All I want to do is be with my wonderful partner... except sometimes I wonder if I should have dated women too...
Q. I'm in a commited gay relationship but we haven't come out as a couple to family and friends, only a few friends who are very happy for us, they are also gay. Anyway he is in another part of the country and we call each other every ay and love each ...
A. 9 November 2005: Dancing with the " pretty single ladies all night long" seems to be a romantic fantasy of being with the one you love, out in the open, in front of your friends and family.
You didn't say if you were sexually attracted to women, or attracte... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex with a close friend and now I have a genital disease!
Q. There is this guy that I have known all my life. My best friend is his cousin and my close friend is his cousin, plus when I was younger, he lived across the road from me. When we got into high school, we became friends (social) and we got along we...
A. 9 November 2005: This is terrible!
Does he think he shares no responsibility in having sex with you without protection? Does he think you are the bad one because you are diseased? Do you know if you caught this from him?
His attitude is disgusting, instead in f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I had sex 2 weeks ago. Could I be pregnant?
Q. I'm 15 and I had sex with my boyfriend almost 2 week ago and I've been geting signs of pregnancy, like tiredness, constantly going to the bathroom, eating a lot, getting headaches, and feeling sick. I'm not getting my hopes up or whatever, but I'm ...
A. 9 November 2005: You should check with your doctor if the symptoms are connected to a disease.
I don't know how early a pregnancy can be detected through an over the counter test, but I would definitely look into that.
You didn't say if you used protection o... (read in full...)
I've already compromised on other issues. I'm not sure I can share this man with other women!
Q. I am a 69 year old widow for the last couple of years. I have dated a lot of men, and some I really cared for but unfortunately they didn't feel the same. However, I met a man that lives a couple of hours away and I have only seen him twice. W...
A. 9 November 2005: Since you have met only twice, it is difficult for you to get to know what he means about wanting to settle down.
It is a bit early to ask him if being in a relationship for him, means having an open relationship( being sexual with other partners... (read in full...)
Do I have any reason to worry about my bi-curious boyfriend and his gay friend?
Q. My bf has always said he is bi-curious but has never done anythng about it. Now he is going out for drinks with a male friend who is gay. They text each other and always put x (kisses) at the end of texts. He says he loves me and I have nothing to ...
A. 9 November 2005: You should ask him directly what is going on.
If you went out for dinner with another guy and were text messaging him with Xs, what would your boyfriend read into that?
Is he constantly going out with this guy, or is this a once in a while ... (read in full...)
After just a few months together, all my bf wants to do is talk about moving in together and getting married!
Q. What should I do when my boyfriend of three months is arleady making plans to get married and move in together? Every time we see each other I feel like that's all he wants to talk about, I've even caught him looking at wedding cakes magazines and ...
A. 9 November 2005: You need to find out if the marriage issue is a control issue. Is it about having you all to himself? Is he insecure about the way you feel about him? Does he think marriage proposal really equates love? Can he demonstrate love or only talk about it ... (read in full...)
My partner seems to think that just going to work is enough of a contribution to his family...
Q. My relationship is in serious need of repair but I just can't seem to find any way of beginning. My partner is more attracted to the computer than me. I am full time mum and housewife. My partner behaves like a teenager, believes he shouldn't have ...
A. 4 November 2005: I would say: throw the computer out of the window! But that's just a joke!
I have a friend who divorced her husband because of the same problem you are facing.She said that the computer was his mistress! The worse thing was that he taught h... (read in full...)
Things went great until we had sex. Now he's uneasy and anxious...
Q. He is a new neighbour, the nicest and most genuine man I have met in a long while. I know he recently split up with someone and is not seeing anyone else. We get on really well and the chemistry seems to be mutual. I am quite smitten but try not to ...
A. 4 November 2005: Just give him the cold shoulder. It is so pretentious of him to suggest that you want a relationship with him, when all you had was sex.(Unless you mentioned having a relationship or being serious about him before you got intimate)He is just feeding ... (read in full...)
Internet porn has become my partner's main sexual activity...
Q. I know my partner has been looking at internet porn a lot. He has been since he first had a computer. To start with, I thought it was just a novelty for him. but now, even though we are living together, he seems to prefer porn to me. He knows I ...
A. 4 November 2005: It's easy for men to become detached from real women when they have millions of 2 dimensional beauties seeming to want their sexual attention day in, day out.Porn is mostly about the male sexual gratification,and encourages men to have masturbatory ... (read in full...)
Don't love the father of my daughter. Do love my ex. What do I choose?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with a guy for almost 18 months now and we have a 4 month old baby daughter, the problem is I am still in love with my ex. We were together for about 16 months and I loved every minute of it, he was funny, kind, ...
A. 4 November 2005: It seems that you already know what you want.You are lucky that your ex is willing to take you and your baby.It's a very loving thing for him to want to take care of a baby who isn't his.It looks like he wants to do the right thing by you.As far as ... (read in full...)
Why is life seeming so pointless?
