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writes: The parents of my gf is getting on my last nerve(The father is who I dislike the most). On one end I have the mother telling her to get what she can and what ever she does get paid for it. And on the other side the father is telling me that it is my job to take care of her. Now if I give something to my gf its because I want her to have it as a gift, if she asks me for something with in reason if I have it at that time I would look out and help her out. But it is not my job to buy everything or get her everything that she wants and needs that's what mom and dad is for. See I have a little job and some extra money in my pocket from my family and he sees a chance to keep his money in his pocket and try to force my hand to take care of her like I'm her father. He tells her that it's my job to take care of her and buy her everything she needs, like buying her books and extra things she needs for school, keep her gas tank full, and keep money in her pocket at all times. Hell no, we go with each other but she is not my wife, see her parents don't care how she gets what she wants as long as it not out of their pocket they are users and I see her parents and me going at it which is going to put her in the middle that will cause us to break up because that's still her parents and she loves them, not me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): Does your GF have any brothers? Do her parents expect their son(s) to carry the same burden that they're putting on you?
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reader, DearSteve  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Tell your girlfriend how you feel – “a problem shared is a problem halved”. It isn’t right that you feel burdened in your relationship, and if your girlfriend cares she will understand. If she already knows, the likelihood is she is ignoring the ever-so prominent problem, so remind her. If she really is content in allowing you to lay out for her convenience, then you need to re-evaluate your relationship and decide whether the two of you have long-term potential. If she too has a problem with her parents taking liberties, then it’d down to her to talk to them. She needs to take an active part in maintaining your relationship if she really wants this to work. Either way, you have my sympathies. You’re in a difficult position as it is, but my advice is to let your girlfriend show her true colours and deal with her parents herself. That’s the only way you’ll obtain real peace of mind.
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