A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating this guy for a couple of months and as it usually happens in any relationship the subject of sex came up... I told him how I didn't think sex in high school was a good idea for many reasons pregnancy, not being really emotionally ready, parents finding out etc. And he said he was completely ok with it and understood and everything. But the problem is we really like each other and have been having these great deep conversations about the future and stuff and it got me thinking: what happens if it were long term? As in more than a year? I don't want him to be bored I just don't want the complications that come with sex! So are there ways to keep us both happy?? Would a guy be happy with other sexual acts like hand jobs and blow jobs in a long term relationship? I don't want him to be bored with me but im not going to back down on my opinion.
View related questions:
blow-job, hand-job Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Jjang19  +, writes (8 March 2011):
If you havent done any sexual acts yet then you are NOWHERE near ready for sex. I remember the time i got my first Bj from the girl i ended up loosing my vcard to, and the next day i thought i was ready for sex.. 3 months later when the time came i was the most nervous i've ever been in my life, and i was 18.ORAL NEVER BECOMES BORING. And besides, sex in highschool 99% of the times is a major regret
A
male
reader, Advice_man +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Reading your entry I thought it was written by someone much older. You are very mature and a very rational thinker! I totally agree with your thoughts and principles you mention. Indeed the complications of pregnancy are enormous at your age. It could ruin your life for ever and traumatise you. Take my advice: At this age enjoy the innocence of being 13-15, focus on studing and set high accademic goals and yes enjoy the romance in a relationship but without the risks and complication of sex. What ever guy you meet who does not respects this and wants "more" so he won't be bored, is selfish and be very aware of him. Always stick to your values and beliefs no matter the cost! Best wishes
...............................
A
female
reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Good for you! You will never be sorry you waited.As a teenage I had more fun out of bed with my boyfriend then in one. There are million non-sexual things you can do with each other.Just be careful that each alternative sex act doesn't lead you closer and closer to to the "real" thing as is often the case. Good intentions tend to go out the window when hormones heat up and people let themselves get carried away.
...............................
A
female
reader, ball3rbby +, writes (8 March 2011):
Your morals and opinions should always be the most important to you, rather than keeping him happy. If you're not ready, you're not ready. And you should not feel like you're being rushed into something so serious. There will come a time when you know you are ready, trust me. I would talk to him about it, he seems like a sweet guy considering he understood your feelings.Best of luck !
...............................
A
male
reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (8 March 2011):
Dont get into sex yet. If he loves you THE WAY YOU ARE, then he likes you the way you are now. He wont get bored. If he gets bored and asks for sex, he is inmature.
Are you sure you want to go sexual yet?
Hand jobs will lead to sex. So avoid that altogether.
...............................
A
female
reader, coolbeans +, writes (8 March 2011):
 You should never have sex because you are worried about boring someone else. You are right, and intelligent enough to realize, that sex comes with complications and emotions you are not ready to jump into.
Keep talking about your future and if you are college sweet hearts one day you will have this amazing relationship, friendship, and bond to take with you as you move up to something more physical.
If he's "too bored" to wait for you to be ready, than you are "too good" to be with him.
Sex is like drinking. It's ok if done safely and at an appropriate age. You are sooo young to be thinking of this. Try hanging out in groups or getting involved in something that interests both of you (other than your bodies I mean).
Best of luck!
...............................
|
