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I'm 17 - she's 15. Illegal?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what is classed as ilegal in the UK with an under 16 year old??? I'm 17 and she is 15! we are really love each other and want to get more physical but don't want to break the law! Please can you tell us what is ok? THANKS....
A. 28 April 2008: Sexual intercourse with somebody under the age of sixteen is against the law. Despite whether the girl in question is a consenting party, it is classed as “statutory rape”, meaning that legally speaking you took advantage of a minor who is not ... (read in full...)
She finished with me saying she has too many emotional issues from her last relationship which was abusive?
Q. Should i wait for my girlfriend. She finished with me saying she has too many emotional issues from her last relationship which was abusive.I begged her to give us a second chance and she agreed but needs more space and time. I love her so much but ...
A. 27 April 2008: You need to decide whether you really want to wait for her. Take some time to think about how you really feel and ask yourself whether a relationship with her has any true long-term potential. If not, then you’re kidding yourself by waiting around ... (read in full...)
I want to be able to move on or get him back?
Q. okay i have been on this site with lots of questions and i have recieved alot of help that i am grateful for. I have a new problem tho, my life seems to be full of them lol MY boyfriend and me split up like 2 weeks ago, he is moving on and its ...
A. 27 April 2008: Why can’t you get out of it? I’m sure that if you look at this objectively, you’ll realise that things aren’t half as bad as you think they are. You’re just raw at the moment, but that will pass. This new girlfriend is not important in your ability ... (read in full...)
He has ne gf now so why is he still coming back to me?
Q. I need help figuring out my situation. My bf of 6 years and I broke up last summer. He began dating someone else and I know they met before he broke up with me. We didn't see each other for a month, then it was every once in a while and now for ...
A. 27 April 2008: He’s taking advantage of the situation and he won’t be the one to get hurt. Consider his current girlfriend’s feelings for a moment. How would you feel is your boyfriend was sleeping with somebody behind your back? Remember: You’re the ‘other woman’ ... (read in full...)
Should choose to stay with the boring girlfriend I love, or go for the fun friend or the hot ultravixen?
Q. I am 23 years old and am currently in a bit of a pickle. I have a girlfriend who I love very much and we have been in a relationship for the past two years. A year ago, I slept with a close friend of hers. I am still seeing this friend and we have ...
A. 27 April 2008: If you’re messing around behind your girlfriends back, you obviously have no intention of putting some effort in and making your relationship work, so stop making a fool of her and let her go. It’s easy to have a ‘safe option’, somebody to keep the ... (read in full...)
I want to be able to move on or get him back?
Q. okay i have been on this site with lots of questions and i have recieved alot of help that i am grateful for. I have a new problem tho, my life seems to be full of them lol MY boyfriend and me split up like 2 weeks ago, he is moving on and its ...
A. 27 April 2008: The important thing to remember is that you’re young and getting over him, whilst seemingly difficult right now, will come a lot quicker than you realise. The question is, do you suck it up and ride it out, or relent to your feelings and be ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's parents pretend that I buy all that is necessary to their daughter! I'm her partner, not her sustainer!
Q. The parents of my gf is getting on my last nerve(The father is who I dislike the most). On one end I have the mother telling her to get what she can and what ever she does get paid for it. And on the other side the father is telling me that it is my ...
A. 27 April 2008: Tell your girlfriend how you feel – “a problem shared is a problem halved”. It isn’t right that you feel burdened in your relationship, and if your girlfriend cares she will understand. If she already knows, the likelihood is she is ignoring the ... (read in full...)
Do women tell the truth about their sexual past?
Q. Do women tell the truth about their sexual past... do they feel men would leave them if they told the truth? be honest and men your thoughts also please. thanks...
A. 24 April 2008: Don’t look on this as a gender orientated question. The truth is, both men and women may have the tendency to lie about their sexual experience. You do not give specifics in what you suspect your partner has (or hasn’t) been up to, but the most ... (read in full...)
We're both going through rough times but I really want to help him, what can I do?
Q. I love my boyfriend to pieces, and i now he loves me too, when were together all we seem to do is talk, he's never once tried to take advantage of me, and knows i'm not ready for sex+that. He's like a completely different person when were together ...
A. 24 April 2008: There are many ways that you can help him, but don’t try to be wonder woman. With problems of your own to sort out, do not get consumed in his, especially if he isn’t as keen to help himself. Some people smoke and they enjoy it. You have to ask ... (read in full...)
I gave her space. she's still ignoring me. Advice on how to talk to her one last time?
Q. I really like my friend. She found out, I gave her space because she didnt like me. Its been 2 months, yet were still not talking. She's rejected my calls. Can anyone advice me on how to talk to her one last time-attempt before I give up? Thanks...
A. 24 April 2008: You may have to accept that you have no romantic future together. Once you’ve taken that on board, you might find that the words to say come a little easier. If she rejects your calls, leave a voicemail, or send a text or e-mail. If you’re sorry, ... (read in full...)
Should I have let the 'sex' thing go? Am I doing something wrong?
Q. So I've been with a guy for about 8 months now-since the end of August. Things were really good until one day in January, I called him on a Friday to see if we were going out like planned. He had told me he needed that weekend to think and then on ...
A. 23 April 2008: In an ideal world, we’d have an invisible force field that would keep our special relationships and the more mundane daily inconveniences like work separate, but we don’t live in an ideal world. You mention quite a bit throughout your letter that ... (read in full...)
