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My boyfriend is well endowed and I'm finding anal sex a bit difficult. What can I do to make it easier for me?

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Question - (12 February 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 14 February 2007)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi, im a 23 yr old gay guy, have just gotten into a new relationship and I haven't had sex for about a year and am finding it hard being the "bottom" especially since my new guy is quite well endowed, any advice making it easier, i've only ever slept with one guy before and i enjoyed anal sex so I really want to take the next step xx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007):

Besides, vaginas are many skin layers thick, and unless your bf is willing to undergo a sex alteration, stay away from the anal sex, b/c if you get abrased by your bf's penis, then you could end up with some serious silent infections.

PS: STAY HEALTHY!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007):

Anal sex is very dangerous, and is very leading to cause easily skin ulcers, lesions and cracks.

The skin on in the anal canal wasn't made for abrasive forces. The only canals of the human body whose skin layer is equip for abrasive forces are the vagina and the ear canal.

The anal canal is for secrection of fluids and aborptions of minerals. There is only one cell layer thick, next to a majority of Veins, and small Arteries, and a TON of immune system LYMPH Nodes.

The lymph nodes are sampling and trying to recognize the infinte germs that is inside of our feces. So with that said, there exist a TON of CD4-T-cells there and the risk for HIV infection is 10,000% more likely in the Anus than the Vagina.

The Anus doesn't secrete fluids to offset abrasive forces and shock as the vagina does, so skin ruptures are destined to happen and you're likely to end up with small undectable liver infection(b/c the veins go right to the liver from the anus), and definitly sepsis(blood infection).

The anal sex should be done at all times with a condom to prevent the manifestations of these illnesses.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007):

thanks for the advice, I realised what the problem was. My bf was quite selfish in bed so we had a chat and I told him how I was feeling. I was much more aroused and relaxed and we had fantastic sex both ways, thanks for the advice though!!!

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A female reader, CarrieMagdelene United States +, writes (12 February 2007):

CarrieMagdelene agony auntGood question. My solution, babes, is a lubed condom. Trojan Ultra Ribbed, Trojan Lubricated, etc. Lubed condoms are a God-Send for first-time anal intercourses, and also for the first two or three, until you're stretched a little. After that, if you wish to not use condoms (recomended to stop STDs), use Wet, a really good lubricant. I recomend Wet 4 in 1. Ask him to let you get used to the size after he's entered you, and then go forth in the act. Don't forget to relax your muscles for a more comfortable intercourse.

-Carrie

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A male reader, Dolomite +, writes (12 February 2007):

The normal answer to this is lube up and go slow. When you think you have enough lube, add some more. Start slow, with a finger or two or a toy, then move to more fingers/bigger toy etc. It's a muscle, and it needs to stretch. Take your time and you'll be fine - keep in mind you may have to have a couple "stretching sessions" before you can take him.

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