Want to move on, date someone new but am afraid to ask someone out
Q. i'm 24 years old with a 3 week old baby in a shitty apartment writting on an peace of crap labtop. with no job and zero friends due to the fact i lost them all because i was so wrapped up with my ex. who by the way i still love but f*** off when i ...
A. 14 April 2011: Concentrate on yourself and your new little baby. Take this time to heal from your break up and be the best mom you can be! Let this new guy make the move on you. You've got enough to deal with right now.... (read in full...)
My friend is not safe online, but I'm hesitant to tell her parents
Q. ok im friends with this 11 year old girl online. basically im really really scared for her safety, she trusts people online way too fast with her facebook and cell phone number. im truelly afraid for her safety and i tryed to tell her to be more ...
A. 3 April 2011: I think you already know the answer. Her life and safety will cease to exist if you don't inform her parents. You would be really selfish is you decided it was more important to keep her friendship and risk her life. Tell on her and maybe wh... (read in full...)
How do I continue to heal from a devastating break-up?
Q. Broke up with girl 5 months ago. she dumped me. was with her 6 years. heart breaking. she contacted me every 2 weeks or so. how are you etc etc etc. ive only started to feel bit better lately. still miss her so much but I'm not in as low mood a...
A. 1 April 2011: I agree with perfect, stopping all contact with her and her family might be best for you right now. It sounds like you are all on good terms so I'm sure they would understand if you simply said you need some time to yourself and would call them ... (read in full...)
Tried to get my GF to "change" for me, but I'm still not attracted to her and there's no sexual tension
Q. I've been with my GF for 3 years now, but our relationship is missing sexual tension. I'll try to be as honest as possible. You will judge my behavior as selfish, and I will not object, but know that when I'm changing my GF to my tastes, I'm trying ...
A. 1 April 2011: I think it's funny how you've listed your options in conclusion. 1. Is not going to work. You can't force something that is simply not right. I agree with you that you are kind of an asshole (although honesty is an admirable trait) for telli... (read in full...)
Is he just projecting his insecurities onto me so he can feel better about himself?
Q. A guy I was dating told me he didn't want to date me anymore because I still live at home (I'm 28) but I work full time and I pay my parents rent, and I am in school part time to be a nurse. I already have my Bachelor Degree in elementary education, ...
A. 1 April 2011: Sounds like you two are not compatible. I don't think either of you are "losers", just living life differently. He probably has issues with your parents' house b/c he wants to smoke pot and watch movies but can't at your parents' place. You ... (read in full...)
My longtime boyfriend is now married to someone else, I'm happy in my own life, yet he tries to pursue a friendship with me only to hurt me...
Q. I met a guy at college when I was 19, we were each others first relationship and we continued to date on-off for 4 years. It became apparent after about a year that his cultural/religious background would not allow us to remain together and that...
A. 1 April 2011: Well, whatever his intentions are I can almost guarantee his betrothed wife is not aware that he is meeting up for lunch with his ex-lover. Sometimes technology is such a hindrance. Sometimes it's best to move on and leave people in the pa... (read in full...)
Do you think there is hope for a 2nd try to make our relationship stronger with acceptance and trust and understanding?
Q. 7 months ago I had an affair, I got caught up with another woman thinking that she "was the one" during the affair I was verbally abusive and blaming my wife for everything. The reason for the affair was because we both stopped tending to each other ...
A. 1 April 2011: Sometimes it is too late for a second chance. What people don't realize about emotional abuse is that it tears apart one's soul. It's more than just "falling out of love with you" at this point. It's about her regaining herself and all she lost ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I don't know how to react when a girl flirts with me. Advice?
Q. I need some tips for dating, flirting, and talking to girls I'm fourteen and it's kinda weird. I don't really know what to do when a girl flirts with me. Some suggestions on how to act and flirt with girls please?...
A. 8 March 2011: That's part of being a teen! The excitement of not knowing what's next! Enjoy the ride and just be yourself. It's ok to be nervous when you are around a girl you like. She will feel flattered.... (read in full...)
Online dating: IMing for only a week and now she's telling me that we're twin souls! Advice?