Q. Hi, I'm 12 and I think I am depressed. I just feel life is pointless at the moment. I did feel like this a couple of months ago but I started to get a bit better, but now I have started to think it again and I could almost cry every day. I do not ...
A. 4 November 2005: The teenage years are rocky ones, and I think a lot of people feel that way. Life can seem quite pointless if we look at the negative aspects, but there is a lot of magic to be found. Unfortunately, magic doesn't make the news, so you will have to ... (read in full...)
I'm going to visit my online bf in Spain. Should I finish it with him because of the distance?
Q. I've been in a relationship with this boy for just over two months. He's 4 years older than me and the biggest problem is that he lives in Spain. I know it seems stupid but I never felt like this about anyone before. It's really hurting my parents ...
A. 4 November 2005: Hi,
Long distance internet connections have this immediacy, this magic that allows us to forget about the distances and concentrate our feelings in a few words.They can be very damaging, because all you know of the person, is what they want you to b... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is almost perfect, except for hairy nipples...
Q. I have started dating a lovely girl. Perfect in almost every way except, she has quite hairy nipples. It's fine to say I should just ignore this little problem. However, how do I suggest that she might want to get rid of the hairs, without seeming ...
A. 1 November 2005: Small price to pay for a perfect g.friend! Bring your razor and ask her to shave a spot of your body,that she would rather see hair-free, then reciprocate on hers! Some women like men who shave their armpits...Some don't.Be prepared to be ... (read in full...)
He keeps pushing me away because he's not ready for a relationship, but we ARE in a relationship...
Q. I am in a relationship in which I met the guy in college, dated off and on for 8 years and then I moved away. 10 years later I returned to the same city and we have resumed our relationship. The problem now is that he has gone through a terrible ...
A. 1 November 2005: The drinking problem is the real issue. It takes a lot of patience to be able to deal with someone who puts alcohol before intimacy.Ask yourself if you are willing to support him emotionally while he finds solutions to end his problem.If he is not ... (read in full...)
I keep picturing my fairytale future, even though I know it won't happen...!
Q. I can't stop obsessing about the future. I'm twenty four and in a live-in relationship with a man the same age. Our relationship is very good; we've known each other for ten years and been together for three. This is the first time I've ever felt ...
A. 1 November 2005: It is so sad that you feel that way about the future,especially at such a young age!It is normal to daydream when the present is not very fulfilling.Everything that happens to us in real life begins with a thought.No one would achieve anything ... (read in full...)
No "I love you", even after 9 months. Is he scared?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 9 months now. I think I love him but I don't know if he feels the same way. Why hasn't he said I love you yet? Does he expect me to say it first or is he scared? He was previously in a long term rel...
A. 31 October 2005: Does he prove his love to you? Are his actions respectful and loving? Is he saying " I Love You " by the way he treats you? Then you are very lucky.Maybe he loves you but can't express it. You could write him a romantic note and leave it somewhere ... (read in full...)
I gave him lavish gifts when we were a couple. If he leaves, shouldn't he give them back?
Q. I am a 23 year old gay male. My best friend and I (since we were six) decided to become boy friends about 6 months ago after five years of relationships with others that never worked because we found we were looking for each other in our partners. ...
A. 31 October 2005: It seems that you have a very beautiful love story with this guy.If I were you,I wouldn't let money ruin the love you share or the frienship you once had.If your boyfriend is truly serious about being with you and getting back together with you, ... (read in full...)
Can't understand why I'm accused of coming on too strongly with girls...
Q. Cupid, I've never really had a problem meeting girls and gaining their interest. My problem is not getting to into them, after meeting them. I want to talk with them so I can learn about them. This goes both with the girls I've met in person a...
A. 31 October 2005: Gosh, I wish I met guys like U!
Well, all I can say, is that a majority of girls are so used to guys who never call,who play it distant, that when a guy starts sending out messages,they get all confused, they suspect him to be weird and need... (read in full...)
I'm 14 already and still have never had a boyfriend...
Q. Please help! I'm a 14 year old girl, brown hair, slightly attractive, nice figure, killer personality and yet I've never had a bf. I always fancy someone but I'm far too shy to ask them out and I won't let my mates ask them out for me. This is ...
A. 31 October 2005: I bet you that you will find a boyfriend easily! If you obsess about getting one all the time, it doesn't help much, because then,people will feel that you are kind of desperate to get a boyfriend.It's not good to be desperate.My advice is to rent ... (read in full...)
My husband has a double-life, another woman and another child!
Q. Hi, I am in the biggest dilemma of my life and need some help. I am 26, Indian, female. I had an arranged marriage 7 years ago when this really sweet guy from UK came to my house in UK and said he wants to marry me with his family. He seemed r...
A. 31 October 2005: First of all, I would like to say that I am really sorry for what you are going through. I am older than you and from a different cultural background,yet I know a bit about Indian culture so hopefully I will be able to help a bit about the whole ... (read in full...)
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