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writes:I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. He's a great guy but, lately, he's been annoying me a bit. I'm 20 and he's 27. We have a good sex life but he moans when I'm on my period. I am usually on for about a week and he moans that we can't have sex. I am thinking of allowing him to go ahead and sleep with other women while I'm 'on', and he has shown some interest in this. I don't know whether this is a good idea but he has a high sex drive and I think I will lose him if I don't let him get pleasure when he wants it. What do I do? Is there anything I can get from the doctors to stop me coming 'on'? thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): He should be more understanding, you can't help your period, it's natural. So he deserves his butt kicking if he is thinking about sleeping about because of it. In his defence, testosterone is a powerful thing. It's animal instinct. A lion will fight, will beg and will do anything when he's horny and needs some action. It's not personal the lion just needs to procreate. If he doesn't do that it kind of makes the existence of his species pointless. We are all animals. It's just as natural as your period. If you love him and there's no other problems in your relationship, try giving him a a hanjob or a blowjob a couple of days in. You might enjoy it and he will be feeling so apreciative and wanted that he will be a slave to you for the rest of the week! Trust me!I think that it's not that he doesnt respect you, it's not that he doesnt love you. He just needs to blow off a little natural steam. The fact that he's frustrated with you is a sign of how much he loves you, he could just go and pleasure himself...problem solved. He obviously needs sexual contact with you...nobody else. Hope that helps...DONT LET HIM MUCK YOU ABOUT THOUGH!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): There are other ways to keep his attention. And no I don't mean physically. Clearly, if he loves you, He wouldn't care about the physical, He'd want to be with you anyways, since we all know we get old and ugly. We should look for someone we can love in lieu of those things. If he has so much trouble staying with you, because he can't "Get some" Then you're better off without him. Sexual freedom is fine for those who want it. but you can't expect a serious long term relationship with only him, if he doesn't see such with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): i'm a dude, and yes my partners period can be perturbing - however, there is no way in a million years I'd consider screwing around with some other women because of this - you should kick his ass up and down some stairs so he can relate better to your period pains and then staple his dick to his inside leg - that'll keep him in place - after all when my staples came out last week I was fine - lol. seriously, joking aside - he's just using this as an excuse, my advice is to kick him to the curb so hard his asshole comes out of his own mouth - after all all he does is spout shit and moan anyway. peace!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): Dump the tosser!
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (1 December 2006):
 lol, well said Shania!
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reader, shania +, writes (1 December 2006):
 The man is a total loser...dump him...he's a selfish twat!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (1 December 2006):
 I'm just reiterating what everyone else is saying, but WHAT A JERK.
It's not like you can HELP that you get your period (I think I'm just super angry about this because it is my "Dark Week". But my boyfriend is nice to me during this time. It makes him happy. It reassures him that I'm not pregnant and still healthy). And there's no reason for you to start letting him sleep with other women. THEY GET THEIR PERIODS TOO.
What does he think that somewhere there's a 20-something Superwoman who just doesn't get her period? Perhaps there's a few due to some medical conditions... but honestly. GRR. Men.
Don't you allow him to sleep with other women.
That's disrespectful to you, girl.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): Well, I won't add to the negativity here, but I do think that guy is retard. [ahem] If you want to pleasure him and stuff, then why don't you two have sex while having your period? Sure, it's super messy, but it's not like it's bad or anything. Just gotta take a shower or a bath afterwards.
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reader, gustavia  +, writes (30 November 2006):
I think it's stupid to even consider letting him sleep with other women while you are on your period. Obviously He's not that into you, and you are just now figuring this out. Dump him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): I think he sounds like a loser!!!, but if you really want a solution to the problem then go to your doctors and change the type of Pill you are taking, thats if you are already on the pill of course.
There are different types of pill, with some you still have a "break", and with others you dont have a "break" at all.
So for goodness sake woman pull your socks up and stop being such a push over!!.
I really dont know if this a serious relationship, if he is happy to go and have sex with other women because your on you PERIOD!!.
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reader, Prada +, writes (30 November 2006):
Ya if he cant get through one week without having sex then you really dont need to be with him because that is just sad there is no excuse for that.Al so you might want to remind him that there are plenty of other things that you guys can do without actually having sex.But you should not let him have sex with other womem.Tell him if he wnts to do that then you guys are over.
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reader, Seratuki +, writes (30 November 2006):
 Ok...
This is just sad..as the others have said, he must me only after one thing..high sex drive or not, it's just one lousy week!
That said..I hope you never have kids with him..be prepared if you do..being hugely pregnant makes it hard to have sex, and theres a restriction put on it after a baby is born..I'm not sure how long, but docs do warn against it...
If you agree to let him see other women, whats to say this won't become a regular thing?
Do you really want your relationship reduced to mere sex when you're not on?
Every woman has a period..but if it's that much of an issue..some birth control can slow it down or even stop it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): there's a new birth control pill you can take that will reduce your 'cycles' to only 4 per year (once every three months), and another that keeps them every month but will shorten them to only a couple of days. if you're already on the pill for contraception, consider switching to one of these. i switched to the 4x/yr pill recently, and it's been amazing, for my sex life, and for my general convenience. i'd do it even if i weren't in a relationship -- it's just nicer.
that said, i'd agree with the advice below. your cycle is part of life, and while it's understandable that your bf will be annoyed by it (aren't YOU a little annoyed by it sometimes?), it's not fair to make it into something that changes the relationship. bringing other ppl into it just so he can get off is a terrible idea. try to be a bit more creative and focus on the relationship between the TWO of you. and maybe consider that there's more to dating than JUST sex. (tho sex is important ... you'll realize how important if your bf is ever injured and can't get together with you for a stretch of time ... will drive you crazy.)
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reader, Dolomite +, writes (30 November 2006):
Sounds like your boyfreind is only after one thing... but if you're comfortable with that, there are some options:1. There is a newer birth control pill that will cause you to only have a periods about every 3 months - you could look into that.2. You CAN have sex on your period - it's just messy. Put a towel down and get to it. Some say this is even a good way to deal with cramps. You DO still need to use protection.3. (My personal favorite) Tell him to man up and quit bitching about having to go a week without. If he is that desperate, he can get himself off. There is no reason he should be going to other women. If he actually loves you, he can go without sex for a week. If he can't wait, that should tell you what his priorities are.
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reader, sard0106 +, writes (30 November 2006):
Sweetheart...he needs a kick up the backside..sorry..but he should understand that this is part of life!! my god so men really take the biscuit...If you want try oral..but definitely do now resort to allowing him to go with other girls...realise your worth..and make sure he knows how lucky he is! cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): THAT is rediculous. you should NOT have to resort to this. cant you just give him oral and other forms? its ONLY a week. no matter what women he goes with, he wil always have the same problem.
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