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writes:Do women tell the truth about their sexual past... do they feel men would leave them if they told the truth? be honest and men your thoughts also please. thanks
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reader, LOSTONEla +, writes (29 January 2009):
The answer unfortunately is often that they both LIE - which is to protect them selves and what they THINK that the other wants to hear ===== This was a DISASTER for me, so I suggest that you talk if you must but maturely readdress the discussion for the TRUTH after a few months if the relationship gets more serious. And not sniping or yelling during the talk - just get the real truth out and it will set you free. Next step - you will have been together long enough to know that you are both better for each other than those other experiences - and you will be able to tell each other that. Also, stay away from the details. They can create images in your brain you do not want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): Yes, both sexes lie.. But I think it depends on the relationship you have with the person you are gunna tell. Like with the guy I'm with I would never talk to him about my pat sexual realtionships cuz I know he will flip.. He is very jealous. We have tried talking about this, but it ddnt have a good ending. Me on the other hand, don't mind. I would love to know the truth about his sexual past. So I guess it depends on the person who you wanna tell.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 the simple answer in my view is if they were to tell the truth some petty men will get insecure and not be able to handle it.
Look up past questions about men hating their gf/wives sexual past and you will see why some women hide it
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 April 2008):
 This is a really vague question. Some women do and some women don't. Some women do sometimes and some women don't sometimes. Some women never do and some women always do. Sheesh.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (24 April 2008):
 I don't think it's a subject that needs to be discussed between man and woman (or, for that matter, between man and man or woman and woman). Obviously it's appropriate to know of previous partners, but not the details. "I was with him. It didn't work. Now I'm with you." That's it. That's all that's needed. The intimacy of sex is, and should be just that: intimacy between the two partners and there is absolutely no need and no benefit in discussing it later with a new partner.
Unless, of course, there is something really important like.... "Sure it works. I've done it before. If we fix a rope to the wardrobe and I jump from the top of the cupboard before the vibrator's batteries run out...."
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): YES! .....but to be fair, both MEN and WOMEN lie about their past! Not everyone lies, but a great many do. Women lie about the number of men they have been with or about if they were molested in their youth or as a child or if they have ever experimneted with their brother or cousin or if they have ever been with another female or if they ever "played" with the family cat or dog or if they ever allowed a gangbang....things of that nature.Guys have a tendacy to lie about whether they were molested period...many will take that secret to the grave with them or if they ever touched a sister or other sibling or whether they had sex with a elderly person or ever participated in a 'jerk-off' session with another guy or ever had willing experimental sex with another guy or with ...YOU get the point! Many people will take some secrets to the grave with them.
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reader, salvation +, writes (24 April 2008):
most girl will be generally truthfull when it comes to there past and what they got up to as long as they trust the person theyre telling
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): In a lot of cases, I believe women are very honest with their partners about their sexual past. But perhaps in some cases, they feel the need to lie. This may be because they're ashamed of it, or have 'accidentally' told their partner otherwise. Admitting a lie is always hard, so when it comes to sexual lies, it's even harder to admit. You just have to trust the woman you're with.
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reader, DearSteve +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Don’t look on this as a gender orientated question. The truth is, both men and women may have the tendency to lie about their sexual experience. You do not give specifics in what you suspect your partner has (or hasn’t) been up to, but the most likely reason that she has lied is to impress you and I doubt she means any harm by it.
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