I see myself as a heartbroken, hopeless romantic! The thought of living without her kills me...
Q. Hi, I'll cut to the chase. I'm planning to ask this girl out soon, but I have a strong feeling it's going to be no. I'm completely infatuated with her, but she's leaving soon, so thats why I'm asking. The real problem is this: I want to be re...
A. 23 April 2008: You can gain a lot of attention through being down on your luck; people tend to commit unquestionable kindness to a person experience a hard time, but you will gain nothing in the long run. Each case is different, but the usual suspect here is ... (read in full...)
Was this sex? I'm a virgin and I'm not sure what to think of this or how to move past it!
Q. I am a guy 24 yrs old and not had sex as yet.I had a aunty in relation whom I am open with. I share every problem with her .I went to a party a wedding in her relation. I was tense those days regarding my job and regarding my girlfriend. i told her...
A. 23 April 2008: No, you did not have sex. Technically speaking, only full intercourse (when you penetrate her vagina with your penis) corresponds to the loss of your virginity, so do not worry. Speak to your girlfriend and explain openly why you wish to remain a ... (read in full...)
I go to church, even though I gave head there, so I've changed! How do I let people know this?
Q. People make fun of me because of my "sex life" but it's passst ;; and i've changed ! in my "lifetime" i've given head to 3 people i have had sex once, but it was in a church, i've gotten fingered 4 times.....and i know it sounds bad but recentley ...
A. 23 April 2008: You can’t convince bullies not to bully you; it’s like trying to convince a chicken not to lay eggs. It’s want they do. You – or the things you have done in the past - are not the problem, they are. Cut them loose and stay away from them. Get ... (read in full...)
My instincts are refusing me to go out with him! What's wrong with me?
Q. i dont understand my feelings, this boy likes me he asked me out online even though he goes the same school as me. I said yes. however he asked me to go to his house the next day i sd yes but on the mornin i canceled n told him didnt want to go...
A. 23 April 2008: When you don’t get the wow factor, it does leave a question mark hanging in the air, so I understand your confusion. You may just need a little more time to get to get to know him – not all Romeo & Juliet romances begin with love (or “wow”) at first ... (read in full...)
It hurts when he does it from behind..is this normal?
Q. This is very strange for me asking this and have only just found this website but i really need help.last nite my guy took me from behind and it really hurt in which i asked him to pull out which he did but it made me feel a bit sick for a few ...
A. 23 April 2008: This is quite a common sexual health question, so there’s no need to be embarrassed. Being taken from behind allows for deeper penetration, which is why it’s a favoured position. However, there is the risk that he might hit your cervix, which can ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me, or someone else?
Q. Okay.. So I have a question bout a guy I like. I am really close to him and his family. I met him thru his aunt. Well whenever I hang around him and his family I always get mixed signals. Sometimes he sits on the other side of the room and seems to ...
A. 23 April 2008: I may well be that this guy is looking to move on with his life, but feels a bit torn because he is, essentially, still in a relationship. This might explain why he’s hot one moment and cold the other. I think it’s safe to say that you’re not the ... (read in full...)
I want to tell my ex I'm pregnant but I'm scared....he calls me bad names and has a new girlfriend!
Q. My bf and me are no longer together and i am pregnant what should i do i dont want to tell him but i need help i am 4 months and i didnt even know he has a new gf and she dislikes me. he phones me up some times telling me how much he loves me and ...
A. 23 April 2008: Your ex-boyfriend seems to be very indecisive about how he feels about you. The telephone calls may well indicate that he still has feelings for you, but when he’s with his girlfriend, he may be convinced otherwise, especially if she doesn’t like ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my mom's cousin! I think he likes me.
Q. I dont know what to do.I have a crush on my mum's cousin.He isnt much older than me.Should i tell him how i feel or not ?. He has smiled alot at me, asked if i have a boyfriend afew times, danced with me at a party and bought me a drink, and he ha...
A. 23 April 2008: If you decide to follow through with this crush, you risk upsetting the entire family and causing yourself unlimited stress and upset. Legally speaking, relations with a second cousin are not against the law, but it remains a social taboo and many ... (read in full...)
I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?
Q. i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...
A. 23 April 2008: This is a tricky one. You’ve fallen in love with somebody who you now share your life with, but it’s not that simple for your partner, especially with children involved. Every situation is different, but there is no doubt some loose ends to tie up ... (read in full...)
Husband blames me for getting pregnant on purpose!
Q. hi, i have been married now for less than two years, we have had a tough time with our marriage to be honest. Broken up and have gotten back together since, originally we had broken up, as he did not know if he wanted to be married, he was ...
A. 22 April 2008: First things first: Get a pregnancy test. The sooner you know for sure whether you are pregnant or not, the sooner you can look towards sorting this situation out. Your husband seems like a very indecisive man, and you’ve shown nothing but patience. ... (read in full...)
I like him, I rejected him once and he has never asked me out since, what can I do?
Q. hi, im having a problem trying to work out if a boy wants a relationship with me or not. i have known him for about a year and a half now and meet him about once a month. He asked me out once but i rejected him and he has never asked since. now i ...
A. 22 April 2008: This is an easy one if you take your own personal pride out of the equation. You know that he likes you – or did like you – because he’s already asked you out once. I’d say your first step is to establish that he does indeed still like you. His own ... (read in full...)
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