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writes: I am a guy 24 yrs old and not had sex as yet.I had a aunty in relationwhom I am open with. I share every problem with her .I went to a party a wedding in her relation. I was tense those days regarding my job and regarding my girlfriend. i told her that my girl friend is insisting me for sex but i am hesitant being, a virgin. But may be that could relieve my anxiety. So we had a nice party. Being visitors we all slept in a same room on a same turf. She was sleeping right adjacent to me. she was wearing a night dress and i also had on cotton outfits. We slept after chatting. In the night, in half of my senses, i hugged her and left her. then i felt her taking my penis in her hands and toucing her vagina of course it did not insert. then i turn my back and slept. was that sex? now the problem is that i am always disturbed by that incident and feel tense. as if i had sex. Plz tell me the way to come out of it. plz dont ask me to forget it because i've tried and failed. so give me a solution.i have heard lot about dearcupid..this is question of life..
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Hiya
Well can see how you have become confussed, but like the previouse two replies you have definatly not had sex, she was obviously turned on by you and the drink, she wanted to arouse you and so played with you, you went to sleep and she did too, all done and dusted, bet she cannot even remember what she did.
Don`t torment yourself but lesson learnt, dont sleep too close to any woman when you have been drinking, you just dont know where it may lead!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): My Aunt was a cracker in her time too, and I probably wouldn't have said no because I'm one of the weaker sex. But no, you didn't have sex, she just played with you a bit and I hope you enjoyed it. I would have if I were you.
Just relax, you're still a virgin - but if you want to change that state of affairs quickly, have a word with your aunt, who sounds like she might be willing to show you the ropes and educate you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Heya!
This eas most certainly NOT sex. That doesnt mean that this was a good thing to do, and i think you might need some space from your aunt. She over stepped a boundary and that was wrong of her.
But dont worry, although it probably felt odd and creepy, and even if you were aroused by ti, you did the right thing and turned away. This was deffinitely not sex.
I hope this helps you to relax about it, knowing that it wasnt sex. If you want to chat more about it, msg me!
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reader, rproctor  +, writes (23 April 2008):
Hmm... I dont think I could condone that as sex... Maybe a tease...
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reader, DearSteve +, writes (23 April 2008):
 No, you did not have sex. Technically speaking, only full intercourse (when you penetrate her vagina with your penis) corresponds to the loss of your virginity, so do not worry. Speak to your girlfriend and explain openly why you wish to remain a virgin. If she loves and supports you, she will understand, but you must remember that sex is a very important aspect of a relationship for many people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): First off, you definatly didn't have sex, although i understand why this moment has caused such anxiety. I think the real thing you need to think about is why you have so many reservations when it comes to sex, and why you seem to have so much anxiety surrounding it. I would strongly recommend speaking to your doctor about it, as this might be something therapy can get to the bottom of
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