her, I would say she deserves a pass. If there are other reasons to doubt her, that may change things. All that aside - you are ... (read in full...)
A past bf forced sex on her and now--she isn't interested in making love. What can I do?
Q. Iv known my girlfriend for well over 10 years now and we've just got together a few months ago. She's a great person and i really like her a lot but the sex for me is all give and no receive. She just doesn't seem interested. Even when I'm simply ...
A. 28 December 2006: You are right - he raped her. What she needs to do is talk to someone who can help her deal with the rape; a counselor or therapist who has experience dealing with rape victims. Speaking up and talking about what happened is often very hard for ... (read in full...)
I think my gf is pretty, but I'm not sexually attracted to her - I don't know what to do!
Q. Should I stay with her? or am I just hurting my self by missing out? I'm 22 and my gf and I have been together for almost 5 years! She's absolutely great: she's very good to me, we love all the same things, and we get a long with no problems. I a...
A. 13 December 2006: Is it possible that you are falling for the "grass is always greener" ideal? That it is not that the individual attriubutes taht attract you to other women but that they are different from what you already have?
Or is it possible that things a... (read in full...)
Does anyone think anal sex is a bit pervy? My bf enjoyed it, but I thought it felt weird.
Q. My boyfriend talked me into having anal sex for the first time knowing that I was heavy on my period. I do like to experiment, but does anyone think its a bit pervy. My boyfriend seemed to really enjoy it, although I didn't feel the same it just ...
A. 11 December 2006: Some people enjoy it, some don't - it's a preference thing. If you don't enjoy it, then you shouldn't do it (or if you don't mind it, save for special occasions, like his birthday). To me, there is a very simple rule as to what is acceptable ... (read in full...)
Found my experience with a condom unpleasant..any tips on better types of condoms?
Q. Hi I've been seeing my girlfriend now for a few months now and last night we had sex (my first time). The problem was the contraception. I used a condom and both of us found the experience unpleasant. We had foreplay to begin with so she was fair...
A. 5 December 2006: Here are a couple suggestions;
1. Not all Condoms are created equal - they all fit a bit different, and have different lubricants and thicknesses. Many manufacturers put together variety packs taht include sveral different types of condoms.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to use a condom and suggested I go on the pill - but that doesn't protect from std's! What can I do?
Q. hey, i been goin out with my boyfriend for a while now and we have decided to go all the way. there is one problem though, he wont use a condom:( hes asked me to go onto the pill, but he's been really understanding about it and said if i didnt wa...
A. 1 December 2006: It's pretty simple really - tell him he wears one or there is no sex. I am assuming from your letter that you are younger - that makes it all the more important that you begin practicing good habits. Best case is you go on the pill AND he wears a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates it when I'm "on"... Should I let him sleep with other girls? Is there a "third way"?
Q. I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. He's a great guy but, lately, he's been annoying me a bit. I'm 20 and he's 27. We have a good sex life but he moans when I'm on my period. I am usually on for about a week and he moans that we can't have ...
A. 30 November 2006: Sounds like your boyfreind is only after one thing... but if you're comfortable with that, there are some options: 1. There is a newer birth control pill that will cause you to only have a periods about every 3 months - you could look into that. ... (read in full...)
Sex and dating terms confuse me
Q. so im just curious as to what all of your opinions are on what the bases are? like when a guy "gets to second base" or "third"....stuff like that. i have discussed this with a few friends, both male and female, and it seems the males have a very ...
A. 19 June 2006: I believe the previous two poster have left off a base (The bases are in reference to baseball) 1. Kissing 2. Groping (normally the breasts, below the shirt) 3. Genital contact (manual or oral) 4. (Home Run) penetrative sex. Regardless of h... (read in full...)
Is is wrong to have sex with someone 14 years older than me.....even if I'm only 14?
Q. hi, i was wondering what u think about dating someone 14 years older, especially if ur only 14,. also would it be wrong if i had sex with him? i been thinking about it for ages and i feel ready to do it, he hasn't pressured me into it cuz he think...
A. 8 March 2006: The short answer is Yes. The long answer is Yes, and any 28 year old man who is entertaining the idea of having sex with a 14 yeard old is a predator. You should talk to your parents, or to another adult you trust about this (Teacher, School ... (read in full...)
I overstepped the boundaries of her trust. Can we repair what we had?
Q. We dated for 4 months before things ended. After we broke up she treated me like dirt even though I didn't do anything wrong. She is separated from her husband in jail and considering a divorce. She has two kids one with him and one from an affai...
A. 16 February 2006: This is off on a bit of a tangent, but I think you both need to examine your reason for this relationship, and how committed you are to it. Here's why. She obviously has issues in choosing men. I am not saying you are not a stand up guy, but with a ... (read in full...)
I need some costume ideas...for my boudoir photo shoot! Help.
Q. For a change, this is a fun question. Not sure if I'll get any responses but I thought "what the heck..I'll give it a try"! lol I'm hoping for some great ideas. I'm getting some 'Boudoir' pics done as a surprize gift for my partner this christmas. ...
A. 13 December 2005: The sports jersey is a great idea, also try one of his dress shirts.
Think about what outfits you have worn in the past for him that got him excited. Also, be aware of the power if the peek - letting the lingerie show a bit form under clothes,... (read in full...)
Never watched porn, so the mechanics of actual sex are a mystery to me!
Q. Hi. I have a problem, me and my girlfriend are both 18 and it's long-term (I'm a virgin, she's not). As I never really watched pornography or anything like that when I was younger, I'm really unaware of how to pleasure a woman. I've learnt to play ...
A. 4 October 2005: Here are some tips for you:
1. Relax - nobody get's it right the first time.
2. Forplay - lot's of it - it's half the fun!
3. Definitely have her help you in - sex is a two person job!
4. Use a lubricated condom, and don't be afraid to add a l... (read in full...)
Did I go too far in agreeing to a threesome? What if my husband cheats?
Q. I have been in relationship for 6 years now, have 2 children together. I made a mistake and agreed to have a threesome with a stranger (woman) but he never had intercourse with her. That was over 3 months ago. We thought it would spice up our rela...
A. 3 October 2005: Talk to him - explain your fears to him. A stip club is a long way from cheating (most dancers want nothing to do with the customers outside the club) and it is more likely that it was just a night out with the guys that your husband thought of as ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with thinking about someone other than my partner when I'm pleasing myself?
Q. I need to know if it is normal for me to have sexual fantasies about men other than my fiance. When I am alone, and *ahem* pleasing myself, I sometimes think of someone other than my fiance. It's not someone I know well or see all the time. I don't ...
A. 3 October 2005: You answered your own question - you are fantasizing; There is no harm in thinking of someone other than your partner (real or imagined), it is healthy, and may help you understand better what you enjoy. Maybe you fantazise about someone a little ... (read in full...)
My ex isn't interested in having another go with our relationship, but he still wants the sex!
Q. We still have sex! Me and my ex partner split up about 3 weeks ago now, and he said that he wanted us to remain friends as we have to children together. We sleep in seperate rooms but we have started having sex again recently. Just as I thought thi...
A. 3 October 2005: Without knowing what caused the original split, my first reaction is that he is taking advantage of his current situation; he is no longer committed to you, but he still gets to ahve sex with you (the whole cake and eat it to deal) You need to be ... (read in full...)
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