Q. I met this girl through a dating site. We've been IMing for only a week and now she's telling me that we're twin souls, that I'm what she's been looking for all her life. She said fate brought us together. We've been exchanging fantasies about ...
A. 8 March 2011: You sound like a considerate and sweet guy. I would be leery of this girl, she seems a little emotionally unstable. Even if you do "fall in love" at first type, I think a little discretion wouldn't hurt. #3...Changing the subject? I'm no... (read in full...)
According to him I am selfish...
Q. To anyone that can help, I am so lost and feel so alone. My husband of 6 years and I have not been in a good place for a while. Many things have happend over the past 2 years that have put a strain on things. Just when I think things are ok, I...
A. 8 March 2011: I am sorry you are going through this but relieved to know it's not just me. My fiance and I are basically in the exact boat. I am beginning to think that men are incapable of loving to the capacity that women do.
Communication is everythi... (read in full...)
I don't want him to be bored, I just don't want the complications that come with sex
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months and as it usually happens in any relationship the subject of sex came up... I told him how I didn't think sex in high school was a good idea for many reasons pregnancy, not being really emotionally ...
A. 8 March 2011: You should never have sex because you are worried about boring someone else. You are right, and intelligent enough to realize, that sex comes with complications and emotions you are not ready to jump into.
Keep talking about your future and if y... (read in full...)
My exwife has trained my 9 year old daughter to hate my fiance.
Q. My 9 year old daughter has been trained by my ex wife to hate my fiancé. My daughter refuses to be near her so, when my kids are with me, my fiancé is not. To make matters worse, my daughter's therapist seems to be enabling the hate. This has been ...
A. 8 March 2011: Have you tried contacting or setting up a meeting with the therapist. The only way this can begin to be resolved is if there is a non-biased person to intervene and help all of you communicate together. As a daughter of a man who picked his lover... (read in full...)
How do I tell him he's too rough?
Q. Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 7 months and we are sexually active but the problem is that he is very rough during sex and it sometimes can be painfull. Help. What should I say to him ...
A. 11 February 2011: "Calm down there cowboy, this ain't no rodeo"
Chances are he's being so rough b/c he thinks it's what you'll like or what impresses you. Communication is the key to a great sex life. But if he is rough and likes it that way, well, you may have... (read in full...)
Most people believe a woman should make a man wait for sex. I enjoy sex, so I find this hard. What advice do you have for me?
Q. I've always been told that you shouldn't sleep with your partner straight off the back in a relationship, always aimed at females, of course. I've been doing a little googling, and I came across this little tidbit of advice, "You will be more...
A. 11 February 2011: 18-21...so you are very young and still exploring. I also enjoy sex and do not go by the "rules" of the game. However, you have to understand what you will mean to a man when you are considered easy. You will never meet his mother, you will not ... (read in full...)
I'm 20, and my Muslim parents are too overprotective. What should I do?
Q. Ok, to make a long story short, I come from a Muslim family and my parents are way too overprotective. I’m 20 years old and I’m not allowed to go out with my friends or anything, I can’t even go to the corner shop on my own. Everyday I go to ...
A. 11 February 2011: I agree with FloridaGirl. Join some clubs! Your parents will not likely decline your advancing your educational opportunities and you will make some friends.
Also, seek out part time employment. It will give you a sense of the monetary part of ... (read in full...)
I'm dating 4 women at the same time and juggling a job that requires travel. WHY?
Q. I find myself in a very strange position, some envy it, some think wtf - no way, others think how stupid are you. I work in a job that ive done for 20 or more years, now at a stage where bar the pennies i would walk away and have tried to do so o...
A. 11 February 2011: Sounds like you are using these women and your demanding job to fill a void in your life. It may not be that you want a relationship to ease your depression. I would seek help regarding your depression.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my girlfriend's irrational behavior?
Q. Yesterday my girlfriend and I had another fight and she provoqued me by saying she had no money to buy the plane ticket so I should be the one doing it. I did it. When she saw I could do it she started to play victim saying that she didn't want to ...
A. 18 January 2011: A. Let her go.
If she is attached to pain now, it will only get worse with time. If you are an otherwise healthy and happy individual, then you need someone who will improve your life, not drag it down.
Imagine her as the mother of your chi... (read in full...)
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