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male
age
36-40,
*mootnezz
writes:hi everybody,if u have read about my problems in the past, u wil realise that i hav a major self esteem issue. i dnt loke myself because of my height. it is sad to adaadmit but yea it is true and i need help.well i am about 5 tall and have never been sucessful with women. that is to be expected right? i have on numerous occasions written about this problem here and got good advise but np matter how hard i trty rto be confident in myself,when it comes to relating with women, i am not just successful.believe me, i am now a succesful radio journalist with one of the bigest radio stations in my country so i am confident when doing my job. i know i am good in my jod from the compliments i get from people. i am famous too. i just dnt seem to give myself a chance anytime i see a girl i like and it's due the numerous disappointments i hav had from women. i am 26 now and the number of girls who dont want to be with me is shocking!i have done a self assessment and from it, i think my height is the only thing the girls may not like because i think i am good looking despite my being short. is there any permanent help i can get from here? i am afraid i might end up wit a woman who doesnt love me if things dont change.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 June 2012):
 The problem is not your height, the problem is how you see yourself. Your height is not the issue, the issue is your projection of yourself due to lack of self-confidence…
I left a 6’4” guy for a 5’6” guy… and at 5”2” I’d date a 5 foot guy if I liked him.. most of the shorter men I know here at work have been or are happily married… but they exude a confidence that is charming…
At 5’2” I’m short for a woman… I just tell folks “I’m fun sized”
Can you find a therapist to work with you to build your self-esteem…. You can’t really change your height… (although when my guy wears his boots with his orthotics he gains a few inches) but you can change how you project yourself. Folks are AMAZED when I tell them I’m 5’2” they all think I’m much taller (and I wear flats) because that’s how I carry myself.
So much of who we are and how we appear comes from how we project ourselves.
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reader, smootnezz +, writes (15 June 2012):
smootnezz is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncitadel i wrote the question from my phone and made some typing errors. i shd hav read through before posting but i didn't and that is why the grammatical errors are there. sorry about that.
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reader, citadel  +, writes (15 June 2012):
4' 8? Gary Coleman
5' 0? Danny DeVito
5' 2? Paul Williams
5' 2½” Dudley Moore
5' 3? Prince
5' 5? Michael J. Fox
There are many others.
What is probably happening is that you get too nervous about your height and it effects your approach. Gotta love it all and they will too.
Also, I am curious, being a journalist don't you think you should be presenting yourself grammatically correct. Could you be having an all over self esteem issue?
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